Lady Terra,
I hope that you have found something that has blessed you concerning your original question about finding a balance between Justice and Mercy. I found your question to be sincere and honest, and you ask such a great question because it doesn’t contend over the meaning of a verse in the scripture that we should debate it, but instead your question deals with the real life application of our walk in Faith. But reading through many of these posts, I feel somewhat saddened, because it seems more people are interested in debating the meaning of justice, what is mercy, what trumps what, or any other such thing; everyone thinks they need to share their knowledge of scripture, yet they offer little wisdom from the application of their own walk that you might grow by.
I must commend you on one thing; In one of your subsequent posts, you recognized in yourself that your sense of love for your fellow man is dwindling. If you read the other parts of this forum then you are probably aware that many people are consumed following politics or are watching for events in the world to fulfill some prophecy that they hold to so that they might believe. Yet we who believe are in this world, but we are not of this world, we are of the Spirit. By your question, I think you are watching for the things that truly matter in our walk of Faith in Christ.
My walk in Christ has made me more conscious of the battle that exists between the spirit and my flesh. I am aware of the weakness within my flesh, but that also allows me to accept the same weakness within all men. Many take the concept of forgiveness as an act that they must do in response to an apology. Many still struggle to forgive even after the apology is given. Some hold on to their resentment for many many years. I think we should aspire to do more than forgive out of an obligation to a commandment to forgive one another, but rather we should aspire to develop within ourselves a forgiving nature that shows forth the Mercy of the Lord.
The forgiving nature that I am talking about is one that accepts the weakness of not only my flesh, but the weakness inherent in all flesh. I have learned within my walk how certain people can get under my skin and cause me to react or get angry, cause me to harbor deep resentment that could consume me for days or weeks, and to act in ways that are contrary to my spirit. But the Spirit of the Lord showed me that I was allowing the other individual to gain control over my spirit by pressing against my flesh, and causing me to pick up and carry around that burden. It is not a burden that I desire to carry around myself, because I find it takes my thoughts away from Christ and tries to focus them back upon my flesh, but through Faith I have found that Christ has taken this burden from me as well, and he has created within me a forgiving nature. By understanding the weaknesses of my own flesh nature, I can have compassion upon the same weaknesses that exist in each of us. And as we grow in the Spirit of Christ, we learn how to hand that burden over to the Lord so that the actions of another have no room to take hold over your spirit.
Thinking about how the actions of another, whether intentional or unintentional, can press against my flesh so that it affects my spiritual walk, there is a scripture that comes to mind.
Eph 6:16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
Jesus spoke the words while He hung on the cross, and Stephen cried them forth as he was stoned to death: Forgive them Father, they know not what they do.