The huggy thing in church

[Edward]

Last time my pastor tried to hug me I shot him and a deaconess.

Good reflexes! :wink

 

[Kathi]

Eric Clapton "I Shot the Sheriff".

 

[Obadiah]

It is not plain rude.If someone has an illness such as OCD and they can not deal with someone touching them then you need to respect that.You are judging that person if you think they are being rude.You are not walking in their shoes.At least they are at Church.Do you think Jesus knows their issues?Yes,he does and he is merciful.It may be very difficult and embarrrassing for that person.

Maybe your right, I don't know. I just know I've never in my life run into a person that was so mentally ill that they couldn't handle a hand shake. Not even once. In fact. many of the mentally ill I have had contact with seemed to appreciate the fact that someone would extend a hand to them and show them respect and affection that too many people refuse to do for them. I'm simply not going to make a judgement against them that because the have a mental illness I will avoid extending a friendly gesture to them.

 

[Kathi]

Maybe your right, I don't know. I just know I've never in my life run into a person that was so mentally ill that they couldn't handle a hand shake. Not even once. In fact. many of the mentally ill I have had contact with seemed to appreciate the fact that someone would extend a hand to them and show them respect and affection that too many people refuse to do for them.

Sometime we just need to see outside the box Obadiah.We all have our issues that we are dealing with.We can not care what this world says.I know someone who can not face another human being.That is common with Autism.I think that those who can actually go to the grocery store and buy a carton of milk are blessed.Most people do not see it that way.

 

[agua.]

In our society that's just plain rude. I understand the reservations about hugging and kissing because that's not really a normal thing in our society even if it IS done in some circles. But a handshake IS the normal thing and rejecting it is simply rude. Even most people with severe mental illnesses can shake hands with no problem!

Shaking hands during flu season isn't always a good idea.

:D

 

[Kathi]

Shaking hands during flu season isn't always a good idea.

:biggrin

You are right.

 

[Obadiah]

Shaking hands during flu season isn't always a good idea.

:biggrin

Yeah, that's kinda an obvious exception to what I was talking about. But then I would hope most people would use some common sense. That's probably hoping for to much though, isn't it?

Of course, when that same guy in the picture then reaches into his wallet with that hand to take out a $20.00 bill to pay us for something, we don't hesitate to take that from him, do we?

 

[evenifigoalone]

I'm not a huggy person. Well, I am in my mind, but guess I'm too socially inhibited to actually feel entirely comfortable with it in reality.
In any case, I just roll with it in church. If people wanna hug, kay. If not, hand shake.

 

[Tony Hyman]

In the small farming community where I live, folks have known each other for many years.If there is no hugging and kissing then its usually a sign that the "love thy neighbor" sermon was not very effective for a particular week.Espesially if two well known friends ,mainly females dont greet each other in this customary fashion,even the "celeb mmuuhg" cheek to cheek between known foes "for that week"also tolerated.Its when the guys start greeting each other this way ,that I would consider calling in the Calvalry.But think , I understand what is meant here.The overdone plastic welcome , to reflect a shallow general happines in the congregation when in fact it is a false representation of Christs message and what being a joyful Christian really entails.

 

[agua.]

Yeah, that's kinda an obvious exception to what I was talking about. But then I would hope most people would use some common sense. That's probably hoping for to much though, isn't it?

Of course, when that same guy in the picture then reaches into his wallet with that hand to take out a $20.00 bill to pay us for something, we don't hesitate to take that from him, do we?

Yeah true. Some people in my parts ( not christians of course ) intentionally pass on germs etc so I tend to be cautious where my hands go after interhuman contact.

I spose after taking the blokes redback I'd be careful not to touch my face or eat by hand etc :D I remember driving my kids nuts in the supermarket telling them not to touch anything they weren't intending to buy :D ( My son used to remind me that someone else already had touched everything )

 

[hallowbonnie]

Seems like there's a huge move to people feeling like they should hug and kiss you in church. Do most people see this as a good thing? I have post traumatic stress disorder and can't cope with being touched by strangers. So I have a problem with it. How does everyone else feel?

I have ptsd also as well as major panic disorder and I dont like to be touched by anyone other than someone i feel very close to (very very) so I get you there.With my best friend geo and the hippy group i hang with I am very lovey but I feel very close and safe with them its a beautiful thing.I always sit on the back row where I feel safe when people come up I put out my hand for an obvious handshake this has worked well for me,most of the people there know about what Ive been through and my condition so its all good.

 

[Claudya]

Eric Clapton "I Shot the Sheriff".

"I shot the pastor - but I did not shoot the deaconess. Oh, wait, never mind, I did shoot the deaconess."

Shaking hands during flu season isn't always a good idea.

:biggrin

Acts 2:44
44 And all the believers met together in one place and shared everything they had.
So this doesn't say anything about not sharing micro organisms. So if you do not gratefully accept your brothers' and sisters' flu infection you should wonder whether you are still seriously walking with God.
:biggrin

 

[Obadiah]

"I shot the pastor - but I did not shoot the deaconess. Oh, wait, never mind, I did shoot the deaconess."


Acts 2:44
44 And all the believers met together in one place and shared everything they had.
So this doesn't say anything about not sharing micro organisms. So if you do not gratefully accept your brothers' and sisters' flu infection you should wonder whether you are still seriously walking with God.
:biggrin

Geeez, and I got called "judgmental" tonight!!!

 

[agua.]

I have ptsd also as well as major panic disorder and I dont like to be touched by anyone other than someone i feel very close to (very very) so I get you there.With my best friend geo and the hippy group i hang with I am very lovey but I feel very close and safe with them its a beautiful thing.I always sit on the back row where I feel safe when people come up I put out my hand for an obvious handshake this has worked well for me,most of the people there know about what Ive been through and my condition so its all good.

...and I dont like to be touched by anyone other than someone i feel very close to (very very)

It's impossible to touch someone you're not very very close to. I mean... you'd be touching :biggrin ( sorry couldn't resist )

Acts 2:44
44 And all the believers met together in one place and shared everything they had.
So this doesn't say anything about not sharing micro organisms. So if you do not gratefully accept your brothers' and sisters' flu infection you should wonder whether you are still seriously walking with God.
:biggrin

Yeah true.... here give us a hug.

 

[Edward]

Last time my pastor tried to hug me I shot him and a deaconess.

Did he draw the sword of the spirit on you?

 

[Roro1972]

Last time my pastor tried to hug me I shot him and a deaconess.

deaconess sounds like a female; i thought that was forbidden ?

 

[GrannyJ]

I have ptsd also as well as major panic disorder and I dont like to be touched by anyone other than someone i feel very close to (very very) so I get you there.With my best friend geo and the hippy group i hang with I am very lovey but I feel very close and safe with them its a beautiful thing.I always sit on the back row where I feel safe when people come up I put out my hand for an obvious handshake this has worked well for me,most of the people there know about what Ive been through and my condition so its all good.

Sorry you are going through this, Hallowbonnie, but it's good to find someone who understands where I'm coming from. I'll pray for you and would appreciate it if you pray for me!

 

[Edward]

I can't understand and wont pretend to be able to but I know the Lord understands so I'll pray for you both.

 

[GrannyJ]

Edward, you're a sweetie

 

[Edward]

Thank you sister