No, betrothal and marriage are NOT synonymous.
As the use of "wife" and "husband" in reference to Mary and Joseph in the
Matthew 1 account demonstrate, they
are virtually synonymous. And Joseph is called Mary's husband (and she his wife)
before they had "come together" sexually. In fact, until Mary gave birth to Jesus, Joseph did not have relations with her. But this didn't mean they weren't husband and wife; the account states clearly that, for all intents and purposes, they were. The two travelled and lived together in the manner typical of a husband and wife, Mary going where Joseph went. And so, when Gabriel referred to them as
husband and
wife, I take him at his word, trusting that a heavenly messenger from God had a better understanding of the nature of their relationship than someone two millennia removed from Joseph and Mary.
If they were already husband and wife, then why did Lord Jesus suffer the bad reputation of a questionable birth - implied in all four gospels?
All the question does is
confirm that the two were in a relationship with one another such that Mary becoming pregnant by someone other than Joseph would raise a question. And if they had not been essentially husband and wife, as the Gospel account in Matthew says they were, then Mary's pregnancy would not have been something over which Joseph would have needed to consider
divorcing (putting away) Mary. I don't see, then, that the question of Jesus's birth helps your case any.
The only reason is that their marriage was NOT consummated, and therefore not publicly acknowledged.
??? This isn't the only reason. I realize it serves your view to say so, but it isn't so. The reason Jesus's birth was scandalous had to do with the fact that, in the eyes of the Jewish community and God (attested to by Gabriel), Joseph and Mary were husband and wife. That Mary had been made pregnant apart from Joseph in this circumstance is understandably a serious problem. But it was so, again, because they were, as Gabriel said,
husband and wife.
The mistaken view is yours. You didn't carefully read my post, as you don't understand that marriage is a sacred covenant which is not made but CONFIRMED by the sex act.
But its
not "confirmed" by the sex act. This is nowhere stated in Scripture. Sex is the normal
consequence of a couple being husband and wife, but sexual relations have nothing to do with how they are
made husband and wife any more than using the oars of a boat you're sitting in to paddle around a lake is what
makes you an occupant of the boat. No, you have to be an occupant of the boat
before paddling the boat around with its oars. The paddling is just the effect of being in the boat, not
the means of being in the boat. So, too, sex and marriage. Sex is the natural, normal
effect of marriage, not the means of being married. This is, as I've shown, what the Bible indicates repeatedly.
It is your erroneous view that conflates betrothal with marriage,
This is your Strawman contortion of my view. In point of fact, I've never made any such conflation. I understand, though, that you might think it helps your view to misrepresent mine.
In the biblical narrative, a covenant is ratified with a blood sacrifice, without which a covenant is not legally effective, as much as a contract without signatures is not legally effective.
??? I don't recall any "ratification" of the marriage of Adam to Eve. In the account in
Genesis 2, there's no "and so Adam lay with Eve and thus they became husband and wife." They simply
were husband and wife, made so by God
prior to any relations they enjoyed with one another.
See above yourself. Nowhere is the word "wife" in either Gen. 2:22 or 3:12 where "giving" was mentioned. It was Adam's own acceptance that makes Eve his wife.
Genesis 2:18-25
18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
Would God, being perfect, make Eve less than "fit" for Adam so that Adam would have to consider whether or not he would accept Eve as his "helper" (i.e wife)? Is Eve ever asked if she wants to be Adam's wife? Does she get a chance to consent to God's arrangement of them as husband and wife? No.
19 Now out of the ground the LORD God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name.
20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him.
21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.
22 And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.
Here, Eve's creation is unique from all the other creatures God had so far made, being extracted from Adam's own body, not formed from the ground, as every beast of the field and bird of the air had been. She was not just another creature brought to Adam for inspection and naming but his "helper," his
wife.
23 Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
Here, the conclusion of this account of Eve's creation and her being given to Adam indicates that God's giving Eve to Adam in unique relationship to him as his helper is the pattern for
all human marriage relationships in which husband and wife are to "leave mother and father" and "hold fast" to one another. For the purpose of this discussion, though,
verse 25 is very important, for it clarifies that the relationship of Adam to Eve was that of "man and
wife" not merely man and girlfriend, or man and fiancee.
Then what "relational condition" is a john in with a prostitute?
He is guilty of sexual immorality - fornication or adultery, depending upon his marital status and has no relationship to the prostitute except as one sexual sinner using another sexual sinner to sin sexually (to the financial profit of the prostitute).
There's no marital relationship between the two, and yet they still become one flesh. That simplifies and clarifies the concept of "one flesh union" by reducing it to the simple sex act without any societal or relational complications.
Right. Joining one's body to a prostitute's body is, as Paul indicated in
1 Corinthians 6, not a ratification of marriage to the prostitute, but mere
sexual immorality that the "john" ought to cease. He does so, not by acknowledging the prostitute as his wife, but by never having anything more to do with her.
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