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Classik

Classik

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They had this conversation recently. I thought I should share it with you.


If you have a spouse who earns, say £20,000, you earn £50,000 and he/she doesn't spend his/her money but keeps asking you for pocket money, shoes, clothes, cab fare, makeup, drinks and so on. Now the question is, will you stay or leave that person?

:dunno :shrug :confused
 
The answer would depend on who the question was presented to.

Scripture allows for divorce only in the case of adultery .
 
I guess its a cultural thing. Usually, men earn (and are expected to earn) more than women and to support the wife. Violation of that is a big deal, even today, so she might walk out. Spouses usually pool their resources, too. I don't see why 2 people would get married if 1 of them is going to be treated like a "mooch" because they earn less (or, for a house wife/house husband, they may earn nothing at all for a while).
 
Classik said:
They had this conversation recently. I thought I should share it with you.


If you have a spouse who earns, say £20,000, you earn £50,000 and he/she doesn't spend his/her money but keeps asking you for pocket money, shoes, clothes, cab fare, makeup, drinks and so on. Now the question is, will you stay or leave that person?

:dunno :shrug :confused
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Are you saying that as a married Christian couple, they don't put their money together?
 
I think if one is wise these are things that should be discussed before you tie the knot! Some may not think that is very romantic but frankly marriage is not always romantic or ever based on romance.

It's no one else's business how money issues are arranged in someone else's home.
 
I agree with Deborah, mostly. Before you get married, you should talk things out. Does the wife keep or name, change it, hyphenate it? What's the division of labor in the house going to look like? And kids, should they come along...how will they be raised? By whom, primarily?

I also agree that we need to try to take some of the romance out of marriage. From a Christian perspective, you're trying to build a life together, with Christ at the center. Its a contract, and society protects marriage (or...used to...) because society needs children who are properly socialized and able to function in the community, pay taxes, obey laws, etc. I think one reason divorce is so common, especially in the US, is that we're encouraged to follow our "feelings."
 
romance? out of marriage? not that im perfect but why? why not still do those things for the wife? it keeps the marriage fresh. yes its not going to keep it together but if you focus on why you feel in love with your spouse it will help the marriage and make it stronger. love changes yes but still the romantic things can be done to show that we still love each other.
 
my wife begs for romance. the simpliest and cheapest of things is the most effective often. we simply had dinner sunday at a park. I went to a park near a house that I wanted to show here that is unique and she is into gardens and also house decoration of the indian/Spanish sort. my town has mostly the later. these homes are almost 100 years old. she remember the one I pointed too. I often show her homes that I read meters on that I see have her style. the most ecklectic one was the old surfer home that is from the 50's or 60's.
 
If money separates a married couple, then they should just get a divorce and they can both keep their own money.
 
allenwynne said:
If money separates a married couple, then they should just get a divorce and they can both keep their own money.
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This is a good response.

Money problems, or the attitude towards money, is normally the top reason couples separate. Infidelity is the next reason.

If couples can address what they will do with their money, and have a plan they will stick to, it should not be a major issue while they are together, in my humble opinion.
 
allenwynne said:
Classik said:
They had this conversation recently. I thought I should share it with you.


If you have a spouse who earns, say £20,000, you earn £50,000 and he/she doesn't spend his/her money but keeps asking you for pocket money, shoes, clothes, cab fare, makeup, drinks and so on. Now the question is, will you stay or leave that person?

:dunno :shrug :confused
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Are you saying that as a married Christian couple, they don't put their money together?
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sure what it reads. A provides and B conceals B's
 
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