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kimberlyb0112

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I need some advice..

and before I go into this.. I know some people are going to say I should talk to someone now.. but I cant do that.. also some of y'all are going to give me alot of scripture and I know this sounds really bad and I'm sorry.. I kind of need more than that right now..

As most everyone knows, Im deployed.. the thing is.. I'm depressed right now.. I know I am..
Its the fact that my best friend was killed in march, I have no female friends I can talk to.. or any friends for that matter.. one of my good guy friends left to go back to the states a couple days ago..

all the guys that work together seem so close, the guys I work with are creepy and one hits on me all the time.. so i dont talk to them much..

I just need advice on how to hide my depression, or become more tough so no one can tell.. Im the "always happy, always nice" type and lately people have been asking me if im okay over and over..
so obviously Im not doing a good job of hiding it..

If i can just hide it for now, and keep it in until I get back to the states..I will be okay..
I will find a civilian to talk to like a preacher or something

anyway im just looking for advice on how i can deal with this without letting others know,
music makes me feel better.. but I'm just drained and I feel down because I don't have anyone..

One of my guy friends was telling me its like guys detach themselves emotionally.. i told him that I wanted to be like that and he said no i didnt.. but i do..
i mean here at least.. it will be better

i know i sound weak enough as it is just saying all this but anyway any advice would be appreciated
 
If it gets to tough go to a doctor and get on medication, I had to do it for years, I was on Lithium for years, Zoloft too when it first came out. Christians suffer from depression too. Do not be ashamed to go get help, remember it is God's medication, He lets man find this stuff to help the people on earth. You can also PM me if you want.
 
yes, as Lewis said seeing professional help like conselling or medication might work or at least help. Read the Bible (try 1 Peter, it's a good encouragement) and pray to God. That's all I can suggest at this moment.

How long until you come back to the states?

I will be praying for you. :pray.
 
Yes, its just different in the army..so I know I have to
wait..I'm sure when I get back to the states, it will be easier.. (i have 8 weeks now)

i work in an open area and my NCO sits on the other side of a wall..
he's not a very nice guy at all.. the kind that is miserable and he wants
others around him to eb miserable too..

well, this guy in another unit was depressed
and he tried to commit suicide (I NEVER EVER
would.. I'm just saying..)
well when my NCO heard he was like "what an
idiot.. its people like that. that are so weak..
blah blah blah".. there's no way I could tell
him I'm feeling down or whatever..
being the only female doesn't help and they
would just think i'm weak.. and I'm not..

I mean i do think im handling everything the best that I can..ya know?
 
I also know that I need to be stronger in handling it and not showing it..
and I guess that comes from experience..i dunno but anyway, that's what I'm trying to do
 
Kimberly, I appreciate what you're doing for our country. My son is serving in Afghanistan. Where are you at?

I advise you to talk to both the chaplain and the doctor. The fact that you realize there's a problem shows that it can probably be cured.
 
Kimberly, I was going to suggest the same thing as Vince, to talk with the chaplain and the doctor. Meanwhile, I feel that all I can do for you is to lift you up in prayer that the Lord will bring through these last eight weeks. I'll be praying for you daily, and you can PM me on anything you'd like as well, even if it's just to be a 'sounding board.'

I wish I could give you this in person, but believe me it's from my heart. :smt056
 
kim, for some reason i thought that you were going through that. We had a suicide in my unit that is a load of bull from that nco :mad . i have been depressed before it happens to us all, depression that requires what lewis describes is the type where you never come out without meds, that one you cant hide. seek help from the chaplain,bypass those whom you feel not trust worthy to talk to one this, ie that nco, seek the next higher nco platoon sgt or 1sgt or go to bagram if need be.

You are in a high stress enviroment, it's not wise to hide it, your chain of command will help but they must be informed, yes i know what many people think but who cares your mental health is more important, it took me two years too admit that i have ptsd(a mild form of it). so dont wait, deal with it, the earlier the better. The therapy for my ptsd is simply counseling and usally most of that i already do in church (how to deal with stress).

no, i not chewing you out kim, i have been in that enviroment and was also dealing with a possible divorce from my wife at that time and sought the chaplain on what to do.
 
I know your situation is different from mine, but I hope you can find it useful. When I was coming out of depression, I isolated what exactly what made me depressed. After I was able to isolate the issue I released all my frustration on it and cast it away.

I know it sounds cheesy, but it worked. I was able to do this after hearing about the life of a comedian strangely. His views woke me up to my situation enough to grab hold of myself. I suggest you find something to be your anchor like I did.

After that, isolating and seeing exactly what is depressing you will become easier, and will give you perspective. I hope that helps. May your God bless you. :yes
 
Kimberly,

Besides prayer and the Word, music also helped me back when I was depressed as a younger person. I would sing, or recite songs, that were centered on praise. It is not always good to do this out loud, I mean, not all situations allow you to sing out loud, but you can sing them in your head. Anyway, I would use these songs as silent prayers...just singing to God in prayer while I worked. It helped me just focus on being thankful to God and to worship Him. Thankfulness is a way to combat a depressed heart, and so I would try to be systematic about it, doing it when I didn't feel it (I never felt like it), and sometimes true thankfulness would follow and the cloud would finally lift...sometimes after months. Keith Green songs helped me a lot back then.

That being said, I believe that depression and grief are two separate things. It sounds more to me like you are grieved. I would remember that God has allotted a time to grieve, and not feel as if it is some sort of abnormal reaction to your situation. God can use times like this to teach us, but the reality is it is just a pain that we go through when we loose someone. It really helps to express it if we can, but then we all go through it differently. I think singing prayers to God can help in this situation too, but I think you need to realize that grief is something that will just wash over us in waves, and that it's a season of life. I am not saying spiritual warefare can't help us through, or that it can't turn into despair and depression if we sink too far, but really we just need God's comfort and love during this time.
 
I've never been in a war, so I don't know what it feels like. I know there are a few on this site that have been. I was just wondering...did you enlist freely, or was there conscription...or how did you get involved.
I only ask that because, I myself, might not join unless I had to. There are many injustices in the world. I know the US is a leader in armed forces around the world. I just wonder sometimes, whether the leaders should really have gotten their military involved. Anyway, I am quite ignorant of the necessity...or not... of the situation.
Being as how you are there. I guess...bottom line... you are going to have to prepared to kill someone, if the situation arises. That probably does require quite a bit of hardness, or maybe pragmatism.
I am not against all wars. The second world war was a "fight for our existence" war.
May the Lord help you to know your place over there. If you are going to be a soldier, then you are going to have to think like one.
The early Israelites knew what that was like. They were constantly fighting for what was right.
I hope at least, that is what is happening over there.
If you feel the cause is right...I think that might make it easier.
 
I see. How hard is it to get out if a person has already signed up. Not suggesting anything.
 
fail the pt test, claim your gay, and gain weight, the first and latter i've seen and the middle i guess aslo as one guard enlistee was forced by parents to join and he came out and was gay.
 
jasoncran said:
fail the pt test, claim your gay, and gain weight, the first and latter i've seen and the middle i guess aslo as one guard enlistee was forced by parents to join and he came out and was gay.
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Does that apply even if a person has been in for a while.
 
it can btw the process is painfully slow, and usually with the pt failures and the overwieight, you cant re up, you get barred from reenlisting. so you wind up doing the full term and may be called back in the time of war as the bar doesnt effect the reserve obligations if you havent finsihed that time. i'm not a jag officer nor a all knowing person on the subject of that. I know a little. i got barred myself, but i was able to enter the guard, and even after almost 15yrs since that(it was active) i would have a hard time going back active. I could if i wanted to, just got to see the recruiting commander and talk to him and a few other things.
 
Well, I'm not from the US, but I will say that if was young and able to...I'd definitely talk to some people about the pros and cons, before I even thought of enlisting.
It's not only physically dangerous. It's emotionally dangerous.
I do appreciate what the US has done in times past to help other countries though.
 
yes, i agree with that, many recruiters are under pressure to meet quotas and often avoid talk on the war experciences and the fact you may have to kill. even with the two wars of today, i'll bet ya, that there are kids who think they will never see combat.. :crazy

fortunalelty i assure them they will most likely see it. Recruiters get annoyed when i share my war stories as i hold nothing back. i tell them what it was like, how i changed and that if they want to serve knowing all that more power to them. They cant say no one told them.

jason
 
When I worked at the paper mill, we had a lot of guys in either the Army or Air Force National Guard. All the army guys said that if they had known how much better the Air Force treats you, that's where they would have gone.
 
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