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me and my ex bf have a 4month old son together

He told me that he wanted time because we fight too much, we do fight but we have a son who is 4 months old, i still love my ex bf with all my heart, he keeps telling me that he doesnt know if we will ever be back together. Im not ready to leave him and go on, i feel very sad almost depressed that this is going on and now worst that we have a son, me and him have been together for almost 3 years and now he tells me this out of no where, im christian and hes not but i kneel down every day to pray for this situation i just cant accept the fact that my ex probably doesnt want me anymore and im tired of feeling sad and lost all the time
 
He told me that he wanted time because we fight too much, we do fight but we have a son who is 4 months old, i still love my ex bf with all my heart, he keeps telling me that he doesnt know if we will ever be back together. Im not ready to leave him and go on, i feel very sad almost depressed that this is going on and now worst that we have a son, me and him have been together for almost 3 years and now he tells me this out of no where, im christian and hes not but i kneel down every day to pray for this situation i just cant accept the fact that my ex probably doesnt want me anymore and im tired of feeling sad and lost all the time
Why did you two decide to have a baby when you weren't in a marriage relationship?
 
He told me that he wanted time because we fight too much, we do fight but we have a son who is 4 months old, i still love my ex bf with all my heart, he keeps telling me that he doesnt know if we will ever be back together. Im not ready to leave him and go on, i feel very sad almost depressed that this is going on and now worst that we have a son, me and him have been together for almost 3 years and now he tells me this out of no where, im christian and hes not but i kneel down every day to pray for this situation i just cant accept the fact that my ex probably doesnt want me anymore and im tired of feeling sad and lost all the time


Keep praying, Gabriela, God listens and works His will in our lives. But, you are a mother now, with a precious little one who depends on you. Your responsibility is to that little one, and mourning over the loss of your boy friend's love can keep you from being the mother your child needs. Pray for guidance and strength, but for the sake of your child take control of your emotions. You and your boyfriend have made a baby who is completely dependent, and now at least one of you has to grow up and care for that child.
 
Keep praying, Gabriela, God listens and works His will in our lives. But, you are a mother now, with a precious little one who depends on you. Your responsibility is to that little one, and mourning over the loss of your boy friend's love can keep you from being the mother your child needs. Pray for guidance and strength, but for the sake of your child take control of your emotions. You and your boyfriend have made a baby who is completely dependent, and now at least one of you has to grow up and care for that child.

ust want to know what to do and be able to heal my heart. I dont want to be feeling this anymore. I hope God really hears my prayers and heals my heart. And thanks that was good advice Mike i appreciate i
 
ust want to know what to do and be able to heal my heart. I dont want to be feeling this anymore. I hope God really hears my prayers and heals my heart. And thanks that was good advice Mike i appreciate i


Gabriela, I pray for everyone involved in your situation. Matters of the heart can be the most painful and difficult to work through. And, it's appropriate to grieve over the loss of a partner. But, I'm sure you already know and will remember, that the surest way to make your life meaningful is to concentrate much less on your own needs and much more on the needs of others. That little baby of yours is a precious gift from God and when you make him the center of your attention, you may find your other worries fading into less importance.

We all pray God's Holy Spirit will comfort you during this difficult time.
 
Yes my baby is the center of attention for me its for him that i work and soon will go to school to give him a good future. And seeing him smile makes me happy. Just when it comes to this matter, is when i get sad and lost and confused about what to do. But thankyou so much ! Please do pray for me and this situation
 
Yes my baby is the center of attention for me its for him that i work and soon will go to school to give him a good future. And seeing him smile makes me happy. Just when it comes to this matter, is when i get sad and lost and confused about what to do. But thankyou so much ! Please do pray for me and this situation
if he is not willing to be committed to marriage --time to move on we all make mistakes as a Christian you have the ADVOCATE in your corner if you have sincerely asked God to forgive ..its a done deal close the chapter with your B/F if he does not want to get married . don,t shut him out of the baby life as . he will need a dad but make sure he supports you and your son. 1 John 2:1 My little children, I am writing you these things so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father--Jesus Christ the Righteous One. keep praying for your B/F that he will do the right thing. i have seen this many times over the years. DO NOT GET MARRIED IF he is not 100% in it. it will only end in a bitter divorce . my guess 4 months after the Birth of your son plus the 9 months of pregnancy .there is a a good chance marriage is not the right thing. he has had over a year get in Church stay with Church keep praying and looking to Jesus the author and finisher of our faith . it will not be easy but you can do this through Christ. :amen:thumbsup by faith :bible:readbible
 
Dear Sister gabrielavale88, I will post the following excerpt from an article “Love Beckons” written by Ken Trujillo in a Grace and Glory periodical.
Pages 22-23 http://www.gracegod.com/grace_and_glory/2015/Apr-2015.pdf

“LEARN OF ME”
For whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth. . . Heb 12:6. This word “chasteneth” is Paideuo in the Greek Concordance and means to be instructed. “to cause one to learn.” We begin to learn more of His love and faithfulness as He chastens through trials and tests, through afflictions and adversities. This is not punishment as some might think. Always remember dear ones; Joseph’s training began by being hated, betrayed and cast into a pit before he became a ruler in Pharaoh’s palace. He did nothing wrong as he embraced God’s favor when he had a vision (revelation) of His High Calling! Chastisement seems to have this negative connotation throughout Christendom, the devil often using it to place guilt on one. What did I do to deserve this? Lord, where are You? Why me? Have you ever asked those questions or had those thoughts enter your mind? Joseph, our dear Old Testament brother, a man of like passions, must have entertained those thoughts as he was cast down by his own brethren, in that dark, cold and damp stony pit, left to die with no food or water? We may even to start to wonder what others might think of our maladies and at times even feel ashamed. What do you think? I know I have! His exceeding great and precious promise states: if ye endure chastening. God dealeth with you AS WITH SONS. Heb 12:7. If we would ENDURE is it paramount that we remain; not recede or flee. We must rather be held in place so that we do not become indifferent! This requires a CRYING OUT for His strength, and His peace, to enable us for that endurance. God was faithful to Joseph – He’ll be faithful TO YOU!”
Blessings in Christ Jesus. :wave2
 
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Dear Sister gabrielavale88, I will post the following excerpt from an article “Love Beckons” written by Ken Trujillo in a Grace and Glory periodical.
Pages 22-23 http://www.gracegod.com/grace_and_glory/2015/Apr-2015.pdf

“LEARN OF ME”
For whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth. . . Heb 12:6. This word “chasteneth” is Paideuo in the Greek Concordance and means to be instructed. “to cause one to learn.” We begin to learn more of His love and faithfulness as He chastens through trials and tests, through afflictions and adversities. This is not punishment as some might think. Always remember dear ones; Joseph’s training began by being hated, betrayed and cast into a pit before he became a ruler in Pharaoh’s palace. He did nothing wrong as he embraced God’s favor when he had a vision (revelation) of His High Calling! Chastisement seems to have this negative connotation throughout Christendom, the devil often using it to place guilt one one. What did I do to deserve this? Lord, where are You? Why me? Have you ever asked those questions or had those thoughts enter your mind? Joseph, our dear Old Testament brother, a man of like passions, must have entertained those thoughts as he was cast down by his own brethren, in that dark, cold and damp stony pit, left to die with no food or water? We may even to start to wonder what others might think of our maladies and at times even feel ashamed. What do you think? I know I have!His exceeding great and precious promise states: if ye endure chastening. God dealeth with you AS WITH SONS. Heb 12:7. If we would ENDURE is it paramount that we remain; not recede or flee. We must rather be held in place so that we do not become indifferent! This requires a CRYING OUT for His strength, and His peace, to enable us for that endurance. God was faithful to Joseph – He’ll be faithful TO YOU!”
Blessings in Christ Jesus. :wave2
:thumbsup:agreed:amen
 
I'm sorry to hear about your relationship problems.
I am going to start a little harshly - I think you rushed into the relationship with your endorphins flowing and didn't consider your actions, therefore you ended up being pregnant and having a baby.
Congratulations on the baby by the way.
OK, with that being said, do you recognise your mistakes and are prepared to move on?
Life is full of challenges and tests from God, thus we must continue appropriately. You've had a child and now you must commit to God and accept and confess your sins.
Stay strong in faith and prayer and God will show you what is right for you and not merely fleshy desires.

Concluding this, I hope you and your child live a long and full life.
 
I guess when where board we did up old post where the OP has long gone, not caring about the post they started.
 
Ah I see.
Thank you Brother Mike; without your insight, I may have thought the OP was ignoring me.

You will see that a lot on Forums. Someone has issues, and they post for help, but the bottom line is they should not be having kids with someone they are not married to. Sin has allowed and caused these issues, and no issues get fixed unless the person is willing to live for the Lord Jesus with right heart, and wanting to follow the Word.

People want their problems caused by sin to be fixed, so they can continue to sin without hindrance.

If you Read ERZ's post... They tell her to "MOVE ON" Serve God. Well she most likely read that and she don't like the answer. She wants to Shack back up with Boyfriend, and Boyfriend act the way she wants him to act.

So, She does not post again here, and looks for those who give her answers according to what she wants to hear.

You can't help anyone, who won't receive. Even the Lord can't help them, because they won't listen to you, they are not going to Listen to Him. God is not going to force someone to be blessed.

Mike.
 
You will see that a lot on Forums. Someone has issues, and they post for help, but the bottom line is they should not be having kids with someone they are not married to. Sin has allowed and caused these issues, and no issues get fixed unless the person is willing to live for the Lord Jesus with right heart, and wanting to follow the Word.

People want their problems caused by sin to be fixed, so they can continue to sin without hindrance.

If you Read ERZ's post... They tell her to "MOVE ON" Serve God. Well she most likely read that and she don't like the answer. She wants to Shack back up with Boyfriend, and Boyfriend act the way she wants him to act.

So, She does not post again here, and looks for those who give her answers according to what she wants to hear.

You can't help anyone, who won't receive. Even the Lord can't help them, because they won't listen to you, they are not going to Listen to Him. God is not going to force someone to be blessed.

Mike.
Wise words Mike.
I think I have seen such cases before, wanting reassurance that their sin is OK and it can be brushed under the carpet.
God does not want issues being brushed under the carpet, he wants us to confess our sins and submit to Him, our Creator.
If she's wanting answers that support her actions, I don't think a Christian environment is the place for her.
 
Wise words Mike.
I think I have seen such cases before, wanting reassurance that their sin is OK and it can be brushed under the carpet.
God does not want issues being brushed under the carpet, he wants us to confess our sins and submit to Him, our Creator.
If she's wanting answers that support her actions, I don't think a Christian environment is the place for her.

I would hate to think a "Christian" Environment would be a bad place for anyone. Scripture does cover this issue though, and I am guilty of not following it, but getting to the root of problems when I should not be getting to the root of the issue. Sometimes we just smile and let folks suffer and pray for them while they wallow in their mess before they can get help.

Pro_15:23 A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it!

Isa_50:4 The Lord GOD hath given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him that is weary: he wakeneth morning by morning, he wakeneth mine ear to hear as the learned.

So we have A person. The Person is having issue. Paying bills, relationships, Job issues, sickness, so on. We see comparing scripture to their life, and by Hearing the Holy Spirit that the devil has a place in their life to Kill, Steal and Destroy.

Let's say it's a Job issue, so the first thing I ask them is what they think about their Co-workers? For the devil to have a place to effect the Job, they have to be sowing the wrong things and giving the devil a place. Most the time they are talking bad about other co-workers with other co-workers. Since Jesus said they have to be Judged the same, then they have to reap putting down other people they work with.

Now if they tell me they work with this idiot, and that idiot and they have to do their Job for them, it may not be time to correct them if it's a Word "OUT OF SEASON"

In Season Word is the Right Word, by a learned person who is given what to speak exactly what a person will receive and hear. It will make perfect sense to them and wakes their ear up to understanding.

God has to of had been dealing with them on the same thing, and when you say it, they have that light bulb moment and get strength and help to change what they been doing wrong.

If we give them the RIGHT WORD, "OUT OF SEASON" they become offended. No help at all for them. They may fill fully justified in thinking some of their co-workers are complete nut cases, and should be fired. They are not ready to receive the Word that will change their own situation and cut the devil off.

2Ti_4:2 Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.

IN SEASON: You can reprove and rebuke. It will open their ear to understanding, something God put in their heart and you confirm it.

OUT OF SEASON: You exhort, encourage, with longsuffer toward them, being patient, praying for them that God open their eyes to what is going on, what the root of the problems are. You never want to break it down for them and offend them, as you shut YOU and GOD out from them listening to you in the future. Prayer will keep the going and safe enough until they can receive the real answers. Most people are not ready for the REAL answer though when you first talk with them. This is why we have to Hear the Holy Spirit when talking with people.

This should help you understand more on how to deal with people you meet in your own life. In Season, Out of Season. Either way, there is help for them if we don't screw it up.

Mike.
 
He told me that he wanted time because we fight too much, we do fight but we have a son who is 4 months old, i still love my ex bf with all my heart, he keeps telling me that he doesnt know if we will ever be back together. Im not ready to leave him and go on, i feel very sad almost depressed that this is going on and now worst that we have a son, me and him have been together for almost 3 years and now he tells me this out of no where, im christian and hes not but i kneel down every day to pray for this situation i just cant accept the fact that my ex probably doesnt want me anymore and im tired of feeling sad and lost all the time
Your conscience knows what to do.
 
He told me that he wanted time because we fight too much, we do fight but we have a son who is 4 months old, i still love my ex bf with all my heart, he keeps telling me that he doesnt know if we will ever be back together. Im not ready to leave him and go on, i feel very sad almost depressed that this is going on and now worst that we have a son, me and him have been together for almost 3 years and now he tells me this out of no where, im christian and hes not but i kneel down every day to pray for this situation i just cant accept the fact that my ex probably doesnt want me anymore and im tired of feeling sad and lost all the time
It sounds like he found someone else
 
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