Pornography and marriage

[hagee_falwell]

Is it okay for a married couple to look at pornography together as a way to enhance their sex-lives?

 

[jasoncran]

Is it okay for a married couple to look at pornography together as a way to enhance their sex-lives?

no, as one or the other will think of the sexier person they just watched.

 

[hagee_falwell]

Yeah, but someone doesn't have to be naked for you to notice them and think they're sexy. I don't think it's possible that out of the billions of other women & men on the planet that you'll never meet someone who you think is sexier than your spouse. The love you have for you're spouse is supposed to be more than just a physical, sexual attraction.

 

[jasoncran]

Yeah, but someone doesn't have to be naked for you to notice them and think they're sexy. I don't think it's possible that out of the billions of other women & men on the planet that you'll never meet someone who you think is sexier than your spouse. The love you have for you're spouse is supposed to be more than just a physical, sexual attraction.

ever been addicted to porn? why is that you need to spice your sex life then if you love your wife that much?

you will leave your wife for that so called other woman as she or he(if your wife gets hooked) is a fantasy and no person can beat a fanstasy.

in porn the women are always willing, the men last forever, and the woman never have any signs of age(depending which type of sick porn you like to get into, i know and have seen the mothers that want a teen lover types) you know the word for that as i cant say it here.

 

[l'Chante]

I used this image to explain something to a teenager about smoking marijuana. I think you might be able to benifit from this as well.

If Jesus was to stand right in front of you - would you offer Him marijuana? If not, then it is wrong.

So, if Jesus came to live in your house for a week, would you invite Him with you to go and choose some pornographic material to spice up your sex life?

 

[Caroline H]

Is it okay for a married couple to look at pornography together as a way to enhance their sex-lives?

If Jesus taught that to even look at a person with lust is the same thing as committing adultery, then watching porn with your wife is the same thing as inviting another couple into your marriage bed. It is adultery, and by saying to each other that you need help from other people to spice up your sex life, you cheapen each other and take the focus off of each other. If sex is not about your spouse and you, then it is fornication

 

[hagee_falwell]

I used this image to explain something to a teenager about smoking marijuana. I think you might be able to benifit from this as well.

If Jesus was to stand right in front of you - would you offer Him marijuana? If not, then it is wrong.

So, if Jesus came to live in your house for a week, would you invite Him with you to go and choose some pornographic material to spice up your sex life?

Well, no. But there are plenty of things I wouldn't do in front of Jesus. I wouldn't be sexual with my wife in front of Jesus. Not because it's wrong to be sexual with my wife, but because things such as sexual intimacy have their time and place. It would be a matter of propriety.

 

[l'Chante]

Fair enough. Point taken. ;)

But I believe that you know that it is wrong. Just that fact that you posed the question tells me that something in the back of your head tells you that it just isn't right, and that's why you asked.

Pornography promotes everything that is wrong; premarital sex, multiple partners and lesbian and homosexual sexual acts. (Sometimes it goes as far as sadomasochism, beastiality and child pornography.) The 'actors' get paid and the Bible speaks out very strongly against prostitutes. By renting this material, you are enriching all the wrong people for all the wrong reasons.

If you really thought that your wife was the sexiest woman on the planet then you don't have to watch material of this nature, right?

 

[jasoncran]

porn programs you slowly to see that otherwise. then again so does a lot of other things in culture.

 

[mstrohm]

Porn addiction is always sad - as is any addiction. If one is serious in getting help they should set up accountability with someone they trust. And the use of a very good filter is always a must. You can check out filters at my cybersafetyseminar.com site.

 

[Shimei]

Asking the question reveals the heart's desire. If our heart is pure then we would be fleeing porn etc. i have fought that battle for many years (i'm over 60), ever since i found one of my dad's mags. Over the years i would have years when i was free and then i would get hit again and have to struggle with it. I finally got to the point where i was tired of the constant struggle and asked the Father what is the root of this. He then took me through a year of digging out the very roots in my heart. Thank God He has purified my heart and i am free to walk away from it once and for all.

 

[Strangelove]

If Jesus taught that to even look at a person with lust is the same thing as committing adultery, then watching porn with your wife is the same thing as inviting another couple into your marriage bed. It is adultery, and by saying to each other that you need help from other people to spice up your sex life, you cheapen each other and take the focus off of each other. If sex is not about your spouse and you, then it is fornication

I think watching porn is wrong but not because of Matt 5:28.

It's wrong because you are supporting a sexually immoral practice and industry and allowing sexual immorality into you're home and Christian life....basically legitamising it.

 

[Caroline H]

That too :yes

 

[jasoncran]

being guilty of this sin. i can assure that any husband who watches worn it will take him where he didnt intend to go. i wanted porn over the real thing!

fantasy vs reality.

reality is that the spouse gets older doesnt look as Good as she used to.

fantasy the porn star you like to watch in those videos never tires. always is willing and never ages.

and is on demand. just a click of the button away. doesnt complain that you cheat on her and no demands etc. but the kicker is theres no real relationship! so you either date and try them positions with on the spouse. and the more you do them or watch them porn the more you want that high. thus you dig dipper into sin such as orgies etc.

whereas the 'real" relationship you want to please the wife, you want to be with her cause you love her. is that not what the lord meant with marriage? its about the other not you!

 

[jasoncran]

the posters here must be over 18 and a christian also married and or have kids.

any following posts will be deleted unless conditions are met

 

[Danus]

Is it okay for a married couple to look at pornography together as a way to enhance their sex-lives?

You will not be enhancing your sex lives. It may seem like that, but you won't. What you will do is trade intimacy for the feelings of cheap lust.

If you want to enhance your sex life as a married couple, I would suggest something called "Romance". This used to be practiced back in the day, and still is by couples who have a successful marriage and sex life.

Now I gotta warn you up front, romance is work. It's not near as easy as popping in an x rated DVD or whatever. It starts with getting to know your partner, what they like. Setting a time and a mood...that sort of thing. You have to get creative. You have to tailor it all to the individual.

The pay off is something called intimacy. Something shared by the couple that includes no one else. Something that requires the full attention of one to the other. Something remembered. Something shared. Something revered as valuable. That's what a correct sex life is for a married couple....try it.

 

[jnr2]

Everything is allowed in Christ, but some things are not wise or good for you. POrnography may not be healthy for you. Ask yourself why you can't first try watching a PG rated movie on TV; or why lingerie does not work. Have you tried those things. What about an appropriate, but really good looking dress and your husband dressed up for a dinner in a dimly lit restaurant.

Most pornography is rather vile and certainly not of God. I have obviously done things others don't approve of on this site, so I can't say "don't do it," but you should prayerfully explore other answers first.

 

[Alabaster]

Is it okay for a married couple to look at pornography together as a way to enhance their sex-lives?

No, it isn't. It is a false enhancement and bypasses love. If a couple needs enhancement in that area, they need to look at themselves regarding the problem, and get together and search out the difficulty. Love doesn't seek out counterfeit means for help in expression.

 

[handy]

Look at it this way...

What pornography exists that does not involve another person or people? Pictures? There are models and photographers. Movies? DVD's? Actors, Directors, Producers. Especially the actors and models...all these people promoting lust, and all in your marriage bed. How can this not be adultery?

 

[jasoncran]

Everything is allowed in Christ, but some things are not wise or good for you. POrnography may not be healthy for you. Ask yourself why you can't first try watching a PG rated movie on TV; or why lingerie does not work. Have you tried those things. What about an appropriate, but really good looking dress and your husband dressed up for a dinner in a dimly lit restaurant.

Most pornography is rather vile and certainly not of God. I have obviously done things others don't approve of on this site, so I can't say "don't do it," but you should prayerfully explore other answers first.

murder is allowed in christ? its sin and that's that.

what part of not thinking of another women or man in bed dont you get.

you are going to look and think of the other "perfect" body as they dont grow old, tire and always please their partner and last forever.

compared to the real world where the spouse grays, gains weight. the love life becomes boring. etc. theres more to marriage then sex,far more.