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DoaWK1992

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I've fallen into sexual sin, I thought I was masturbating to a girl but when I was done I realized it was a man now I think I'm gay I didn't know I feel awful am I gay now? does God still love me? Am I going to hell? Someone help me im not gay I swear I didn't know it was a guy he looked a lot like a woman. Im am scared so badly!
 
I've fallen into sexual sin, I thought I was masturbating to a girl but when I was done I realized it was a man now I think I'm gay I didn't know I feel awful am I gay now? does God still love me? Am I going to hell? Someone help me im not gay I swear I didn't know it was a guy he looked a lot like a woman. Im am scared so badly!

Umm... without going into too much detail, what was the context of this encounter you had. Was it in person or over the internet or something?
 
It was a picture

Well, that's what's called a lesson learned. There's a lot of perversion out there now. Just tell God in prayer that you do not have any interest in homosexuality, and you are sorry for letting yourself do something you shouldn't have, and then ask for His forgiveness.

Simple as that.

Then you should also give thought to spending some time with Him by reading your Bible. That will please Him more than anything.
 
I've fallen into sexual sin, I thought I was masturbating to a girl but when I was done I realized it was a man now I think I'm gay I didn't know I feel awful am I gay now? does God still love me? Am I going to hell? Someone help me im not gay I swear I didn't know it was a guy he looked a lot like a woman. Im am scared so badly!
Relax. It doesn't mean you're gay. And no, you're not going to go to hell because of it.
 
I think we should address the elephant in the room here. Beyond questioning your heterosexuality is the sin of sexual promiscuity. Whether the image you speak of was of a man or woman, you were engaged in sexual promiscuity and that is a sin for which repentance is the best course either way. We are to repent from all sin and focus our attention on our Lord and Creator and turn away from our sins.
 
I've fallen into sexual sin, I thought I was masturbating to a girl but when I was done I realized it was a man now I think I'm gay I didn't know I feel awful am I gay now?

No. If you were walking along a beach and tripped and fell into the water, are you now a fish? Of course not. You aren't gay, though you are, it seems, a sinner in need of a Savior. Do you want to be free of the power of sin in your life?

does God still love me? Am I going to hell?

God loves the world. But He won't allow unrepentant sinners, people who have refused to receive his Son as their Savior and Lord, into His kingdom. And if you aren't in His kingdom, you're headed toward hell. Are you in God's family and kingdom? Have you trusted in Christ as your Savior and submitted yourself to him as your Lord?

Romans 10:9-10 (NASB)
9 that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved;
10 for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation.


John 14:6 (NASB)
6 Jesus *said to him, "I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.


John 3:36 (NASB)
36 "He who believes in the Son has eternal life; but he who does not obey the Son will not see life, but the wrath of God abides on him."

Someone help me im not gay I swear I didn't know it was a guy he looked a lot like a woman. Im am scared so badly!

Well, fear is always the result of sin. It's not the only result, but it is one under which many sinners suffer. You can be free of your fear. See above.

1 John 4:16-19 (NASB)
16 We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.
17 By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment; because as He is, so also are we in this world.
18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love.
19 We love, because He first loved us.
 
I've fallen into sexual sin, I thought I was masturbating to a girl but when I was done I realized it was a man now I think I'm gay I didn't know I feel awful am I gay now? does God still love me? Am I going to hell? Someone help me im not gay I swear I didn't know it was a guy he looked a lot like a woman. Im am scared so badly!
How old are you? Either this is a troll question or you are very young.

No, mistaking a man for a woman doesn't make you gay. Neither is being gay, that is: experiencing same sex attraction, an automatic ticket to hell.
 
I know the question you asked is concerning you... but that is not the real issue.
This is the nature of a porn addiction.
You saw something that made you question if you are gay.
Now depending on your choice... porn has a way to ensnare you deeper.
1. If you say "I am NOT gay"... then porn can provide you with an all female sexual buffet.
2. If you say"I wonder IF I am gay"... then porn has a buffet that will draw you into that aspect as well.
3. Your only real choice is to say "this buffet is full of filth... I am not that hungry".

I have great struggles with porn addiction and have only recently been able to have some small victory in this area.
Trust me the pit is deep and the sides are slippery.
Don't worry about your sexuality... take actions to protect your sexual nature.
I am NOT saying it is easy.
But I am on your side in this matter.
 
How old are you? Either this is a troll question or you are very young.

No, mistaking a man for a woman doesn't make you gay. Neither is being gay, that is: experiencing same sex attraction, an automatic ticket to hell.
Experiencing same sex attraction is not "an automatic ticket to hell". That is beyond legalism? Are you attracted to cars or motorcycles? How about pop singers? If you have, you have just put yourself in hell!
 
@DoaWK1992: You might want to think about how your sinful masturbation led you straight into sexual perversion. You didn't even see the perversion for what it was! This should make you think twice about continuing along the line that you are with porn. Worse than leading you into perversion, though, your sin leads you away from God. This is, by far, the worst consequence of your sin. You were made by God so that you might know Him, love Him, enjoy Him and glorify Him. Any life you might live that is outside of these things, that is aimed at something else, is a false, or wrong, life that's like using a hammer to sew clothing, or like trying to dig a ditch with a garden hose.

You weren't made to live apart from God, your Maker; He made you to serve His purposes, like a hammer is made to pound nails, or a shovel is made to dig in the dirt. When you don't live according to the purpose for which God made you, you get damaged and twisted, fearful, frustrated and dissatisfied and will, in the end, suffer eternal damnation in hell. Worst of all, you can't enjoy God the way He intended you should when you're living outside of the purposes for which He made you.

Your real problem, then, isn't whether or not your sinful sexual practice of masturbating to porn makes you gay, but that you are living like you're a hammer used to sew clothing; you're using your life for the wrong purposes, to do the wrong things and the end result will be, in time, that you lose sight of God altogether and meet Him one day, not as your loving Heavenly Father, but as a holy, wrathful Judge.

Romans 2:4-11 (NASB)
4 Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads you to repentance?
5 But because of your stubbornness and unrepentant heart you are storing up wrath for yourself in the day of wrath and revelation of the righteous judgment of God,
6 who WILL RENDER TO EACH PERSON ACCORDING TO HIS DEEDS:
7 to those who by perseverance in doing good seek for glory and honor and immortality, eternal life;
8 but to those who are selfishly ambitious and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, wrath and indignation.
9 There will be tribulation and distress for every soul of man who does evil, of the Jew first and also of the Greek,
10 but glory and honor and peace to everyone who does good, to the Jew first and also to the Greek.
11 For there is no partiality with God.


John 3:16-18 (NASB)
16 "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.
17 "For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him.
18 "He who believes in Him is not judged; he who does not believe has been judged already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
John 3:36 (NASB)
36 "He who believes in the Son has eternal life; but he who does not obey the Son will not see life, but the wrath of God abides on him."
 
@DoaWK1992: You might want to think about how your sinful masturbation led you straight into sexual perversion.
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Anyways, yeah, to be clear DoaWK1992 You're not gay just cause you mistake a man for a woman. And if my initial posts gave you the wrong idea the way they did Jaybo, let me also clear up that experiencing same sex attraction is not something that will send you to hell in and of itself.
 
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