Orion said:
Hey, guys. . . . I'm sorry but the thing with my wife was an example. The main question in more in general. I can forgive my ex for what she did.
The main question is, are we supposed to forgive someone anyway?
If you can, have you?
You don't need to share the answer of that question with me (not my business), but considering how you phrased your 'example' in your first post, you might want to consider it.
Are we supposed to forgive someone if they haven't asked for forgiveness? Frankly, I can't think of any particular biblical passage to that question. Texts specifically telling us that we must forgive others if they haven't asked forgiveness. Perhaps someone else can.
However, there is one excellent example of this principle.
On the cross, Jesus asked the Father to forgive those who were crucifying Him and mocking Him. And they certainly weren't asking for His forgiveness. And you certainly hadn't asked Him for His forgiveness before He submitted to death for you.
If He is our example, and He is, then I would say the answer is yes.
I don't believe that it would make any difference if there were 100 commandments telling us we HAVE to forgive others. Forgivness involves a change of heart, and that is something that can only be done as we yield to the Spirit. A commandment can be followed whether we want to or not. I can
not steal, even if I want that Ipod. I can
not tell a lie, even if I really want to escape some trouble.
But, forgiveness is different. It comes totally from the heart. It's not anything that you can give lip service to. You either have forgiven someone or you haven't regardless of what you might say.