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Women Who Won't Marry

Lewis

Lewis

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Why more women choose not to marry

Marriage isn't a good deal anymore
http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/15/opinion/schwartz-single-women/index.html?hpt=hp_t3

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If Jesus had come into my life before my husband and children, I would be 100% Jesus devoted of ALL my time. I guess God had other plans for me. :shrug
 
I am getting married next summer. But on another note, I think that women and men who don't get married because of their careers or don't want to be tied down are SELFISH INDIVIDUALS ' instead of having kids and raising them, it is all about themselves and their careers and later dying without leaving any children for the kingdom of God.
 
I don't think a woman's purpose in life is to have kids. Some simply don't want to have kids, or don't feel that they'd make good mothers. And there are other reasons they may not want to have children.

I'm not an argumentative person nor do I intend to judge, but speaking as a woman here. (No, I'm not saying I don't want kids. I'm not opposed to the idea, and who knows what will happen in the future. I may get married and have kids one day. Or I may not. I just feel that the freedom not to have children should be there.)
 
Congratulations, Lewis W , for your upcoming nuptials! Wonderful news!

Not all people should have children, regardless of their careers. Some are just not good with kids, or have health issues, or simply do not have the means to support his/herself - let alone a child. Parenthood is not something to be entered lightly.
 
Lewis W said:
I am getting married next summer. But on another note, I think that women and men who don't get married because of their careers or don't want to be tied down are SELFISH INDIVIDUALS ' instead of having kids and raising them, it is all about themselves and their careers and later dying without leaving any children for the kingdom of God.
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Do we really want people who aren't interested in parenting to take on the role of parent?

This is just me talking but I think we have enough unwanted children in this world. If people don't want a family, that's their business. Personally, with the conditions of the world as they are today, I wouldn't bring a child into this mess. And it's only gonna get worst.

I grieve for my children and grandchildren.
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AirDancer said:
Congratulations, Lewis W , for your upcoming nuptials! Wonderful news!

Not all people should have children, regardless of their careers. Some are just not good with kids, or have health issues, or simply do not have the means to support his/herself - let alone a child. Parenthood is not something to be entered lightly.
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Oh yes I know that some people should not have children, but there are many that should and just won't because they are selfish. In Biblical days you were supposed to get married unless there was something wrong with you, or God had something specific for you to do.
 
Gary said:
Do we really want people who aren't interested in parenting to take on the role of parent?

This is just me talking but I think we have enough unwanted children in this world. If people don't want a family, that's their business. Personally, with the conditions of the world as they are today, I wouldn't bring a child into this mess. And it's only gonna get worst.

I grieve for my children and grandchildren.
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Yes Gary I have seen to many unwanted or abused or half taken care of children. The world today is just bad.
 
I would examine the reason the command existed back then. For one, the population was much smaller than it is now. With thousands of babies born every day, I'm not so sure that slowing things down is a bad thing.

Besides, often it seems people don't realize how hard pregnancy can be on one's body. Not that I've ever experienced it (because I haven't), but I know a lot can go wrong, and it can even cause problems that persist after giving birth. Some may not want to go through with that. Have to say it makes me think twice.
 
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The way things are going....having kids costs a lot of money, takes a lot of time. People--male and female--who are particularly career-oriented might decide to skip over all that. I mean, if you're career-obsessed and looking to climb the ladder, a DINK-situation is ideal, anyway.
 
questdriven said:
I would examine the reason the command existed back then. For one, the population was much smaller than it is now. With thousands of babies born every day, I'm not so sure that slowing things down is a bad thing.

Besides, I don't people realize how hard pregnancy can be on one's body. Not that I've ever experienced it (because I haven't), but I know a lot can go wrong, and it can even cause problems that persist after giving birth. Some may not want to go through with that. Have to say it makes me think twice.
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But God designed the women's body to bare children, now there are exceptions some women just can't.
 
Fertility problems for both men and women have existed throughout the centuries. Of course, for the majority that time, the finger was pointed at women for the fertility problems. Fortunately, we live in a day and age where it is now known that fertility issues affect men and women alike.
 
Lewis W said:
But God designed the women's body to bare children, now there are exceptions some women just can't.
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Of course. That doesn't mean there aren't risks involved, or even that nothing major can go wrong even if you're healthy. I admit I haven't done in-depth research on what can go wrong (though pregnancy and birth is actually a very fascinating subject to me and one I've always enjoyed reading up on), but I've read enough to know that women may want to know what they are getting into first and whether they are willing to go through with it or not before deciding they want a kid.
 
Lewis W said:
I am getting married next summer. But on another note, I think that women and men who don't get married because of their careers or don't want to be tied down are SELFISH INDIVIDUALS ' instead of having kids and raising them, it is all about themselves and their careers and later dying without leaving any children for the kingdom of God.
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IF a person feels that way it is better to not marry and not have kids...
My greatest joys in life have come from my kids my greatest hurts in life have come from my kids...
 
Lewis W said:
Yes the way the world is today, you better plan every child that you want to have.
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True that. Especially considering my mom had an issue that appeared after her first pregnancy and got worse after her second--a blood clot in her leg. (She was hospitalized for it a couple times, has to take Coumadin, and has to get bloodwork done on a regular basis as a result.) She says they told her it may be inherited (my grandmother did have similar problems with her legs, I believe*) and that I may want to get tested for it. So if I did get that gene and if I were to ever had kids, I'd want to limit how many, for sure.

*Considerably worse than my mom's if I recall, but she had four pregnancies while my mom only had two
 
Lewis W said:
Oh yes I know that some people should not have children, but there are many that should and just won't because they are selfish. In Biblical days you were supposed to get married unless there was something wrong with you, or God had something specific for you to do.
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I think Paul kind of disagrees with this...

"To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am." (1 Cor 7:8 ESV)

Of course we know from the context that he's not saying God commands everyone to stay single, not by any means. But he is saying this to everyone who is single, not just a few that are chosen for special service to Him. He certainly is saying that it's not only OK to stay single, but he even considers it preferable to not marry. That's far from being selfish.
 
Where's the faith in God in this thread? Having kids isn't about money, or health, or the state of the world. Those things are all in Gods hands. If we believe that God will provide for us, then why wouldn't He provide for the children that we have? There's a lot of evil in the world, but He has overcome the world. We're to look to God for everything, so to think that we can't afford a kid is a lack of faith. What about Gods will be done? If we choose to not have kids, or to limit how many...where's the room for God in that?

No offense intended to anyone here and I don't mean to sound judgmental, but...God is to have a hand in everything in our lives. Isn't He?
 
Obadiah said:
I think Paul kind of disagrees with this...

"To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am." (1 Cor 7:8 ESV)

Of course we know from the context that he's not saying God commands everyone to stay single, not by any means. But he is saying this to everyone who is single, not just a few that are chosen for special service to Him. He certainly is saying that it's not only OK to stay single, but he even considers it preferable to not marry. That's far from being selfish.
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I know that Scripture very well. Not all people have that gift to stay unmarried all their life and not burn. I known a few people who were able to do it without burning to much or not at all, but that is is a gift from God and those people are to serve Him without distractions. This is not like the RCC where the nuns and priest are told to be that way.
 
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