The Christian order of 'one-flesh'

[Jethro Bodine]

Here in Colorado Springs, all we do is buy a license and there is no obligation to solemnize the marriage...

Isn't that true in all the states?

The important thing, IMO, is that a couple get the license. If you don't do that then I can see it being too easy to insist you're married one day and not the next.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

In a study, about 1% of the population says they have no interest at all.

Which I'm guessing is prolly not the 'special' person one hopes to meet.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

I don't see sex as number one. I see it as something I might enjoy should I ever be married, but I could live without it.

Make sure your future husband knows this.

 

[th1b.taylor]

With the world system messed up and the Christian standard kind of trembling like a leaf hanging down a branch, and under the influence of a whirl wind wind - it seems the order is no longer important. Do it as you like!

Yet there are some, even outside the 'pitch' of Christianity who maintain the right order.


Which one is proper for Christianity or the proper order?

1. Love-Sex-Marraige

2. Sex-Marraige-Love

3. Love-Marraige-Sex

4. Marraige-Sex-Love

5. Sex-Love-Marraige

6. Marraige-Love-Sex

7. Love only

8. Marraige only

9. Sex only.

Number 3. My Granddaughter, a beautiful teen and even more beautiful wife/lady married a brother Texas Aggie and his first statement to her was he had loved her from the moment he had visited our church as a youth. They had not seen one another since they were 14, nor had they spoken. They both went to Texas A&M and were reintroduced through a mutual friend. The next thing he told her he was going to marry her and because he was and he knew she was a good Christian of the Baptist following, they were not going to build their relationship on sex.

AS I said, she was one great looking teen but since their wedding day she has grown more and more beautiful and I say it is God's blessing on their proper union. Of course she believes that galute she married is getting better looking but my expertise does not run that way so that is up to her, my daughter and wife. They did marriage God's way, he is a product of a godly marriage that lasted and was blessed of God and she, because of he papaw and mamaw know divorce should never be an option and oh yeah, my daughter and Freddy were still married when Barb had to bury him.

When marriage is done God's way, marriage is fun, fruitful, and beautiful.

 

[evenifigoalone]

They have a name for that. It's been around for years. It's called friendship.
Friends don't need to get married. Marriage is for committing to the responsibilities that come with heterosexual sexual intercourse.

Well, it's not really talked about much, but there's also this thing called romantic attraction, and it's not necessarily the same as sexual attraction. Usually they do go together, but not necessarily.
I did see an article a while back about a couple that was happily married but had no sex life nor any interest in one. So it is possible, just not very likely.

Otherwise, I agree.

 

[Classik]

Are you sure about that?

I never thought about it that way. It seems to make a lot of sense

 

[Classik]

Well, it's not really talked about much, but there's also this thing called romantic attraction, and it's not necessarily the same as sexual attraction. Usually they do go together, but not necessarily.
I did see an article a while back about a couple that was happily married but had no sex life nor any interest in one. So it is possible, just not very likely.

Otherwise, I agree.

Life a chef that never gets to taste his stuff

 

[Jethro Bodine]

I never thought about it that way. It seems to make a lot of sense

16 Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, "THE TWO SHALL BECOME * ONE FLESH." (1 Corinthians 6:16 NASB capitals in original)

 

[th1b.taylor]

Well, it's not really talked about much, but there's also this thing called romantic attraction, and it's not necessarily the same as sexual attraction. Usually they do go together, but not necessarily.
I did see an article a while back about a couple that was happily married but had no sex life nor any interest in one. So it is possible, just not very likely.

Otherwise, I agree.

LOL! You're right of course! When it was time we enjoyed, my wife and I. My MS and her hormones took that away from both of us and we love one another more than we ever did. Love is not a product of sex but today, far to many believe it is and young ladies suffer the result while the low life male escapes.

 

[Edward]

Life a chef that never gets to taste his stuff

That's not so, lol. I'm pretty sure that the spiritual energy is the same.

 

[Michael74]

Which I'm guessing is prolly not the 'special' person one hopes to meet.

No one is required to get married. The Bible actually suggests that celibate singleness is the preferred state. People who want to marry tend to marry other people who want to be married. That's okay too.

 

[JLB]

Are you sure about that?

Is this the scripture you are planning to use to refute what I posted.

15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,”He says, “shall become one flesh.”[b]17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
1 Corinthians 6:15-17


JLB

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Is this the scripture you are planning to use to refute what I posted.

15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,”He says, “shall become one flesh.”[b]17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
1 Corinthians 6:15-17


JLB

Now what ever gave you that idea?

 

[Classik]

That's not so, lol. I'm pretty sure that the spiritual energy is the same.

Sorry for the typo at 'Life'. actually it is supposed to be: Like

Spiritual energy? lol

 

[Classik]

No one is required to get married. The Bible actually suggests that celibate singleness is the preferred state. People who want to marry tend to marry other people who want to be married. That's okay too.

Isnt marriage and oneness the primary reason God created Eve and gave her to the silently-suffering Adam?
Marriage is a command by God: Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave unto his wife - and they shall become one flesh.

 

[th1b.taylor]

Sorry for the typo at 'Life'. actually it is supposed to be: Like

Spiritual energy? lol

Actually, we directed to seek to understand, what you call, Spiritual Energy. Without an Otis Elevator and without a UH1 Helicopter, Jesus rose straight up into the clouds and Jesus told His followers to go where He was going and where He went. You don't suppose you can do that without Jeus, do you?

 

[Edward]

Sorry for the typo at 'Life'. actually it is supposed to be: Like

Spiritual energy? lol

Huh. I read it as life anyway brother, lol.

Yes, spiritual energy. Some call it love, others call it other things, but it all comes down to the same thing, love. Love is the most powerful force in the universe because God is love.

 

[th1b.taylor]

Isnt marriage and oneness the primary reason God created Eve and gave her to the silently-suffering Adam?
Marriage is a command by God: Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave unto his wife - and they shall become one flesh.

I would say you are close to having that one nailed. And I will discuss what I am about to pose to you but I will not debate this one more time, discuss only.

This biblically based truth disturbs, by far, most of the people in the world today because, by and large, almost all of us are guilty of ignoring or learning the truth too late. As you have mentioned, God/Jesus brought Eve to Adam and the coupled, nice word, huh, and they were one. If we go forward we should notice that Father Abraham, when he was Abram, was married to Sarai but they is no ceremony noted.

A little further and I believe Abraham arraigned the Marriage of his son, Isaac. When Abe's servant returned with Isaac's Bride, she went into the tent of Isaac's mother and then Isaac went into her, they were married. And when God gives us a model we should pay attention but when god says it twice He has, so as to speak, underlined it.

But, and that is a large but, if God says something or God gives us a model three times, we really had better pay attention and God records Jacob/Israel working seven years for the wife he had picked out but her sister, Leah, was placed into Jacob's bed on his wedding night and after they had coupled, they were married.

There lies the issue, Scriptural Wedding not some custom man dreamed up and placed a tax on but God's view of the institution He created for the good of all mankind. And some foolish man invented the Drive In Movie Theater and another the Back Seat in the Automobile. All those divorces and they did not even realize they sinned.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Huh. I read it as life anyway brother, lol.

Yes, spiritual energy. Some call it love, others call it other things, but it all comes down to the same thing, love. Love is the most powerful force in the universe because God is love.

Honestly, I'm convinced most human marriages are not based on the supernatural love of God. Marriage is basically a biological thing. I think that's one of the reasons it won't be a part of the kingdom. All those ridiculous biological longings and impulses won't be driving the bus anymore.

 

[Edward]

Honestly, I'm convinced most human marriages are not based on the supernatural love of God. Marriage is basically a biological thing. I think that's one of the reasons it won't be a part of the kingdom. All those ridiculous biological longings and impulses won't be driving the bus anymore.

Well yeah, lol. So you've been paying attention then. But most human marriages that are not based on the supernatural love of God...is because the carnal mind has come into it and messed it all up. But the spark which started it all (the attraction) was this supernatural "love" and everything good comes from God. It just becomes a twisted carnalized ideal which takes God out of the picture, to be replaced by the flesh body. The biological responses of the flesh are given the credit.