r my parents going to far?

[Solo]

[quote="Solo":f62d4][quote="kinggambits":f62d4][quote="Solo":f62d4][quote="kinggambits":f62d4][quote="Fuzzy":f62d4]My parents have been listening to my phone calls, reading my mail, sorting thro my stuff, and now they r trying to get into my chatrooms to watch what i type and ask questions about me. Is it just me or r they going to far? I understand their reasoning behind it but its getting annoying and cutting into my private life.
What should I do to get them to stop bugging me and doing that stuff. I've tried telling not to do that but they just get mad.
If im not allowed to know what our income is or even see who they got mail from and stuff like that, they shouldnt be allowed to do that stuff to me.

yes, you need to stand up to them, and demand that they allow you to live your own life and make your own desisions.

And when they kick you out of their house, and you get set up in your own house independently paying your own bills, you can listen to whoever is using your phone. Until then use THEIR phone respectfully.

your parents do not have the right to rule your life, at the very least, you should try to speak to them.

If you don't want your parents to rule your life, then move out, but remember what God thinks about the matter. I would take God's word over kinggambits word. He seems a little off in his biblical understanding.

Eph 6:1
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

Col 3:20
Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

doing something as extreme as moving out would not solve the problems you are having with your parents, and that is why you need to confront them on these issues.[/quote:f62d4]
The home is the parents home and they are the ones in charge of the home. If the children do not like the rules, then they should move somewhere where they can create their own rules. It won't take long before they realize how stupid they were to have left the safety and love of their parents home. I don't expect for you to understand because you are still too young to understand. Perhaps after you are older and have children, then you will realize the importance of obedience as a child.[/quote:f62d4]a child needs to have a say in what happens to them, at least letting the parents what they think[/quote:f62d4]
They do not own anything in the house unless the parents give them that latitude. They are bound to the dictates of their parents, like it or not. There is always the state foster system that they can run off to, if they do not like the rules that their parents set up.[/quote:f62d4]that's horrible, you act as though parents own their children, it is their life and they have the right to do what they want with it, parents cannot have dictation over every part of a childs life, if a child does not learn to function independently while they are younger, then they may have pproblems when they are older.[/quote:f62d4]
I have five sons, and each of my five sons would say that you are in total oblivion when it comes to reality. My sons have a very great life, but they recognize that their mother and I are the sole bosses of their lives until they grow up and get on there own, with help from mom and dad of course. They do not own the phones because they do not pay the bill. They do not own their bedroom, because they do not pay the mortgage. They do not own their vehicles because I bought their vehicles and I pay their insurance premiums while they are in school. When they graduate, they can then get their life in order to be on their own. They will still tell me that they love me, and they will still thank me for all of the help that I have been. They will never attack me or tell me that I was wrong in the way that I raised them. They all are saved and believers in the Lord Jesus Christ. They would look at your positions as you have posted on this forum, and they would shake their head wondering if you have ever come to believe that Jesus is Lord of your life.

 

[Guest]

[quote="kinggambits":64fce][quote="Solo":64fce][quote="kinggambits":64fce][quote="Solo":64fce][quote="kinggambits":64fce][quote="Fuzzy":64fce]My parents have been listening to my phone calls, reading my mail, sorting thro my stuff, and now they r trying to get into my chatrooms to watch what i type and ask questions about me. Is it just me or r they going to far? I understand their reasoning behind it but its getting annoying and cutting into my private life.
What should I do to get them to stop bugging me and doing that stuff. I've tried telling not to do that but they just get mad.
If im not allowed to know what our income is or even see who they got mail from and stuff like that, they shouldnt be allowed to do that stuff to me.

yes, you need to stand up to them, and demand that they allow you to live your own life and make your own desisions.

And when they kick you out of their house, and you get set up in your own house independently paying your own bills, you can listen to whoever is using your phone. Until then use THEIR phone respectfully.

your parents do not have the right to rule your life, at the very least, you should try to speak to them.

If you don't want your parents to rule your life, then move out, but remember what God thinks about the matter. I would take God's word over kinggambits word. He seems a little off in his biblical understanding.

Eph 6:1
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

Col 3:20
Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

doing something as extreme as moving out would not solve the problems you are having with your parents, and that is why you need to confront them on these issues.[/quote:64fce]
The home is the parents home and they are the ones in charge of the home. If the children do not like the rules, then they should move somewhere where they can create their own rules. It won't take long before they realize how stupid they were to have left the safety and love of their parents home. I don't expect for you to understand because you are still too young to understand. Perhaps after you are older and have children, then you will realize the importance of obedience as a child.[/quote:64fce]a child needs to have a say in what happens to them, at least letting the parents what they think[/quote:64fce]
They do not own anything in the house unless the parents give them that latitude. They are bound to the dictates of their parents, like it or not. There is always the state foster system that they can run off to, if they do not like the rules that their parents set up.[/quote:64fce]that's horrible, you act as though parents own their children, it is their life and they have the right to do what they want with it, parents cannot have dictation over every part of a childs life, if a child does not learn to function independently while they are younger, then they may have pproblems when they are older.[/quote:64fce]
I have five sons, and each of my five sons would say that you are in total oblivion when it comes to reality. My sons have a very great life, but they recognize that their mother and I are the sole bosses of their lives until they grow up and get on there own, with help from mom and dad of course. They do not own the phones because they do not pay the bill. They do not own their bedroom, because they do not pay the mortgage. They do not own their vehicles because I bought their vehicles and I pay their insurance premiums while they are in school. When they graduate, they can then get their life in order to be on their own. They will still tell me that they love me, and they will still thank me for all of the help that I have been. They will never attack me or tell me that I was wrong in the way that I raised them. They all are saved and believers in the Lord Jesus Christ. They would look at your positions as you have posted on this forum, and they would shake their head wondering if you have ever come to believe that Jesus is Lord of your life.[/quote:64fce] my overall point, is that a parent does not own the child, they can think for themselfs, if the child does not agree with the parant, then they should let them know, the parent might not agree with what they say or allow it, but the parent does need to be aware of what that child thinks, and should take their fealingings and thoughts into consideration when raising them.

by the way, do you like the angel face? I think it's really cool :angel: :angel: :angel:

 

[Solo]

The bottom line is that a parent controls the household and the children obey their parents. If the parents want to listen in on the phone, that is their choice. I don't because I trust my children, but I would if I didn't, and I have that right because it is my phone. The children live in my house and will abide by my rules. Thanks to God, I am a loving father and not a tyrant, but my children will be home when I say, they will go to bed when I say, they will clean their room when I say, they will obey or they will have less priviledges. When you have children, you will understand and will agree with me, mark my words.

 

[Guest]

The bottom line is that a parent controls the household and the children obey their parents. If the parents want to listen in on the phone, that is their choice. I don't because I trust my children, but I would if I didn't, and I have that right because it is my phone. The children live in my house and will abide by my rules. Thanks to God, I am a loving father and not a tyrant, but my children will be home when I say, they will go to bed when I say, they will clean their room when I say, they will obey or they will have less priviledges. When you have children, you will understand and will agree with me, mark my words.

I'll accept that, I simply mean to say that a parent needs to keep a childs thoughts and feelings when deciding how to raise them.

 

[Christ's Lil' Headbanger]

My parents have been listening to my phone calls, reading my mail, sorting thro my stuff, and now they r trying to get into my chatrooms to watch what i type and ask questions about me. Is it just me or r they going to far? I understand their reasoning behind it but its getting annoying and cutting into my private life.
What should I do to get them to stop bugging me and doing that stuff. I've tried telling not to do that but they just get mad.
If im not allowed to know what our income is or even see who they got mail from and stuff like that, they shouldnt be allowed to do that stuff to me.

Whoa... My parents let me alone with everything computer-related, as an act of trust (and we have no parental controls). I can't even imagine having to have someone look over your shoulder at everything... Although one of my real-life friends was like that... Owing to the fact that his older bro got addicted to porn. But, to answer your question, I would say.. Yes. I would suggest that you basically do what everyone else says: Have a long serious talk about it, drop obvious hints (like: When you're in a chat room say "It's so annoying, my parents are watching over my shoulder...") and the phone thing is extreme (unless you're talking to someone of the opposite *gender* I guess). So... Good luck.