Should An Adult Date A Minor?

[Edward]

Umm,.. I actually think finding somebody attractive and having sexual and lustful desires for them are two different things.

Well then you should get your terms straight and stop calling yourself a cougar.

;)

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Uhhh, nope. Here's the definition...

slang : a middle-aged woman seeking a romantic relationship with a younger man

I don't think it's always used as meaning a romance anymore, anyway that's what I was taught.

 

[Edward]

I don't think it's always used as meaning a romance anymore, anyway that's what I was taught.

You were taught wrong, my Sister! The 'romantic' sexual intent is the heart of the meaning. Think of a cougar. A hunter, on the prowl...ready to jump the prey! da da da...

 

[for_his_glory]

Here's Laine Hardy btw,.. the man that officially turned me into a cougar. :wink

The term cougar means a very good looking women for her age usually 45 and up. Plus should we be lusting after others no matter how old they are as this is actually a fine line you are walking by what you are saying. I'm not saying you are lusting by the overtone can suggest it. It's alright to say they are a good looking man or woman and that's as far as it needs to go.

 

[for_his_glory]

Okay so what about my other questions then? Do you think it's alright for me to have a friendly/brother or sister relationship with somebody who is underage?

There is nothing wrong with having friends that are younger even if they are children as a child will look up to an adult for friendship. When it comes to the cyber world I would not be sending them hugs and kisses as a parent might recognize that as a pedophile or someone into human trafficking.

 

[for_his_glory]

I don't think it's always used as meaning a romance anymore, anyway that's what I was taught.

Another definition of a cougar is a guy calling her a hot mama. That is lusting after a woman who is in her middle ages and you are far from being a cougar as you are still very young yet.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

There is nothing wrong with having friends that are younger even if they are children as a child will look up to an adult for friendship. When it comes to the cyber world I would not be sending them hugs and kisses as a parent might recognize that as a pedophile or someone into human trafficking.

The kiss thing I get even if it's only a friendly virtual kiss on the cheek. However since that happened once a long time ago, hopefully I don't have anything to worry about. Worrying about virtual hugs seems a bit paranoid to me though. :/

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Oh yeah and one other quick thing,.. having a friendly relationship with a minor is one thing, but actually hanging out with them is another.

 

[ezra]

It's just a question that's been on my mind since I saw this Dr. Phil clip. Obviously he's talking about the alcohol being a problem, but if it doesn't include sexual contact I really don't think that it would be illegal. Definitely unwise because it could lead to something else, but I don't think it would wind you up behind bars for it. Also, I do think that there is a difference between a passionate kiss and a friendly kiss on the cheek. :yes

no

 

[ezra]

The kiss thing I get even if it's only a friendly virtual kiss on the cheek. However since that happened once a long time ago, hopefully I don't have anything to worry about. Worrying about virtual hugs seems a bit paranoid to me though. :/

your getting sound advice it would be in your favor to take hold of it . the world we live in is changing perverts on every corner just laying in wait to take advantage. you can leave it or take it your choice .. what i can tell you is you have a lot to learn .far as that goes i learn everyday .. btw i seldom post in here .do you even have any idea how pedophiles prey on people on the net..they lure them in.. i see young ladies in your age range and younger that are missing .if i ruffled your feathers so be it you want to be treated like adult .then take adult advice

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

no

No what? To my original question?

 

[ezra]

no as you have no business doing this ........period read proverbs chapter 1

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs+1&version=MSG this is from the message . your fiance is setting in prison your playing footsies on the net or how ever . your playing with fire

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

no as you have no business doing this ........period read proverbs chapter 1

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs+1&version=MSG this is from the message . your fiance is setting in prison your playing footsies on the net or how ever . your playing with fire

Honestly! I am not playing footsies I'm being friendly! I would NEVER cheat on my fiancee and he knows that!

 

[ezra]

Honestly! I am not playing footsies I'm being friendly! I would NEVER cheat on my fiancee and he knows that!

just chill out i never said cheating i knew you would get mad . you say never it can happen. but nevertheless you do as you please no one can tell you anything

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

just chill out i never said cheating i knew you would get mad . you say never it can happen. but nevertheless you do as you please no one can tell you anything

Well that's you were implying and that's NOT going to happen!

 

[ezra]

Well that's you were implying and that's NOT going to happen!

noppers you only thought my point is it could lead to ..remember you asked

 

[for_his_glory]

Let's stop the arguing please and just address the question asked in the OP without putting words in another's mouth. Do not reply to this.

 

[ezra]

aint nobody arguing simply stated facts

 

[stovebolts]

I don't think it's always used as meaning a romance anymore, anyway that's what I was taught.

Yeah well, maybe the term is changing meaning. Words do that through the generations. Us older folks know the term as an attractive middle aged woman looking to "hook up" with a younger man.

Anyway, I love Marvel and all the other DC movies. Last year I wanted to see Aqua Man but as usual, my wife didn't really care. So... We're sitting in some romantic chick flick that she wanted to see and the previews came on for Aquaman. I have to admit, he looked pretty good with his shirt off and yes, my wife noticed as she said, "Why wouldn't I want to go see Aquaman"! Ha, so the next week we went lol!

We're very secure in our marriage, and although I knew she was joking, I also know that she found him physically attractive, but not in a sexual way.

It's ok to pay another a compliment on their looks, but make sure it stays appropriate and the other party doesn't take it the wrong way.

My son is very attractive and last year the receptionist went all goo-goo over him. It was actually funny! She was in her 50's and said if she was 20 years younger she would ask him out. Then she mentioned her niece who was 14 lol! Honestly, she was a hoot!

 

[Pigeon]

An 14 year old has no business dating an 18 year old. It's not just a separation in physical age. At 14 that child has yet to go through several life stages. That includes maturity, having experiences, and even knowing what the heck they want to do with themselves. An 18 year old would have a mental choke hold on them. And the odds that things would get sexual are too great. I wouldn't trust someone that old with my 14 year old no matter what. There was a time when such an age gap didn't mean anything due to large scale societal pressure to marry and have children. Heck, the 18 year old would more likely be 20 +, well established and looking for a wife. And during said time women had to get married and have kids as early as possible because their lives didn't have value otherwise. But we do not live in those days and more often than not the older person in these situations just wants sex and nothing else. Just cold hearted exploitation.

Age gaps don't matter when both parties are of age. May-December romance? As long as the younger party is over 18 I don't care. But before then? No way. The loosest I could maybe get is a 17 year old dating a 20 year old. And thats a BIG maybe. Good Lord just wait one more year in that case.