Trying too hard to fit in?

[Corrisa]

I am a giver in so many ways maybe to a fault. Lately I have been trying really hard to fit in/be accepted by a new group of girls. It seems that no matter what I do or say, how helpful am willing I am it is never enough. Meaning they seem to get together with out me. I know this sounds strange being I am 37 but for me I just want to be with some other moms that have the same passion as me, snowmobiling! I know I should Really give up but I cant seem too. A few have welcomed me in but in my heart I know it's because I dont drink, smoke or do drugs. My question is I can only change me what is your advice to not let this get me as often as it does.

 

[jasoncran]

I am a giver in so many ways maybe to a fault. Lately I have been trying really hard to fit in/be accepted by a new group of girls. It seems that no matter what I do or say, how helpful am willing I am it is never enough. Meaning they seem to get together with out me. I know this sounds strange being I am 37 but for me I just want to be with some other moms that have the same passion as me, snowmobiling! I know I should Really give up but I cant seem too. A few have welcomed me in but in my heart I know it's because I dont drink, smoke or do drugs. My question is I can only change me what is your advice to not let this get me as often as it does.

it is nice to have those that are in the same hobby as ourselves. sometimes that doesnt happen. few christians i know would met me at the mma gym and train with me.:yes

or go find something to debate about.

 

[reba]

How many Moms have a passion for snowmobiling?

I am sure you have heard the ol just be yourself line...but it is true.

You said you have been Christian all your life.... Bet you have prayed about a lot of goofy things,,,Praying for God to send you companionship is a good thing...

Check my profile... see my busted up quad... it is fixed now total cost was jsut under 800.00 Grand kids had a wreck in the snow... they are all fine ,,,, all the front end plastic and the metal framing for the radiator Patting myself on the back I put it back together!

You do your own repairs?

 

[Corrisa]

Lol. Yes I have been told that a time or two! The few I have made friends with are the least likely and I know for sure it is because God wanted me there!

And yes I work on my sled my self my dad is a mechanic so I was taught at a young age to fix things but I like it that way. I like to know how things work! I love to ride there are not many women in this sport but we are trying to show more women that it is not just a mans sport!
This is a pic of my baby all bought and paid for by me... Took a few hair cuts to buy it lol!

 

[reba]

NICE Never tried snowmobiling. Too old now the cold gets to grandmas...Nice machine... I ride the high desert. Gave up the dirt bike years ago


HEy i could use a perm and cut

 

[Mike]

Oh, my! I was afraid when I read the title, you'd be asking about not fitting in here!

But you still have this problem in your real world, which might be more significant that on line ;). Let me ask you this... Have you felt this way more or less your whole life? I ask because my wife, and the wives of some good friends have the hardest time in feeling included. I think my wife over thinks it. She starts with the what if's and propabablies. What if she can't? What if she doesn't want to? She's probably too busy? She probably has plans. I laugh with her about this. We love, so we can. I think there are more girls that feel like she does than guys.

I have no proplem asking a guy if he wants to check out a football game on TV. If I'm with him, I'll just ask. No thinking. If I'm not, I'll pick up the phone and call. My wife says she just has difficulty doing that. Idunno. We both have come to the conclusion that there's a girl thing to it. Funny cause my friend says his wife tells him the same thing. They both are not comfortable making the call, but they'd both like to get together.

If it's the situation where there's this established goup, and you feel like the outsider, maybe just ask one of them when you have a minute with her alone, or call her. Everyone knows how it feels to be the newbie to a group. I'm sure she'd understand.

 

[Corrisa]

Oh you are never too old! I don't like the cold but the heated handle bars are the best. I used to dirt bike lots rode my first one at 8 yrs I was very tall so it was a full size bike right from the start. I would love another one but one toy costs enough! It is a gear escape to be on top of the world and see how great God is.

 

[Corrisa]

Oh, my! I was afraid when I read the title, you'd be asking about not fitting in here!

But you still have this problem in your real world, which might be more significant that on line ;). Let me ask you this... Have you felt this way more or less your whole life? I ask because my wife, and the wives of some good friends have the hardest time in feeling included. I think my wife over thinks it. She starts with the what if's and propabablies. What if she can't? What if she doesn't want to? She's probably too busy? She probably has plans. I laugh with her about this. We love, so we can. I think there are more girls that feel like she does than guys.

I have no proplem asking a guy if he wants to check out a football game on TV. If I'm with him, I'll just ask. No thinking. If I'm not, I'll pick up the phone and call. My wife says she just has difficulty doing that. Idunno. We both have come to the conclusion that there's a girl thing to it. Funny cause my friend says his wife tells him the same thing. They both are not comfortable making the call, but they'd both like to get together.

If it's the situation where there's this established goup, and you feel like the outsider, maybe just ask one of them when you have a minute with her alone, or call her. Everyone knows how it feels to be the newbie to a group. I'm sure she'd understand.

Yes I have always felt this many times throughout my life. If it was one girl I could and have talked one on one to deal with the issues I have even asked if I had offended them. In the end I'm sure it is over thinking on my part too. I just feel I have so much to offer but in the end maybe that is why they may not want me around people think Christians will judge them and while some do I do not. In fact the one lady that befriended me was born a boy and has had sex change and it now a girl... Defiantly God's doing! Maybe some people don't want the light in there life even if it is never forced onto them.

 

[reba]

Look around the boards here. I haven't been here long. I can tell ya this is a christian forum but an open one. I have tried some that if you dont agree 100% with the Mods your gone. Here there are standards solid good ones but also freedom of points of view. Hope you enjoy your stay!

 

[reba]

Well dont be gone too long...

 

[theLords]

Yes I have always felt this many times throughout my life. If it was one girl I could and have talked one on one to deal with the issues I have even asked if I had offended them. In the end I'm sure it is over thinking on my part too. I just feel I have so much to offer but in the end maybe that is why they may not want me around people think Christians will judge them and while some do I do not. In fact the one lady that befriended me was born a boy and has had sex change and it now a girl... Defiantly God's doing! Maybe some people don't want the light in there life even if it is never forced onto them.

Girls can be so catty! I think that's why "Mean Girls" did so well in the box office. We could all relate since we've all had a Regina George in our lives.

Here's a thought, since you are the kind of mom that's bold enough to ride a snowmobile, are you bold enough to initiate you're own get together? You can first ask the 1 or 2 ladies who have already befriended you, and then ask them if they want to invite the other moms along. Even if the other moms decline, you still have 1 friend and if I remember my grade school math right, 1 is better than none!

I would keep praying for companionship. God is ever faithful, especially when we seek him in everything we do. Nothing is too tiny or miniscule for God. God cares about what you care about. Right now, this is an issue you really care about so He does too. And you don't have to give up anything! 30's is the new 20's.

 

[jasoncran]

Girls can be so catty! I think that's why "Mean Girls" did so well in the box office. We could all relate since we've all had a Regina George in our lives.

Here's a thought, since you are the kind of mom that's bold enough to ride a snowmobile, are you bold enough to initiate you're own get together? You can first ask the 1 or 2 ladies who have already befriended you, and then ask them if they want to invite the other moms along. Even if the other moms decline, you still have 1 friend and if I remember my grade school math right, 1 is better than none!

I would keep praying for companionship. God is ever faithful, especially when we seek him in everything we do. Nothing is too tiny or miniscule for God. God cares about what you care about. Right now, this is an issue you really care about so He does too. And you don't have to give up anything! 30's is the new 20's.

30's is the new 20's?? i am corrisa's age plus one year and i know body aint like it was when i was in my early 20. i am reminded every time i go the mma gym.

 

[Nacho]

Very nice sled!!!!

I have ridden many snowmobiles in my life, but I have always wanted to get my own but still haven't.