ShadesOfApril
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Hi whoever reads this. I just joined...I joined because I'm in a bad place. I am deeply hurt and was thinking that maybe I needed some support or new Christian friendships...I don't know, I'm really in a lot of pain.
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Hi whoever reads this. I just joined...I joined because I'm in a bad place. I am deeply hurt and was thinking that maybe I needed some support or new Christian friendships...I don't know, I'm really in a lot of pain.
Thank you very muchI will keep you in prayer April. Welcome to cf.net. I am sorry you are hurting.
I am... I'm trying to be ok. Im tryingFor His Glory is an administrator and would probably talk with you if you asked her.
Hang on to the Lord. He'll get you through.
I am... I'm trying to be ok. Im trying
Hi ShadesOfApril.Hi whoever reads this. I just joined...I joined because I'm in a bad place. I am deeply hurt and was thinking that maybe I needed some support or new Christian friendships...I don't know, I'm really in a lot of pain.
Welcome to this site.Hi whoever reads this. I just joined...I joined because I'm in a bad place. I am deeply hurt and was thinking that maybe I needed some support or new Christian friendships...I don't know, I'm really in a lot of pain.
New beginnings.Thank you.. what I'm trying to cope with is my family had been praying for about a year that I would meet a man, a specific type of man, and I did. They all rejoiced saying that God answered. For the past almost 3 years I was in a very loving, kind and sweet long distance relationship. He would talk to my family and friends and I met his sibling etc.. it was all just very, nice. I was finally thinking I had met a good person in this evil world. Then, a year and a half ago he lost his Aunt, the only mom he ever had, very tragically. I stayed by his side nonstop. This was the man who I had forever plans with. After he lost her I noticed slight changes in him and we decided it was grief. We had small disagreements. So minor, and he would blow them out of proportion and call himself not good enough, I assured him that he was more than good enough. He had a bad childhood. Then I lost my best friend. He passed away Sept. 30, a few months ago. I was also having deep problems with a family member and I got into a very sad place. I guess it was my turn to have loss and to be hurt. I shared these painful feelings with him and he was supportive, his regular wonderful self.. but then, when I became deeply heartbroken he twisted it and said that he was making me sad and it reminded him of him not being able to be save his Aunt and that if anything happened to me because of my pain that he couldn't handle it. He called himself a monster saying that a minor fight that we had hurt me, BUT IT DIDN'T. He wasn't thinking clearly at all. Then he said he couldn't handle hurting me and we shouldn't be together. That seeing me in pain was more than he could stand. I told him it wasn't him..i tried and tried. He said he will love me forever, apologized and vanished. I haven't heard from him since Nov 10. I saw him post online and he ignored me. I pleaded with him to speak to me. He ignored me like i didn't exist. Then i got angry, he ignored that. Then i apologized for getting angry and he ignored that. I sent him a Christmas gift and as you can guess, he ignored that. This ghosting/stonewalling/silent treatment is killing me. I have PTSD, he knows that and he did that to me. And right when I needed him most with my friend's death and now.......Christmas.
I feel worthless and like a failure. I gave him unconditional love and friendship and was the most caring girlfriend... and it still wasn't enough.
We are both 40-50 yrs old so I never expected this kind of behavior. Im lost and so depressed. He's acting like i never existed after being together every day for 3 years. Our 3rd anniversary is next month.
What is wrong with people.. i can't take anymore heartache in my life.
It's not easy wondering why he could leave me like that. The silent treatment, ignoring.. that's so cruel. That's the part that makes it all so disturbing. Did he have a breakdown, how could he possibly pretend to be so kind and considerate all of that time.. usually a narcissist can't do that for over 2 years. It's so confusing. It hurts so much. It messes with the mind and heart so much. The silent treatment is so wrong.New beginnings.
Perhaps this is your chance to meet the real Mr Right.
Perhaps it would be a good idea to stay away from him for a while and let him work out his grief while you do the same.
I agree.It's not easy wondering why he could leave me like that. The silent treatment, ignoring.. that's so cruel. That's the part that makes it all so disturbing. Did he have a breakdown, how could he possibly pretend to be so kind and considerate all of that time.. usually a narcissist can't do that for over 2 years. It's so confusing. It hurts so much. It messes with the mind and heart so much. The silent treatment is so wrong.
Yeah, the silent treatment is a tough one. It's also the quickest one to recover from and doesn't leave you spending a lot of time striving for something that may not exist. Give it some time but don't rely on it, ya know?The silent treatment is so wrong.
It's a normal reaction that i was very angry after about 13 plus days if being blatantly ignored right? I was so mad. I then apologized several times saying that it came from fear, shock, pain and confusion. I wish I hadn't gotten angry but my logical self says "who wouldn't have?" I just can't believe he could hurt me like this. I really can't believe this is happening.Consider hanging around here a while. Maybe pick up some new interests. There's some interesting discussions that are easy to get caught up in. It might give your emotions a vacation for a while as well.
He has a very large family but not many are close. He loved her so much and cared for her for a lot of his life. She was disabled. He had friends yes. He's a very likeable and loveable person. It's why me and my family are in shock. It's truly shocking. His family wouldn't know enough to reach out to me because the one sibling he is closest to will do whatever he says and she's very dysfunctional. A lot of hurt in the family.I agree.
Maybe his relationship with his aunt was more than just mom/son in some ways.
Apron strings/momma's boy?
Her departure hit him so hard he now doesn't know what to do.
Did he have other friends when you first met him?
What are they doing about his attitude?
Was his aunt the only person in his life?