Obadiah
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You've mastered it well. Much better than I have. As a ghetto street cop that dealt with more dead bodies every month than most non-military people would in a lifetime I had no problem compartmentalizing death just like you are describing, as long as it wasn't anyone I knew personally. But when it's personal I still go to pieces even over the death of a pet! That's why I turned down a job with the county sheriff; because they handled the areas I lived in and I was afraid of getting an assignment where I live then having to deal with terrible things happening to friends and others I might know. I've never had the talent to compartmentalize that very well.I'm a vet,one learns to compartalize death quite well.its a habit I have never unlearned.I say my goodbyes and when the time to remember hits I act on it .jaci was born a few days after my grandmother's passing.funny ,I will see a family friend tommorow who called me to tell me via her phone she had passed.
As for smoking, I never have because I've got just enough of an allergy to something in cigarette smoke that it makes it unpleasant enough for me to never have started. But I don't condemn those who do smoke as long as they are respectful of not inconveniencing others with it and if they are Christians they aren't so addicted to it that it stops them from doing what God has called them to do. I do things that are not good for my health too just because I enjoy them, so how can I condemn someone for enjoying smoking? I don't recommend it and support anyone in their efforts to quit, but I'd be a hypocrite if I condemned them for it.