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The Christian order of 'one-flesh'

Classik

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With the world system messed up and the Christian standard kind of trembling like a leaf hanging down a branch, and under the influence of a whirl wind wind - it seems the order is no longer important. Do it as you like!

Yet there are some, even outside the 'pitch' of Christianity who maintain the right order.


Which one is proper for Christianity or the proper order?

1. Love-Sex-Marraige

2. Sex-Marraige-Love

3. Love-Marraige-Sex

4. Marraige-Sex-Love

5. Sex-Love-Marraige

6. Marraige-Love-Sex

7. Love only

8. Marraige only

9. Sex only.
 
The list is however a question asked by one of our friends, and I have decided to get more views on it here
 
Classik said:
With the world system messed up and the Christian standard kind of trembling like a leaf hanging down a branch, and under the influence of a whirl wind wind - it seems the order is no longer important. Do it as you like!

Yet there are some, even outside the 'pitch' of Christianity who maintain the right order.


Which one is proper for Christianity or the proper order?

1. Love-Sex-Marraige

2. Sex-Marraige-Love

3. Love-Marraige-Sex

4. Marraige-Sex-Love

5. Sex-Love-Marraige

6. Marraige-Love-Sex

7. Love only

8. Marraige only

9. Sex only.
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Matthew 6:33 must be first!
 
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 NIV
 
Classik said:
With the world system messed up and the Christian standard kind of trembling like a leaf hanging down a branch, and under the influence of a whirl wind wind - it seems the order is no longer important. Do it as you like!

Yet there are some, even outside the 'pitch' of Christianity who maintain the right order.


Which one is proper for Christianity or the proper order?

1. Love-Sex-Marraige

2. Sex-Marraige-Love

3. Love-Marraige-Sex

4. Marraige-Sex-Love

5. Sex-Love-Marraige

6. Marraige-Love-Sex

7. Love only

8. Marraige only

9. Sex only.
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What is this? A question for the Remedial Christianity class?! :poke :lol

It could have two different answers based on your list. It could be #7, Love only, because love leads to marriage and sex. If the man (spiritual leader!) has any integrity he will see to it that they get married. Even if, what it amounts to is a prayer before God thanking Him and dedicating this marriage to Him. Here in Colorado Springs, all we do is buy a license and there is no obligation to solemnize the marriage but we can solemnize it our self. That's a good way to do it in my mind. Speak the vows before God and Wife, mean it...then go celebrate. :sohappy

That inclination should come natural. In case it doesn't and one needs a proper list, then use order #3


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Uncommon, but couples uninterested in sex (asexuals) do exist. So, it could just be love and marriage, theoretically.
 
I dont really know if they exist...havent witnessed any
 
That's what I was thinking. The last asexual I seen was riding a unicorn.
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lol
If it helps, I'm demisexual...which is similar to asexual. It basically means you're not interested in (ie, do not desire) sex until a close bond is formed. (Not the same thing as abstinence, no. Though a demisexual can believe in and practice abstinence, like I do.)
 
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I say Sex only.

Marriage reminds me of the hoops men jump through to get the sex.
You can love someone, or do things in love, but that is not based on sex.

So Sex is Number 1.

Let's get this straight. Without Sex, there would be nobody to love.

Without sex, there would be no unsaved folks, to save.

Without sex, there would be no Christians, and none of us would even be here discussing this thread.

Without sex, it would Be Adam and Eve........... Well, that would be all there would be.

Without sex, there would be nobody to marry.

Think about it... Sex is Number 1.

Mike.
 
Interesting. I suppose in a way you're right. God created it, and if humans didn't have any interest in it we wouldn't exist. Marriage also exists pretty much because of sex...especially if you go with the Biblical definition of marriage.

So far as practice, though...I personally desire a relationship before sex...and sex isn't the goal for me, either. For others it might be the goal, or one of the goals. Perhaps for the majority of people it would be, I don't know. I'm not the majority of people, I'm just me.
I don't see sex as number one. I see it as something I might enjoy should I ever be married, but I could live without it.
 
questdriven said:
Interesting. I suppose in a way you're right. God created it, and if humans didn't have any interest in it we wouldn't exist. Marriage also exists pretty much because of sex...especially if you go with the Biblical definition of marriage.

So far as practice, though...I personally desire a relationship before sex...and sex isn't the goal for me, either. For others it might be the goal, or one of the goals. Perhaps for the majority of people it would be, I don't know. I'm not the majority of people, I'm just me.
I don't see sex as number one. I see it as something I might enjoy should I ever be married, but I could live without it.
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I don't like paying for gas to put in my car. I don't even jump in my car thinking...... Ahhhh, I get to go to the gas station again and empty more of my money.

Let me tell you, without gas, you don't get to work, don't visit Grandma, and don't get to drive.

So you may desire going to the park, even more than driving there. However, even driving there takes gas.

Be blessed Questdriven!.

Mike.
 
I think for the vast majority of people, sexual attraction is a big part of who they marry. Not the only thing, of course. There's more to being attracted to someone than liking their body, and it definitely shouldn't be the only reason--not at all.
I do think ideally that love ought to come before marriage, and that sex (as an act) ought to come after marriage. It just makes sense.

That said, marriage in the Bible wasn't always treated like that. Sometimes people got married as part of a contract, there were arranged marriages, sometimes kings would practice polyamory (sp?) (multiple marriages) as part of treaties with other nations. I'm not saying the Bible advocates that, but on some of those issues it's rather silent. (The practice of concubines definitely goes against Biblical morals, though.)
 
6. Marriage.Love.Sex.

Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.
First and foremost you respect the decision that God has made for you.

1 John 4:16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him.
1 Corinthians 13:4-6 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
 
questdriven said:
I think for the vast majority of people, sexual attraction is a big part of who they marry. Not the only thing, of course. There's more to being attracted to someone than liking their body, and it definitely shouldn't be the only reason--not at all.
I do think ideally that love ought to come before marriage, and that sex (as an act) ought to come after marriage. It just makes sense.

That said, marriage in the Bible wasn't always treated like that. Sometimes people got married as part of a contract, there were arranged marriages, sometimes kings would practice polyamory (sp?) (multiple marriages) as part of treaties with other nations. I'm not saying the Bible advocates that, but on some of those issues it's rather silent. (The practice of concubines definitely goes against Biblical morals, though.)
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Polygamy. :)
 
A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; 1 Timothy 3:2 KJV
 
Classik said:
With the world system messed up and the Christian standard kind of trembling like a leaf hanging down a branch, and under the influence of a whirl wind wind - it seems the order is no longer important. Do it as you like!

Yet there are some, even outside the 'pitch' of Christianity who maintain the right order.


Which one is proper for Christianity or the proper order?

1. Love-Sex-Marraige

2. Sex-Marraige-Love

3. Love-Marraige-Sex

4. Marraige-Sex-Love

5. Sex-Love-Marraige

6. Marraige-Love-Sex

7. Love only

8. Marraige only

9. Sex only.
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1 and 3 are really the same.

If two people Love each other with true godly love, then they will be committed to each other.

When the have sex in this relationship, they are married in the eyes of God.

Sex is the blood covenant that joins two people as one soul.

When they have a child, then they have become one flesh.

The child is the one flesh that has been conceived by the two.


JLB
 
questdriven said:
Uncommon, but couples uninterested in sex (asexuals) do exist. So, it could just be love and marriage, theoretically.
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They have a name for that. It's been around for years. It's called friendship. :lol
Friends don't need to get married. Marriage is for committing to the responsibilities that come with heterosexual sexual intercourse.
 
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