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Therefore shall a Man...

And the bible rule seems a little boring to some...usually when people are asked to zip up until after marriage.

Believe me a lot of bonding has already taken place :crying4
 
Side note: I always thought it was sexy and romantic when the girl kisses me first. That is quite the turn on. Remember that ladies. Guys love that, or maybe it's just me. lol.
 
I'm a pretty shy person most of the time, so I personally could not see myself approaching a guy first. xD
 
lol. When you see the right person...you'd definitely go for him. Maybe you can't control the force.?:D
 
urk said:
Side note: I always thought it was sexy and romantic when the girl kisses me first. That is quite the turn on. Remember that ladies. Guys love that, or maybe it's just me. lol.
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Hehe that's a good point. It's not just you, and not just guys. Most of us enjoy when the one we love shows us how much she/he wants us. Desire can be contagious. :lol

Also, I think it's awesome of you that you don't mind reversing some of the traditional gender roles. That's a trait I like in men. :thumbsup
 
Old thoughts:

I would be quite surprise if anybody (male or female) were to kiss me in a romantic way and for much the same reason. No, this is not a topic about that. Just saying it straight out that way in order to convey the amount of surprise that would happen in me should anybody do such a thing.

I can't say that it has never happened before. I've been kissed. Once, (and I don't mean it happened only once, but instead when it once happened) it went to the breaking point. A very beautiful woman who owned her own thriving travel agency was also a retired Playboy Bunny who had worked for a couple decades at the San Francisco Mansion. We had been dating (sharing time and going out to eat mostly) and it was my impression that she wanted to take our relationship 'to the next level'. Frankly, I like the kiss(es).

What I did not like was the presumption that was seen by me as an overstepping of boundaries. Where the line was drawn was right there at the boundary marker. At the place where it had been set in stone: this far and no further. The idea that offended was the thought that she had more say about what I would or would not do than I did. So what did I do? The words, "Good-bye" were said and I fled.
 
...that awkward moment when we suddenly meet along the road..and we remeber our own false words (not intednded tho): the mother/father of my unborn children, the sugar and honey in my tea...

Relationships suck. I like the kind..., a single move and s/he is the one.
 
Classik said:
At times I hate goodbyes.
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They're gonna hate me for this, but I've practiced saying good-bye. It's easy but it does need practice.
Find somebody that is nice enough but you know going in that it's not going anywhere.
Ask them out on a date or two. Give no implied promises. Not even a sly wink. Take care here. :eyebrow :naughty

Later explain that you are not interested in dating her again.

Do not allow the big drama to damage your resolve. Be prepared to assure her that there is NOTHING wrong with her.

Now some may come and say, "Ohhhh... you are such a big meanie! That poor girl, you got her hopes up," and all that.
But did I? No. If her "hopes" for a never ending relationship were there --they were not there by anything that I said or did. I'd argue that they were not rational.

So, what did I do? In point of fact, it is as I have said, and the reply was, "I don't like break-ups but at least you didn't hurt me."
 
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I actually met my wife online. We were friends for years before we became romantically involved, which is a good thing since she was 17 when I first met her(I'm 9 years older than she is). She was 20 when we got involved romantically, and 21 when we got married. I'm fairly sure she had her sights set on me but I am the one who made the first move.

My father tried to convince me that the the Bible said she should leave her family and move to Texas to be with me. I'm sure he didn't think I would actually read the Bible to see what it says, but I had been reading the Bible for years at that time.

My wife does push me on a pretty regular basis. There was a time during our marriage when I was pretty meek and not leading. It was almost the end of our marriage. The best years of our marriage is when I take the lead and establish boundaries. For me this is not an easy thing. A constant and delicate balancing act to empower and support my wife as well as establish boundaries and give direction for our family. I am no tyrant and have no desire to be one. My wife is a very strong woman with some amazing skills. To help her grow and find her own way as well as keep us unified is not an easy thing. Thank the Lord for His strength and guidance in that area.
 
Telrunya said:
I actually met my wife online. We were friends for years before we became romantically involved, which is a good thing since she was 17 when I first met her(I'm 9 years older than she is). She was 20 when we got involved romantically, and 21 when we got married. I'm fairly sure she had her sights set on me but I am the one who made the first move.

My father tried to convince me that the the Bible said she should leave her family and move to Texas to be with me. I'm sure he didn't think I would actually read the Bible to see what it says, but I had been reading the Bible for years at that time.

My wife does push me on a pretty regular basis. There was a time during our marriage when I was pretty meek and not leading. It was almost the end of our marriage. The best years of our marriage is when I take the lead and establish boundaries. For me this is not an easy thing. A constant and delicate balancing act to empower and support my wife as well as establish boundaries and give direction for our family. I am no tyrant and have no desire to be one. My wife is a very strong woman with some amazing skills. To help her grow and find her own way as well as keep us unified is not an easy thing. Thank the Lord for His strength and guidance in that area.
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Hi. Welcome to CF.net:wave :D
 
questdriven said:
I'm a pretty shy person most of the time, so I personally could not see myself approaching a guy first. xD
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questdriven:

Well, for two Christians, if they share similar interests and get talking to each other, then the matter of who originally spoke first will probably be lost in the mists of time, eventually...

Blessings.
 
Breakups good? Yes and No. Breakups equal to divorce? Sorta....however no!

What I hate telling people or hearing someone say is goodbye:sad. Goodbyes pain. But they can be for good. And this is when it is justified - when it's really for good.

But for me to give you 100% hope and assurance 'we'd be together forever' and suddenly change my mind all because I think there is something more attractive in someone else...or I just wasn't serious at all makes me totally cruel and wicked.

One thing we can't find is a perfect partner (for those of us who keep hunting for the better each day). :D
 
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