This Is Not Love

[for_his_glory]

I'm directing this to Christians as the world can not perceive that of the Holy Spirit as flesh is a hostile enemy against the Spirit. In the case of those Christians who thinks that the grass is greener on the other side will seek those greener pastures, but neglect that of faith that during times of trails, tribulations or as James put it temptations will never learn patience. Is love that of an outward appearance when we seek a mate or should we be looking for someone we are evenly yoked with. Looks are superficial and will pass away with age, but the heart will never change. What God joins together let no man put us under as God will put the right person in our path, but it's up to us to approach them. If you are looking for perfection in another then you will always be disappointed as none of us are perfect as we have our own flaws whether they be physical or emotional, we all have flaws.


James 1:
1 James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, to the twelve tribes which are scattered abroad, greeting.

2 My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;

3 Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.

4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.

5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.

6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.

7 For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.

8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.

 

[Pigeon]

I stuck with fiancee through liver disease and 4 operations for cancer. people told me I should have broken up with her, but I felt like i was doing the right thing. It was a hard couple of years.

When she got "better" , she left me for another man while I was at work. I came home to a note.

I really don't think love exists in the world any more. Everything is just a series of "hookups"

Wow that's rough. As a person who's not been in a relationship. That's just horrible. But you did what you thought was best and in my opinion that was the right thing to do. I'm sorry she walked out on you though. People can be so.....back stabbing.

 

[reba]

Talking about stats...

My sister married for 37 years then divorce.... She did not divorce him he divorced her... some what like Joe ex walking out

How does that type of divorce figure in the stats

 

[joethemechanic]

If you are looking for perfection in another then you will always be disappointed as none of us are perfect as we have our own flaws whether they be physical or emotional, we all have flaws.

But that is just the thing. They are all looking for "perfection". They feel they are entitled to it. Television has told them they deserve it.

Lets face it, to most people TV is God. They worship TV. TV guides all their decisions. TV shapes all their morality.


TV even tells them what a "perfect" mate is, and what they should look like.

 

[tandemcpl]

But that is just the thing. They are all looking for "perfection". They feel they are entitled to it. Television has told them they deserve it.

Lets face it, to most people TV is God. They worship TV. TV guides all their decisions. TV shapes all their morality.


TV even tells them what a "perfect" mate is, and what they should look like.

Joe,

Not all women are looking for perfection. My wife and I have been married for more than 31 years, and Lord knows, when she chose me she got nowhere near perfection.
I can’t tell you how much she means to me, and there is nothing that could make me forsake her.

I also think your generalization is untrue for the majority of women.

Be blessed

Toby

 

[joethemechanic]

Joe,

Not all women are looking for perfection. My wife and I have been married for more than 31 years, and Lord knows, when she chose me she got nowhere near perfection.
I can’t tell you how much she means to me, and there is nothing that could make me forsake her.

I also think your generalization is untrue for the majority of women.

Be blessed

Toby

Where did I say women?

 

[Mike]

It seems to me the divorce rate is often cited, but this is the percentage of marriages that end in divorce. People who divorce multiple times throw that number up. I wonder what percentage of Christians get married and then divorce.

I'm suspicious of the motives of these pollsters. In our church, I don't know what percentage of our members have gone through a divorce, but I feel safe in saying it's no where near 50 or even 40 percent.

And I agree with Jason. I see it as a God thing that I could possibly be married to Julie for over 21 years and still love her as much as I do. :yes

 

[Mike S]

Statistics would say you are wrong

I think you're wrong, joe, and darkhorse is right. "Plenty" does not have to mean 100%, or 90%. Yes, many people today do not take love seriously, nor marriage seriously, but that shouldn't be a reason for cynicism.

My experience is that love is taken seriously when the concern for others is greater than concern for self. My lovely bride and I have been married 38 years, and our love grows stronger every year...because she, and our children, are more important to me than I am to myself.