Much of the discussion lacks a history of the doctrine. The doctrine of irresistible grace actually has its foundations before the 17th century, but comes out of a 17th century debate in Dort. At Dort, the Remonstrants (Arminians) presented their 5 points. Of course the 5 points presented to counter the Remonstrants (Arminians) are what we know as TULIP. Many seek a middle ground, but no true middle ground exists. As one modifies TULIP, at best you often have a theology close to the Remonstrants, but normally it is far worse (closer to Pelagianism). Pelagianism is another issue, but I will not speak of that for now.
Concerning Irresistible Grace, it is the 4th point of the Remonstrance that is being responded to by the term Irresistible Grace. Let me quote from Wiki.....
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_artic ... monstrance
Article IV — That this grace of God is the beginning, continuance, and accomplishment of an good, even to this extent, that the regenerate man himself, without that prevenient or assisting; awakening, following, and co-operative grace, can neither think, will, nor do good, nor withstand any temptations to evil; so that all good deeds or movements that can be conceived must be ascribed to the grace of God in Christ. But, as respects the mode of the operation of this grace, it is not irresistible, inasmuch as it is written concerning many that they have resisted the Holy Ghost,—Acts vii, and elsewhere in many places.
* First of all, I notice few speaking of the "prevenient or assisting grace." To miss that would cause one to lean more toward Pelagianism. Even the original Arminians believed in regeneration before faith (not in time, but in a logical order). The free will spoken of by many in this thread so far does not seem to include that concept, but is closer to the Pelagian system in which free will is not restored by regeneration, but is something natural to the human race.
* The Remonstrants also spoke of cooperation with the grace of God above. Of course this would men that salvation is synergistic, and that it would not be
totally by grace. Part of salvation would then be human merit in the Remonstrance. I have complained in a recent thread that most non-Calvinists are really very close to Roman Catholic theology which is also synergistic and would deny that salvation is 100% the effort of God for man.
* The defense of the Remonstrants can be seen right in the text above. The use the text in Acts 7. I, as one who am not Armianian, would dispute that text. It speaks of the Jews resisting the HS. I dont think these were regenerate Jews, but unregenerate, and then of course they resisted the HS. All unregenerate people resist the HS, none can follow the promptings of the HS. (Romans 3:11; John 1:13; etc).
In conclusion, I wish many of the writers in this and other threads were Arminian. Many of you who see yourself as somewhere between Calvinism and Arminianism are actually worse then the historic Arminians. Your view of free will I see as a denial of total depravity, and original sin.
I have always enjoyed what John MacArther said about free will. He said "I have the free will to choose any path of sin I desire." I agree with that! I like that! We all loved our rebellion until God regenerates us and changes our free will so that we choose him. The one regenerated does not resist God, but wants God. He then loves the things of God. He chooses God.
Before I deny Irresistible Grace, I would have to see a verse that says that regeneration can be rejected by the will of man. Now of course, many non-Calvinists will not even know the difference between regeneration (A ministry of the HS in changing the nature of man) and salvation. Salvation includes justification (Romans & Galatians), imputation of righteousness (Romans 4), and the high priestly ministry of Christ in the atonement (book of Hebrews).