Wise words Mike.
I think I have seen such cases before, wanting reassurance that their sin is OK and it can be brushed under the carpet.
God does not want issues being brushed under the carpet, he wants us to confess our sins and submit to Him, our Creator.
If she's wanting answers that support her actions, I don't think a Christian environment is the place for her.
I would hate to think a "Christian" Environment would be a bad place for anyone. Scripture does cover this issue though, and I am guilty of not following it, but getting to the root of problems when I should not be getting to the root of the issue. Sometimes we just smile and let folks suffer and pray for them while they wallow in their mess before they can get help.
Pro_15:23 A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and
a word spoken in due season, how good is it!
Isa_50:4 The Lord GOD hath given me
the tongue of the learned, that
I should know how to speak a word in season to him that is weary: he wakeneth morning by morning,
he wakeneth mine ear to hear as the learned.
So we have A person. The Person is having issue. Paying bills, relationships, Job issues, sickness, so on. We see comparing scripture to their life, and by Hearing the Holy Spirit that the devil has a place in their life to Kill, Steal and Destroy.
Let's say it's a Job issue, so the first thing I ask them is what they think about their Co-workers? For the devil to have a place to effect the Job, they have to be sowing the wrong things and giving the devil a place. Most the time they are talking bad about other co-workers with other co-workers. Since Jesus said they have to be Judged the same, then they have to reap putting down other people they work with.
Now if they tell me they work with this idiot, and that idiot and they have to do their Job for them, it may not be time to correct them if it's a Word "
OUT OF SEASON"
In Season Word is the Right Word, by a learned person who is given what to speak exactly what a person will receive and hear. It will make perfect sense to them and wakes their ear up to understanding.
God has to of had been dealing with them on the same thing, and when you say it, they have that light bulb moment and get strength and help to change what they been doing wrong.
If we give them the
RIGHT WORD, "
OUT OF SEASON" they become offended. No help at all for them. They may fill fully justified in thinking some of their co-workers are complete nut cases, and should be fired. They are not ready to receive the Word that will change their own situation and cut the devil off.
2Ti_4:2 Preach the word;
be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke,
exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.
IN SEASON: You can reprove and rebuke. It will open their ear to understanding, something God put in their heart and you confirm it.
OUT OF SEASON: You exhort, encourage, with longsuffer toward them, being patient, praying for them that God open their eyes to what is going on, what the root of the problems are. You never want to break it down for them and offend them, as you shut YOU and GOD out from them listening to you in the future. Prayer will keep the going and safe enough until they can receive the real answers. Most people are not ready for the REAL answer though when you first talk with them. This is why we have to Hear the Holy Spirit when talking with people.
This should help you understand more on how to deal with people you meet in your own life. In Season, Out of Season. Either way, there is help for them if we don't screw it up.
Mike.