A Catholic man and a Protestant woman

[Tobiasnaceste]

Hi , I want to start by wishing everyone God blessings. I am a young man and I have a girlfriend and together we believe in God and love Him. I just have a small problem that I am Catholic and she is Protestant and when we get married I don't know how we are going to get married, she doesn't want to become Catholic and I don't want to become Protestant either... what would you advise me? Thanks

 

[hawkman]

Hi , I want to start by wishing everyone God blessings. I am a young man and I have a girlfriend and together we believe in God and love Him. I just have a small problem that I am Catholic and she is Protestant and when we get married I don't know how we are going to get married, she doesn't want to become Catholic and I don't want to become Protestant either... what would you advise me? Thanks

How will you raise your children in regards to the faith ?

 

[Tobiasnaceste]

How will you raise your children in regards to the faith ?

I don't know yet, we are young and we won't have children so soon, my girlfriend and I haven't talked about it in depth yet but it's complicated, I definitely want the Catholic Church and I would like to show her that the Catholic Church is the right church, but she is reluctant and she was brought up in a Protestant church and she went there. She also mentioned to me that she also has an aversion to churches. We have an agreement to talk about it and work it out, and I want her to go Catholic.

 

[Who Me]

She also mentioned to me that she also has an aversion to churches.

Welcome to the forum.

You do know don't you that the bible teaches that Christians should not marry people from other or of no faith?

You also do know that the Roman Catholic Church is not the same as Protestant churches so why are yoiu concidering marriage?

May I suggest tha you both sit down with a bible and study what the bible says about Jesus, even see if there is an Alpha or christianityexplored course being run in your area that you both could join.

Im suggesting this because someone with an aversion to churches probably isn't Christian, so investigate what Christianity is and not what churches teach.

 

[Tobiasnaceste]

Welcome to the forum.

You do know don't you that the bible teaches that Christians should not marry people from other or of no faith?

You also do know that the Roman Catholic Church is not the same as Protestant churches so why are yoiu concidering marriage?

May I suggest tha you both sit down with a bible and study what the bible says about Jesus, even see if there is an Alpha or christianityexplored course being run in your area that you both could join.

Im suggesting this because someone with an aversion to churches probably isn't Christian, so investigate what Christianity is and not what churches teach.

I will certainly not break up with the woman I love and has all the values a Christian girl should have, only she is a Protestant and can't help it because she was raised that way and is still young. Yes I know what Christianity is but it is important in a marriage and when we have children that is why I deal with it.

 

[for_his_glory]

It truly does not matter if you are Catholic and she is Protestant as what matters is that both of you are equally yoked together having faith in Christ as being one in the Spirit, 2Corinthians 6:14-18. We can not force others to go to the same church, but together having that fellowship with God within our own home as we make Jesus the center of everything within the marriage. If this is going to create a problem between the both of you, even though you truly love each other, both of you need to look down the road and see if this is going to cause problems in your marriage.

 

[Tobiasnaceste]

It truly does not matter if you are Catholic and she is Protestant as what matters is that both of you are equally yoked together having faith in Christ as being one in the Spirit, 2Corinthians 6:14-18. We can not force others to go to the same church, but together having that fellowship with God within our own home as we make Jesus the center of everything within the marriage. If this is going to create a problem between the both of you, even though you truly love each other, both of you need to look down the road and see if this is going to cause problems in your marriage.

Yes I understand that completely, and I think so too, but what about in the future? When shall we be married? And especially if we get married in the church, which I definitely want to do, I hope she does too, so we have to swear that when we have children we will raise them in Catholic traditions so they will go to church etc, first holy communion, baptism, confirmation. Until they're grown up.

 

[for_his_glory]

Yes I understand that completely, and I think so too, but what about in the future? When shall we be married? And especially if we get married in the church, which I definitely want to do, I hope she does too, so we have to swear that when we have children we will raise them in Catholic traditions so they will go to church etc, first holy communion, baptism, confirmation. Until they're grown up.

Do you like being controlled as far as the Catholic church telling you what you can or can not do? If you are so strong in your Catholic faith then why did you find a woman that is not Catholic, but want to force her to be one.

Mark 3:25 And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.

 

[hawkman]

How will you raise your children in regards to the faith ?

And you said this .

I don't know yet,

But as we see below you certainly have a plan .

And especially if we get married in the church, which I definitely want to do, I hope she does too, so we have to swear that when we have children we will raise them in Catholic traditions so they will go to church etc, first holy communion, baptism, confirmation. Until they're grown up.

Have you told her about your plan for her to swear ?

we are young and we won't have children so soon, my girlfriend and I haven't talked about it in depth

God may have other plans if you get married .
If you abstain from intercourse with your wife the chances of pregnancy are pretty much zero .
No matter what birth control you use none of them are 100% effective , I know this first hand .
And if you are thinking you will use TWO forms of birth control together and it will be 100% effective , think again , I know first hand .

 

[Tobiasnaceste]

And you said this .

But as we see below you certainly have a plan .

Have you told her about your plan for her to swear ?

God may have other plans if you get married .
If you abstain from intercourse with your wife the chances of pregnancy are pretty much zero .
No matter what birth control you use none of them are 100% effective , I know this first hand .
And if you are thinking you will use TWO forms of birth control together and it will be 100% effective , think again , I know first hand .

We don't plan to have sex, and we are not married, so not until after the wedding

 

[Hidden In Him]

Hi , I want to start by wishing everyone God blessings. I am a young man and I have a girlfriend and together we believe in God and love Him. I just have a small problem that I am Catholic and she is Protestant and when we get married I don't know how we are going to get married, she doesn't want to become Catholic and I don't want to become Protestant either... what would you advise me? Thanks

If your doctrinal beliefs are something one or both of you take very seriously, I would advise you to sit down and see how things go discussing the faith. If you can be compatible and discuss things peaceably, all you really have to worry about is where you will attend (you could attend both actually), and how the children will be raised. But honestly, if you two can get along and discuss things well while still having differences of opinion, that is a tremendous example to set for children IMO, and shows them that Christians can exist in harmony and in a Spirit of peace together even when they disagree. Not enough of that in the world right now.

In the end, it boils down to if you have been called of God to marry one another.

Blessings in Christ,
Hidden In Him

 

[Tobiasnaceste]

If your doctrinal beliefs are something one or both of you take very seriously, I would advise you to sit down and see how things go discussing the faith. If you can be compatible and discuss things peaceably, all you really have to worry about is where you will attend (you could attend both actually), and how the children will be raised. But honestly, if you two can get along and discuss things well while still having differences of opinion, that is a tremendous example to set for children IMO, and shows them that Christians can exist in harmony and in a Spirit of peace together even when they disagree. Not enough of that in the world right now.

In the end, it boils down to if you have been called of God to marry one another.

Blessings in Christ,
Hidden In Him

Thank you very much for these words , I find them very reasonable and I agree with you , thank you and I wish you a blessed life

 

[Niblo]

If your doctrinal beliefs are something one or both of you take very seriously, I would advise you to sit down and see how things go discussing the faith. If you can be compatible and discuss things peaceably, all you really have to worry about is where you will attend (you could attend both actually), and how the children will be raised. But honestly, if you two can get along and discuss things well while still having differences of opinion, that is a tremendous example to set for children IMO, and shows them that Christians can exist in harmony and in a Spirit of peace together even when they disagree. Not enough of that in the world right now.

In the end, it boils down to if you have been called of God to marry one another.

Blessings in Christ,
Hidden In Him

Excellent post.

 

[Hidden In Him]

Excellent post.

Thank you, Niblo, and always good seeing you around.

 

[Niblo]

But of course .

Many thanks....and snap!

Thank you, Niblo, and always good seeing you around.

 

[Who Me]

I will certainly not break up with the woman I love and has all the values a Christian girl should have, only she is a Protestant and can't help it because she was raised that way and is still young. Yes I know what Christianity is but it is important in a marriage and when we have children that is why I deal with it.

You say she has the values a Christian girl should have, yet she will not attend church! that is not an atribute a Christian should show and it is why I suggested that you both should investigate what Christianity is.

 

[evenifigoalone]

There are couples at my parish where one is Catholic and the other isn't... I'm not sure what's considered permissible per the Catholic tradition, but it does happen. (I am Catholic but am new to being Catholic. Just converted and was confirmed into the Church this past Easter.) Have you asked your Priest about it?