Well, I have been the one who has been beating the “fruits” drum and now you feel you have me with my own criteria. But are these studies really about the fruits of Mormonism or are we jumping to conclusions here? Lets look a little deeper.
I too, do not live in a bubble and really with so many of my family members still in the Church with many doing Temple work and some havuing gone on Missions, I can look at the "fruits' of the LDS Religion from many vantage points. Also live in a smaller town and am acquainted with many Mormons. Don't get me wrong--- there are many good "fruits" with people practicing the Mormon Religion. Certainly the emphasis on family your Church has is really an aspect I have incorporated in my own family as I am remarried with 4 new children [2 still in the house].
As to suffering losses of loved ones though, I really have noticed a profound difference in how the Mormon church teaches one to deal with it with maybe a lack of Christ's Peace that should surround someone if they believe in the True Christ of the Bible. Had an opportunity to speak from the Bible at the funerals of my mother and my oldest sister last year and those funerals were both in LDS wards,. I did thank both bishops for accommodating me and assured both of the bishops beforehand that I would not speak on anything Doctrinally confrontational. I could tell in the reactions from the "LDS faithful" on my referring to John 14:27 and my words on that verse----that it was almost foreign to them. In fact, I had a couple of discussions about "my interpretations" 'with Church members after the funeral of my mother, in particular. The same goes with my siblings in a fairly large family, where all but two of us are LDS and the differences in just dealing with losses go far beyond individual personalities.
As to the rest of your post that supposedly refutes the statistics I first quoted,-I still have to take an overall view and think that Utah [with a population that is predominantly Mormon] would have statistics more-or-less solidly bearing out the fact that Mormons are being "fed" properly and the evidence of the One True Church would be firmly unquestioned by those statistics, Noticed you put one study there that was done by BYU, which disputes that fact that this is all data by non-Mormon researchers