Sex after marriage

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Hello, I am struggling with sex only after marriage. Not that I want sex before, but with that what if my husband will not be attracted to me when he first see me naked. After you get married, it is a covenant between you, your husband, and God, so you can't just get divorced because you don't like his or her body, I suppose. I became a born again Christian just over a year ago, and before I had two relationships, but I was never married. Since my last relationship (around 5-6 years ago) I did not have any contact with any men other than at work. I always struggled with complexes about my body, I hated it, particularly some certain parts of my body, and I always had a problem with intimacy, so being with a man in a sexual way was always a problem, and now I just can't get my head around it as a Christian, because I will not have sex with a man before marriage, but what if I get married, and he doesn't like what he gets?? I mean my body. How Christians solve this issue? Do they show their fiancé their bodies just to make sure they like each other before they get married? My question may be silly and childish, but seriously it is a significant issue for me.

 

[Hidden In Him]

Hello, I am struggling with sex only after marriage. Not that I want sex before, but with that what if my husband will not be attracted to me when he first see me naked. After you get married, it is a covenant between you, your husband, and God, so you can't just get divorced because you don't like his or her body, I suppose. I became a born again Christian just over a year ago, and before I had two relationships, but I was never married. Since my last relationship (around 5-6 years ago) I did not have any contact with any men other than at work. I always struggled with complexes about my body, I hated it, particularly some certain parts of my body, and I always had a problem with intimacy, so being with a man in a sexual way was always a problem, and now I just can't get my head around it as a Christian, because I will not have sex with a man before marriage, but what if I get married, and he doesn't like what he gets?? I mean my body. How Christians solve this issue? Do they show their fiancé their bodies just to make sure they like each other before they get married? My question may be silly and childish, but seriously it is a significant issue for me.

Greetings and welcome to Christian forums.

Sounds like what you need are two things:

1. Confidence, and
2. Confirmation for both of you that God is calling you together.

Regarding the first I would simply say do all you can to be the best version of yourself you can be physically. Exercise and put forth some effort, so that at least you are proud of the way you look.

Regarding the second, you need to begin praying for supernatural confirmation from God that you should marry him, and for him that he should marry you. Don't leave things to chance. Seek the Lord.

Lastly I would simply say communicate what you are feeling when it comes to having problems with intimacy. If he is the right man for you then he will help you with your insecurities.

Hope that helps. Blessings in Christ and welcome once again.
Hidden

 

[Hopeful 2]

Hello, I am struggling with sex only after marriage. Not that I want sex before, but with that what if my husband will not be attracted to me when he first see me naked. After you get married, it is a covenant between you, your husband, and God, so you can't just get divorced because you don't like his or her body, I suppose. I became a born again Christian just over a year ago, and before I had two relationships, but I was never married. Since my last relationship (around 5-6 years ago) I did not have any contact with any men other than at work. I always struggled with complexes about my body, I hated it, particularly some certain parts of my body, and I always had a problem with intimacy, so being with a man in a sexual way was always a problem, and now I just can't get my head around it as a Christian, because I will not have sex with a man before marriage, but what if I get married, and he doesn't like what he gets?? I mean my body. How Christians solve this issue? Do they show their fiancé their bodies just to make sure they like each other before they get married? My question may be silly and childish, but seriously it is a significant issue for me.

Your fiancé is not buying a car.
He is in love with YOU.
The better he knows your mind, on every topic, the more his marriage choice will be cemented in his head.