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what would Biblical submission look like, in my situation?

gr8fulwoman

gr8fulwoman

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Thank you in advance for reading this.

I have been married almost 40 years, to a good Christian man. We also work together where he is "the boss" and I am "his assistant". We had a tenant move out of our office and now pay an exorbitant amount of rent all by ourselves. God has provided for this additional expense this year, what a blessing!
My husband is not doing anything to find someone new to rent the space. In my flesh I am very scared, and angry at him. I am willing to try to find someone myself but wonder if that goes against trusting God, and also usurping the head of my household.

Thoughts?
 
It is wonderful that this additional expense has already been taken care of by God.

Is your husband aware of what you are thinking and feeling about this situation?
 
You are one flesh.
Partners.
Not two separate beings.
You only "usurp" if you don't tell him your plans...
He might wish for some extra support in handling things...
My two cents...
 
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gr8fulwoman said:
Thank you in advance for reading this.

I have been married almost 40 years, to a good Christian man. We also work together where he is "the boss" and I am "his assistant". We had a tenant move out of our office and now pay an exorbitant amount of rent all by ourselves. God has provided for this additional expense this year, what a blessing!
My husband is not doing anything to find someone new to rent the space. In my flesh I am very scared, and angry at him. I am willing to try to find someone myself but wonder if that goes against trusting God, and also usurping the head of my household.

Thoughts?
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How did you find the tenant who moved on ?
 
I don't know, cook him his favorite dinner with a smile and when he asks ''whats the occasion'' tell him you're angry and tired of him sitting down on the tenant business and it was the lovingest way you could try to motivate him without showing your worry and anger .. Then grab him by the shirt and back him into a wall face to face laughing and say ''do it now buster'' you're the boss but I ain't scared of you :lol
 
brujaq said:
I don't know, cook him his favorite dinner with a smile and when he asks ''whats the occasion'' tell him you're angry and tired of him sitting down on the tenant business and it was the lovingest way you could try to motivate him without showing your worry and anger .. Then grab him by the shirt and back him into a wall face to face laughing and say ''do it now buster'' you're the boss but I ain't scared of you :lol
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:hysterical

You're a riot !
 
I've been furious with my wife and cooked her and not me a big T-bone steak instead of lashing out and she's pinned me to the bed when she was mad daring me to do something about it and got me laughing so hard I was helpless and couldn't get up if I wanted and I'm an ex heavy weight class wrestler :lol and I can pick her up with one hand, well used to could .:lol
 
The tenant was arranged over 20 years ago, found by the superintendent as he was looking for space in our building. Yes, God was so gracious this year. But who knows what this next year will bring. My husband does know how I feel about it. Thanks for your input so far, it helps!
 
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brujaq said:
I don't know, cook him his favorite dinner with a smile and when he asks ''whats the occasion'' tell him you're angry and tired of him sitting down on the tenant business and it was the lovingest way you could try to motivate him without showing your worry and anger .. Then grab him by the shirt and back him into a wall face to face laughing and say ''do it now buster'' you're the boss but I ain't scared of you :lol
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I like your style.
 
It's a business and should be kept at the shop and never brought home as I well know it does not make a happy home when both are part of the business. He knows he needs to find someone so pray and just trust in God that He will put the right person in his path. It might be in your husbands time so just let it rest there and don'y worry, but trust only.
 
if it was me i would approach him and say:
hey i was thinking about finding another tenant - i am willing to do all the work - you don't have to do anything - i would sure feel better knowing we had some extra income coming in - is that alright with you?

you might discover he was thinking the same thing too
 
Pro 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
Pro 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Pro 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Pro 31:13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
Pro 31:14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
Pro 31:15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
Pro 31:16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
Pro 31:17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
Pro 31:18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
Pro 31:19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
Pro 31:20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
Pro 31:21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Pro 31:22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Pro 31:23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
Pro 31:24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Pro 31:25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
Pro 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Pro 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Pro 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Pro 31:29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Pro 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Pro 31:31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
 
gr8fulwoman said:
Thank you in advance for reading this.

I have been married almost 40 years, to a good Christian man. We also work together where he is "the boss" and I am "his assistant". We had a tenant move out of our office and now pay an exorbitant amount of rent all by ourselves. God has provided for this additional expense this year, what a blessing!
My husband is not doing anything to find someone new to rent the space. In my flesh I am very scared, and angry at him. I am willing to try to find someone myself but wonder if that goes against trusting God, and also usurping the head of my household.

Thoughts?
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You're asking good questions. Since you admit that God has his hand in this, (He obviously knew that your tenant would move out) plus you are under your Husband's authority...it may indeed be usurping your Husband (or even God), if they have plans that you don't know about yet (especially God!). and you were to go making decisions and changes...? I'd be careful with it. You can't go by past experience too much anymore, the times, they are a changin'...You are under authority in this. Your (our) duty is to remain small, have faith in God, and obey Him. You have no idea what God is doing in your life. It has not entered into the heart of man...any of His ways. His thoughts are above our thoughts. Don't rock the boat. Watch what happens, and don't fear anything (That's the most often repeated phrase in the entire scriptures). Pray about it if you need to, discuss it if you must, but hold your place and trust in God. You can see Him helping and doing things for you... I guess this is one of those, if ya' gotta ask then you already now the answer situations, lol. Good luck, Sister.
 
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