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Should An Adult Date A Minor?

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It's just a question that's been on my mind since I saw this Dr. Phil clip. Obviously he's talking about the alcohol being a problem, but if it doesn't include sexual contact I really don't think that it would be illegal. Definitely unwise because it could lead to something else, but I don't think it would wind you up behind bars for it. :nonono Also, I do think that there is a difference between a passionate kiss and a friendly kiss on the cheek. :yes


 
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In this clip the guy is only four years older than the girl...who he claimed she lied and her parents haven't protested (at least from what I saw of the clip)

My wife is 17 years younger than me. Where I'm in my 50's she is in her 30's. When we met she was in her late 20's. Not exactly cradle robbing. But I am her parent's ages.
So...my view is somewhat jaded.

But I am against kids being so focused on "hooking up" with a romantic partner at such a young age when they have no skills to parent or support a family yet.
All this being done by kids not even over 21 yet.
not a good idea.
 

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In this clip the guy is only four years older than the girl...who he claimed she lied and her parents haven't protested (at least from what I saw of the clip)

My wife is 17 years younger than me. Where I'm in my 50's she is in her 30's. When we met she was in her late 20's. Not exactly cradle robbing. But I am her parent's ages.
So...my view is somewhat jaded.

But I am against kids being so focused on "hooking up" with a romantic partner at such a young age when they have no skills to parent or support a family yet.
All this being done by kids not even over 21 yet.
not a good idea.


Mostly why I asked this is I've thought that some minors looked attractive before. (The lifeguards at our pool) I've commented on some YouTube videos that some celeb teens looked cute and I have said online that are some teens that I love as a younger brother or sister and sended them virtual hugs or kisses on the cheek.


Now obviously we aren't dating since I'm engaged and I'm not sexually attracted to any of them, but I was just afraid that somebody might get supicious anyways and my butt might be thrown in jail. Then again as usual I'm probably blowing it way out of proportion and worrying for nothing again. Just like I did when I commented on a minor's YouTube video when I thought that they were really pretty.
 

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I'm 12 years older than my husband and we have a running joke between us. When I was graduating High School he was starting first grade. Of course though he was 31 and I was 43 when we met.

Age can be a hugh factor when it comes to an adult and a minor if the minor is under 18 as then it becomes an issue with the law unless the parents give consent. There are actually many factors to take into consideration especially at such a young age when one is barely old enough to understand the difference between lust or love as they haven't really even begun to live life yet. Love can blind one from looking at the circumstances further down the road as far as being fully commited to all the functions of a marriage.
 

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I'm 12 years older than my husband and we have a running joke between us. When I was graduating High School he was starting first grade. Of course though he was 31 and I was 43 when we met.

Age can be a hugh factor when it comes to an adult and a minor if the minor is under 18 as then it becomes an issue with the law unless the parents give consent. There are actually many factors to take into consideration especially at such a young age when one is barely old enough to understand the difference between lust or love as they haven't really even begun to live life yet. Love can blind one from looking at the circumstances further down the road as far as being fully commited to all the functions of a marriage.




Okay so what about my other questions then? Do you think it's alright for me to have a friendly/brother or sister relationship with somebody who is underage?
 

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If you can't tell someone they look cute or a young girl they look pretty it's a sad world. You don't need to keep on telling then though. If you said you lived them as a younger brother/sister there is no harm done. I can't imagine myself telling someone on YouTube that I love them.
 

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To answer your question 'should an adult date a minor?" No of course they shouldn't.
I don't think I would be sending them kisses.
 

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If you can't tell someone they look cute or a young girl they look pretty it's a sad world. You don't need to keep on telling then though. If you said you lived them as a younger brother/sister there is no harm done. I can't imagine myself telling someone on YouTube that I love them.



Yeah I only told them that I thought they were pretty once and I actually I said that I thought this younger American Idol singer was really cute in the comment section. He's eighteen though so that wouldn't apply. He is mostly what turned me into a cougar. :tongue I never really understood though if an older man thinks a younger woman is attractive they don't call it anything but if it's an older woman they're called a cougar. :confused2
 

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To answer your question 'should an adult date a minor?" No of course they shouldn't.
I don't think I would be sending them kisses.


I agree but I would think like a friendly kiss on the cheek is way different from a passionate one on the lips. Wasn't kissing on cheeks a big thing in the Bible? And I only like did that once. Usually it's just virtual hugs. :)
 

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Here's Laine Hardy btw,.. the man that officially turned me into a cougar. :wink



 

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How do you kiss someone on the cheek over the internet? How do they know it's on the cheek if you don't know them? We give each other hug smiley on here but we know each other and hopefully know it's not suggestive.
Yes the bible tells us to greet each with a holy kiss, but on a Christian site we all know that.
 

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How do you kiss someone on the cheek over the internet? How do they know it's on the cheek if you don't know them? We give each other hug smiley on here but we know each other and hopefully know it's not suggestive.
Yes the bible tells us to greet each with a holy kiss, but on a Christian site we all know that.



I'll demonstrate with you. :) *Kisses your cheek.* Or I can just use this on here since we have an emoji for it. :kiss
 

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It's just a question that's been on my mind since I saw this Dr. Phil clip. Obviously he's talking about the alcohol being a problem, but if it doesn't include sexual contact I really don't think that it would be illegal. Definitely unwise because it could lead to something else, but I don't think it would wind you up behind bars for it. :nonono Also, I do think that there is a difference between a passionate kiss and a friendly kiss on the cheek. :yes
The whole under age sex laws came about because of child prostitution. The idea was to protect young girls from explotation.

Yes men who have sex with under aged girls should face prison and that includes teenagers over 16 with girls under 16.
Should we be sending 'kisses' etc to people we don't know? If you do not personal know them No one should not send emotional or sexual gestures to them.

One might mean nothing by them, how does a third party view them.
 

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Okay so what about my other questions then? Do you think it's alright for me to have a friendly/brother or sister relationship with somebody who is underage?
Now wait a minute...what is the question here? Should an adult "date" a minor, or have a "friendly" relationship? Are you going off track of your own thread? Get confused? Forget? Or was the title to the thread a freudian slip? (Lol)
 

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I agree but I would think like a friendly kiss on the cheek is way different from a passionate one on the lips. Wasn't kissing on cheeks a big thing in the Bible? And I only like did that once. Usually it's just virtual hugs. :)
You should be careful young girl. You sound as if you're pushing the edge of the envelope. Looking for a loophole. And admitting you are a cougar! (AND have a fiance'!!) Seeking man's standards in the same post as referring to the Bible (God's) standards?! ...you naughty girl you!

The Bible says if a man even looks upon a woman with lust in his heart then he is already guilty of adultery. This applies to girls too, Sister.
 

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You should be careful young girl. You sound as if you're pushing the edge of the envelope. Looking for a loophole. And admitting you are a cougar! (AND have a fiance'!!) Seeking man's standards in the same post as referring to the Bible (God's) standards?! ...you naughty girl you!

The Bible says if a man even looks upon a woman with lust in his heart then he is already guilty of adultery. This applies to girls too, Sister.

Umm,.. I actually think finding somebody attractive and having sexual and lustful desires for them are two different things.



The whole under age sex laws came about because of child prostitution. The idea was to protect young girls from explotation.

Yes men who have sex with under aged girls should face prison and that includes teenagers over 16 with girls under 16.
Should we be sending 'kisses' etc to people we don't know? If you do not personal know them No one should not send emotional or sexual gestures to them.

One might mean nothing by them, how does a third party view them.

Umm,.. but what if you tell them it's in a brother/sister way and it's a quick friendly kiss on the cheek? That happened like once a long time ago. And I don't think virtual hugs aren't a big deal at all.

Now wait a minute...what is the question here? Should an adult "date" a minor, or have a "friendly" relationship? Are you going off track of your own thread? Get confused? Forget? Or was the title to the thread a freudian slip? (Lol)


Both.
 

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What does it mean, "cougar?"
 

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What does it mean, "cougar?"


I'm sorry I thought I explained this already. It's just a term that is used when an older woman finds a younger man attractive. I never understood why though. :/
 

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I'm sorry I thought I explained this already. It's just a term that is used when an older woman finds a younger man attractive. I never understood why though. :/

Uhhh, nope. Here's the definition...

slang : a middle-aged woman seeking a romantic relationship with a younger man
 

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