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Interratial Relationships

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NuRelic

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I don't have a problem with it as long as the two people in question are happy and in love. My wife does not share my perspective on the subject. Our son is currently involved with an Asian girl and seems happy, she's very sweet, respestable and very out going. I thought my wife would have a problem with it but as it turns out she's fine with it. I know there's a big racial element to that but my question goest to the position you folks have with it. Are you open to it for yourself or you kids? If not, are you open to just certain races or none at all?

Just curious.

Nu
 
NuRelic said:
I don't have a problem with it as long as the two people in question are happy and in love. My wife does not share my perspective on the subject. Our son is currently involved with an Asian girl and seems happy, she's very sweet, respestable and very out going. I thought my wife would have a problem with it but as it turns out she's fine with it. I know there's a big racial element to that but my question goest to the position you folks have with it. Are you open to it for yourself or you kids? If not, are you open to just certain races or none at all?

Just curious.

Nu
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Open to it. I really have no idea what kind of objection people raise to interracial relationships today.

My bother - white - has been married to a Koran woman for forty years, has a wondeful wife, kids, and grands. Pok Sil has always been welcome as a member of our family from the moment we met her.
 
My baby son's girlfriend is white and I have a grandson by her. And she is not the only one in my family. I have had white girls in my life. I have always been for it, God created us to mix, the most beautiful children come from the mix that is nothing more than to humans coming together. Like I said before when the scientist cracked the human genome, they could not tell who was who, unless they saw who gave the sample. So what does that tell you ? I will tell you, we are all one.God does not make mistakes. He said multiply the earth not your skin is lighter so you go over there and you go over there and don't touch each other. Find that in the Bible please and show it to me. The word race was not really used until about the 1930's and 40's and then it was used to describe the Jews mostly by the Germans. That stupid word has separated us and made us think that we are different from each other but we are not. We all come from Adam and Eve, and Noah and his son's. So what does that make us ? I will tell you, brothers and sisters.
 
The colour of ones skin does not make for a good/bad marriage. The heart one has to their spouse matters. Sad that in some places interracial couples may have a harder time because of outside influences.
God first then spouse .


Open to it. I really have no idea what kind of objection people raise to interracial relationships today.
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Dumb ones Mark
 
'Race' is a de facto legal term. God made Adam and we are his progeny.
 
reba said:
The colour of ones skin does not make for a good/bad marriage. The heart one has to their spouse matters. Sad that in some places interracial couples may have a harder time because of outside influences.
God first then spouse .




Dumb ones Mark
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Chico,,your hands are black!
 
I`m in an interracial marriage and I don`t see the question from a Christian perspective as are we open to different races marrying but is it wise to get in an interracial relationship based on the cultural/social setting? Even in America we have subcultures in races or social groups but when you marry someone from a different country the culture gets even wider. I don`t think someone should walk into an interracial relationship blindly if they live in an environment where one has to ask if it is okay. That`s foolish. If one just foolishly thinks "we`re all God`s children so it doesn`t matter and everyone should accept us because of this", they may be in for a rude awakening. There are many other things to consider when marrying than just one`s immediate feelings of love.

I`ve been married for almost 17 years now and I plan on staying till death do us part so I definitely am not opposed to interracial/cultural marriages as long as both are Christians, but I would encourage a couple to make sure they understand any cultural differences that marriage and parenting might have. If some of their family members are opposed to the marriage I would encourage caution depending on how involved that family member(s) is/are in their life. And I would also encourage them to look at the environment where they would potentially raise their children. Is the environment accepting of biracial children? If it is not, they MUST consider the impact that would have on their children despite their own feelings of love for one another. After looking at these things and they decide they still want to marry they should discuss how to handle any of potential problems. After that, once you get married you honestly don`t look at each other as a race. You don`t wake up in the morning seeing a black/white/Asian face. You just see your spouse. Race becomes a non-issue in marriage if you have the other stuff squared away, but if you don`t square that other stuff away, it can become an issue just as anything can become an issue in an unhealthy marriage.
 
Why would I have a problem with it? Who someone chooses to marry has nothing to do with me. Who I marry has nothing to do with anyone else.
 
Only problem I see with it is the different backgrounds coming into the relationship. Make sure each understands the background. How is the family on both sides going to react? is both people ok with that. Some may react badly but if both are ok with dealing with that and avoiding the person that reacts badly no problem still. How is the area for that and how will that affect kids. If your willing to move later when you have kids to a more supporting area that's still not a problem. What are your beliefs and values are they the same? crazy as it may seem these cause more problems than any other including race. it's the root behind the " i think our kids should .... " then "I don't think our kids should ...." It's mainly because of different values.

Truth is if your in love not lust, you understand the problems ahead, your willing to deal with the problems ahead then there is no problem. If your not willing to deal with the problems ahead then you'll find problems arise and that can sometimes be more complex if the 2 is from different races. If your willing to deal with the problems ahead no matter how complex, there will be a good relationship.

race isn't an issue in the bible, it's culture. it's important to understand that race can complex the situation, but if you can both commit to the relationship, it won't matter.

shortly after civil wars times white and black couples made it and in culture things don't get any tougher than that. so it's not foolish to think interratial relationships can make it today.
 
There is no race except the human race. Do you all think that God is a respecter of persons. He created us to be with who ever we fell in love with, as long as they are not antagonistic to Him, God does not care.
 
Rinid said:
Only problem I see with it is the different backgrounds coming into the relationship. Make sure each understands the background. How is the family on both sides going to react? is both people ok with that. Some may react badly but if both are ok with dealing with that and avoiding the person that reacts badly no problem still. How is the area for that and how will that affect kids. If your willing to move later when you have kids to a more supporting area that's still not a problem. What are your beliefs and values are they the same? crazy as it may seem these cause more problems than any other including race. it's the root behind the " i think our kids should .... " then "I don't think our kids should ...." It's mainly because of different values.

Truth is if your in love not lust, you understand the problems ahead, your willing to deal with the problems ahead then there is no problem. If your not willing to deal with the problems ahead then you'll find problems arise and that can sometimes be more complex if the 2 is from different races. If your willing to deal with the problems ahead no matter how complex, there will be a good relationship.

race isn't an issue in the bible, it's culture. it's important to understand that race can complex the situation, but if you can both commit to the relationship, it won't matter.

shortly after civil wars times white and black couples made it and in culture things don't get any tougher than that. so it's not foolish to think interratial relationships can make it today.
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I completely agree with this.
 
So. Much. Agreement.

And thought I hate to say it... I can't be the cause of friction in this instance, as I completely agree with everyone else.

There is literally nothing wrong interracial marriages. If I found the love of my life had different skin than me I'd be totally fine with that... although I may have to bring my own food to the inlaws (depending on the culture).:D
 
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although I may have to bring my own food to the inlaws (depending on the culture).:D
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Wow, good points all around ... what's the opposite of striking a nerve? I think this thread may have done it. :yes

Nu
 
I live in South Arkansas. You usually see white women with black men. I have known about four couples like this. Christ was not involved and in every case the marriage broke apart due to infidelity, drugs/alcohol etc. I was involved with a black women about 20 years ago, and I asked a black man I worked with, as to why I had very rarely seen a white male and black women couple. I want repeat the answer, but it was very racist.
I have been married to a women of Chinese ancestry for almost 11 years. Her parents came over back around 1960. There is several large differences in cultures. Like the parents, who came from a very poor background, refuse to throw things away if it may have a possible use sometime in the future. My wife is also like this. There is very little Chinese food that I will eat. Like snails! Oh yes, her family always comes first!!! She and I have VERY large differences on honoring your parents. Since she is a nurse, she must go with most of them to the doctor.
Oh and I come from a redneck family who has been known to be predjudice. When I told some cousins who I was marrying, one said,"Well, she is white enough that you wont have any problems!" He wasn't talking about from my family either. There are elements of the klan in my county. My wife and I have been stared at a few times. My wife always seems to notice it first, and has to stop me from going over and asking if there is a problem with them. Bigger cities have more instances of interracial relationships, and seem to tolerate it better.
 
I live in the Germantown section of Philly, Germantown has the most black and white married couples in the city. But the Kingsington section of Philly has the largest mixture of Black and White's in the same neighborhoods living side by side, and they all stick together over there in Kingsington too, they look out for each other and they will kick your tale together too, if you mess with one of them, color does not seem to have a role over there. I like the closeness that I see between black, white and spanish in Kingsington Philadelphia.
 
Lewis W said:
I live in the Germantown section of Philly, Germantown has the most black and white married couples in the city. But the Kingsington section of Philly has the largest mixture of Black and White's in the same neighborhoods living side by side, and they all stick together over there in Kingsington too, they look out for each other and they will kick your tale together too, if you mess with one of them, color does not seem to have a role over there. I like the closeness that I see between black, white and spanish in Kingsington Philadelphia.
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I also like communities of people that stick together. More neighborhoods should like that, and more specifically more Christians should be like that.
 
Here there is no Greek or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all. - Col. 3:11
 
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