So my boyfriend and I have been together for less than a year. We fell in to sexual sin and moved in together shortly thereafter. Essentially, we were just doing everything backwards and living like worldly couples do. It took me a couple of months to finally feel like we weren’t doing things according to God’s plan or design and so I moved out of his place in May and I’ve been abstaining from sex ever since then.
The thing is, he believes we’re married based off of some bible verses. He often likes to bring up the woman at the well where Jesus tells the woman she has 5 husbands. However, it seems like he’s not interested in acknowledging the end of those verses where Jesus tells her to "sin no more". Furthermore, because he believes we’re married he also brings up the verse that says married couples shouldn’t refuse sex from each other in 1 Corinthians. So now he’s pretty upset whenever he wants to have sex and I’m refusing saying that I’m going against God’s will and I’m sinning whenever I deny him sex.
We both feel like we’re right in our stance and are having a hard time seeing eye on eye on this and it’s just causing conflict. I know that if this a relationship I want to pursue, it might be wise to seek counseling from another believer who can help guide us through this.
There some truth in both sides.
If you love each other then get married.
Why not find a church and start going and begin to build your lives according to God?