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What Is Marriage?

GodsGrace

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Is marriage something different in today's world?
How?
What IS marriage anyway?
What is a Christian marriage?



From a secular point of view...:

Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. Over the course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes. And no marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can you keep the spark alive?

From a Christian point of view...:

The Bible Defines Marriage as a Covenant
God sketched his original plan for marriage in Genesis 2:24 when one man (Adam) and one woman (Eve) united together to become one flesh:

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
(Genesis 2:24, ESV)

In Malachi 2:14, marriage is described as is a holy covenant before God. In the Jewish custom, God's people signed a written agreement at the time of the marriage to seal the covenant. The marriage ceremony, therefore, is meant to be a public demonstration of a couple's commitment to a covenant relationship.

It's not the "ceremony" that's important; it's the couple's covenant commitment before God and men.

(It's interesting to carefully consider the traditional Jewish wedding ceremony and the "Ketubah" or marriage contract, which is read in the original Aramaic language. The husband accepts certain marital responsibilities, such as the provision of food, shelter, and clothing for his wife, and promises to care for her emotional needs as well.

This contract is so important that the marriage ceremony is not complete until the groom signs it and presents it to the bride. This demonstrates that both husband and wife see marriage as more than just a physical and emotional union, but also as a moral and legal commitment.

The Ketubah is also signed by two witnesses and considered a legally binding agreement. It is forbidden for Jewish couples to live together without this document. For Jews, the marriage covenant symbolically represents the covenant between God and his people, Israel.)

For Christians, marriage goes beyond the earthly covenant also, as a divine picture of the relationship between Christ and his Bride, the Church. It is a spiritual representation of our relationship with God.

https://www.thoughtco.com/biblical-definition-of-marriage-701970
 
When I've asked my relatives who've been married a long time "How do you make it work?" They tell me "commitment".

You are committed to someone and something.
 
When I've asked my relatives who've been married a long time "How do you make it work?" They tell me "commitment".

You are committed to someone and something.
I'd have to agree.
It's when you get married and believe and trust that you'll be with that person forever.

Too many times today, couples think that they'll stay together until they're happy, and then they could always divorce.
I know this for sure from someone who does Pre-Cana marriage classes and many couples bring this up, much to the horror of the "catechist".

If you're already thinking of leaving each other when trouble arises.... what will happen when it does...!
 
Too many times today, couples think that they'll stay together until they're happy, and then they could always divorce.
I know this for sure from someone who does Pre-Cana marriage classes and many couples bring this up, much to the horror of the "catechist".
I can't relate. That just sounds like people being stupid.
 
Is marriage something different in today's world?
How?
What IS marriage anyway?
What is a Christian marriage?



From a secular point of view...:

Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce. Over the course of a relationship that can last as many as seven or eight decades, a lot happens. Personalities change, bodies age, and romantic love waxes and wanes. And no marriage is free of conflict. What enables a couple to endure is how they handle that conflict. So how do you manage the problems that inevitably arise? And how can you keep the spark alive?

From a Christian point of view...:

The Bible Defines Marriage as a Covenant
God sketched his original plan for marriage in Genesis 2:24 when one man (Adam) and one woman (Eve) united together to become one flesh:

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
(Genesis 2:24, ESV)

In Malachi 2:14, marriage is described as is a holy covenant before God. In the Jewish custom, God's people signed a written agreement at the time of the marriage to seal the covenant. The marriage ceremony, therefore, is meant to be a public demonstration of a couple's commitment to a covenant relationship.

It's not the "ceremony" that's important; it's the couple's covenant commitment before God and men.

(It's interesting to carefully consider the traditional Jewish wedding ceremony and the "Ketubah" or marriage contract, which is read in the original Aramaic language. The husband accepts certain marital responsibilities, such as the provision of food, shelter, and clothing for his wife, and promises to care for her emotional needs as well.

This contract is so important that the marriage ceremony is not complete until the groom signs it and presents it to the bride. This demonstrates that both husband and wife see marriage as more than just a physical and emotional union, but also as a moral and legal commitment.

The Ketubah is also signed by two witnesses and considered a legally binding agreement. It is forbidden for Jewish couples to live together without this document. For Jews, the marriage covenant symbolically represents the covenant between God and his people, Israel.)

For Christians, marriage goes beyond the earthly covenant also, as a divine picture of the relationship between Christ and his Bride, the Church. It is a spiritual representation of our relationship with God.

https://www.thoughtco.com/biblical-definition-of-marriage-701970
Are you instructing people on the process of marriage in a Christian world view, or how to have a loving marriage all round?
 
My marriage has had it's issues over the past 26 to 27 years but my wife and I have worked our way through them. That was the only issue with the three women I married before I converted to follow my LORD. In order they lasted 6 days, 9 years and 9 years. After was saved my Deeter and I went to the Sweethearts Banquet at Church and have been a couple ever since that day.

In the normal course of a man's life it is normal for 1 in 3 to come down with BPH and a side effect of that is ED. I had insurance to pay so I had a hydraulics installed for her benefit.

Then she cannot take any f the Estrogens and it finally caught up with her and our coupling became painful and we stopped that and My hydraulics had a blow out and the saline leaked out, into my body. The young doctor was shocked and tod me for the same fee he could replace the devices and I explained to him, exactly why I had it installed and he removed the mechanism and I love her intensely and she returns that love as she is caring for me as I am dying, as per the doctors, not God talking.

I have proven my love for her over the past 26 or 27 year as she has proven her love for me. Marriage is not ever s fifty/fifty situation, it is a 220% issue. I give to her 110% of everything, expecting no return and she loves me the same way and that is a Successful Christian Marriage.

And if Young people will learn to stop expecting a return for their efforts to please one another, they will be overcome with te joy the LORD, just as we are.
 
Are you instructing people on the process of marriage in a Christian world view, or how to have a loving marriage all round?
Hi WarZero

I'm not instructing!
Just having an interesting conversation.

Do you think religious couple's have any benefit over non religious couples?
Is commitment what keeps a marriage intact?

Is marriage a contract or a covenant with God as a witness?
Should non religious couple's get married in church?

It's your opinion...
 
Hi WarZero

I'm not instructing!
Just having an interesting conversation.

Do you think religious couple's have any benefit over non religious couples?
Is commitment what keeps a marriage intact?

Is marriage a contract or a covenant with God as a witness?
Should non religious couple's get married in church?

It's your opinion...
I don't have an opinion, but personally for myself I just have sex with the one I love. I don't care for marriage, or anything short of a genuine relationship, but that's just for me.
 
My marriage has had it's issues over the past 26 to 27 years but my wife and I have worked our way through them. That was the only issue with the three women I married before I converted to follow my LORD. In order they lasted 6 days, 9 years and 9 years. After was saved my Deeter and I went to the Sweethearts Banquet at Church and have been a couple ever since that day.

In the normal course of a man's life it is normal for 1 in 3 to come down with BPH and a side effect of that is ED. I had insurance to pay so I had a hydraulics installed for her benefit.

Then she cannot take any f the Estrogens and it finally caught up with her and our coupling became painful and we stopped that and My hydraulics had a blow out and the saline leaked out, into my body. The young doctor was shocked and tod me for the same fee he could replace the devices and I explained to him, exactly why I had it installed and he removed the mechanism and I love her intensely and she returns that love as she is caring for me as I am dying, as per the doctors, not God talking.

I have proven my love for her over the past 26 or 27 year as she has proven her love for me. Marriage is not ever s fifty/fifty situation, it is a 220% issue. I give to her 110% of everything, expecting no return and she loves me the same way and that is a Successful Christian Marriage.

And if Young people will learn to stop expecting a return for their efforts to please one another, they will be overcome with te joy the LORD, just as we are.
Lovely testimony Bill.
True love will overcome every, and all, problems.

I also like to say that marriage is not a 50/50 proposition. That won't work. It creates much stress in a couple. In my opinion.
I say it's 90/10 at any given moment.

And it pays off to have remained together in the later years of life.
My husband will never look old to me!
 
I don't have an opinion, but personally for myself I just have sex with the one I love. I don't care for marriage, or anything short of a genuine relationship, but that's just for me.
If this is not a personal question for you...
How many loves could you have in a lifetime?

No answer necessary...if you prefer.
 
I don't have an opinion, but personally for myself I just have sex with the one I love. I don't care for marriage, or anything short of a genuine relationship, but that's just for me.
Marriage is commitment.
If you only have sex with a person, it's not the one you love but the one you lust.
Therefore you never learn or experience true love.
That's a sad way to go through life.
The saying is true, "it is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all".
 
If this is not a personal question for you...
How many loves could you have in a lifetime?

No answer necessary...if you prefer.
As many as it takes to learn how to have a relationship, then I'm read for that one girl who'd stay with me forever.
 
Marriage is commitment.
If you only have sex with a person, it's not the one you love but the one you lust.
Therefore you never learn or experience true love.
That's a sad way to go through life.
The saying is true, "it is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all".
Thank you for your opinion.
 
As many as it takes to learn how to have a relationship, then I'm read for that one girl who'd stay with me forever.
LOL
So you're still learning, huh!

You know what they say...
When the right one comes along, you stop looking...

I do believe that we all yearn for a real soul mate...
 
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