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Early marriage vs late marriage - how good?

It makes no difference. If the couple is mature and committed to one another, age is of no consequence. If not, no amount of "age" provides the wisdom to make it work.
 
Everyone in my family had an early marriage ... except me... I married late.

All the marriages are solid and happy.

One advantage to earlier marriages is that you can have your kids somewhat earlier in life and not deal with raising tweens and teens at the same time you're caring for elderly parents. That's a toughie!
 
Age doesn't necessarily dictact success for a marriage, albeit the older one is before marriage, the more grounded & mature the person should be.

Having said that, I'll provide an example, based on 10 people with whom I went to high school.

8 married right out of high school, just prior to going off to university. 100% of these 9 were divorced within ten years. 7 went on later to a 2nd marriage; 5 remain married to this day.

1 married while in high school, due to pregnancy. Four kids who have graduated university later, this one person is still happily married to first spouse.

1 married almost 8 years post high school & after university. Remains married today, and the relationship seems to be healthy.

(Note: High school graduation was several decades ago.)
 
Getting married, leaving home at 17 is the best because that is when you know everything!

I have been married for 48 years really 48 and 1/2 ... We had 2 kids before i was 21
Thankfully they survived their parents.... Some years good some not i am too stubborn for divorce.
Marring young you can grow together or apart choose... Marring older one could be strongly set in their ways or not.
Age doesn't matter ... If i could tell the world something about mariage, it would be do not marry an unbeliver.
 
Age has very little to do with whether a marriage will be successfull or not. It is more about attitude toward it, and partly views of it developed while growing up. If someone grows up in a home where the parents get divorced they will be more likely to fall into that trap. Those who grow up in a stable, God-fearing home, they will have a much better view of marriage.

This does not mean these are the hard and fast rules, as there are acceptions on both sides.
 
Knotical said:
Age has very little to do with whether a marriage will be successfull or not. It is more about attitude toward it, and partly views of it developed while growing up. If someone grows up in a home where the parents get divorced they will be more likely to fall into that trap. Those who grow up in a stable, God-fearing home, they will have a much better view of marriage.

This does not mean these are the hard and fast rules, as there are acceptions on both sides.
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I agree. There are lot of marriages in my family and almost all were "young" marriage, late teens/very early 20's... but no divorces. Mainly because everyone was raised up with the attitude that marriage is for life, that one must marry someone who shares your core values and beliefs, including those of marriage.
 
Classik said:
Early marriage vs late marriage - how good? Experiences, bitte.
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I got married at twenty one years old.

When I look back I got married seven years after my fourteenth birthday. If I had to live my life over I would not have married at such an early age. I had two children by the time I was twenty three.

I believe that twenty five to thirty is the best age. I am not saying that an early marriage cannot work. I was not unhappy but I believe that I needed to be bit more mature.
 
abide said:
I believe that twenty five to thirty is the best age. I am not saying that an early marriage cannot work. I was not unhappy but I believe that I needed to be bit more mature.
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I agree Abide! My wife and I were happily married in our late 20's. And to this day we are still happy because I left her be the boss! She even does all the driving, even to church! :lol Now everyone, take some hints from me and you'll be happy!
 
I think this time i'm going to try a later/early marriage. I'm 51 and all the women my age are nasty and bitter. So I'm aiming for someone about half my age.

Not sure what that is considered, is it early or late?
 
joethemechanic said:
I think this time i'm going to try a later/early marriage. I'm 51 and all the women my age are nasty and bitter. So I'm aiming for someone about half my age.

Not sure what that is considered, is it early or late?
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It's a generational thing, Joe. You are a boomer like I am. Some can be nasty and bitter, but in that generation when I was dating at a younger age, I always dated women about 10 years older than me.

As for generation x, Joe, (the 30-40 somethings) trust me, they are out of touch with your generation which is why I never dated women younger than me (I am at the tail end of the boomers as you are). They are in their own world.

As for someone half your age, I guess that would be a good choice since generation Y (those 30 and under) seem to resonate well with ours. My oldest son throws parties with people both men and women early to mid 20's and you'll be surprised at how well I get along with them and blend in with them. They are fascinated with our generation. I often feel like I'm one of them at the party.

I'd go for a woman about 60 years old, or under 30. The latter will hold up a bit better, but then in all due consideration you better get in shape for her! :lol
 
i know more about your generation and relate to that era better then whacky gen y. sorry i do. i grew up on most of your generations tv and also ideas. my uncle was and is in some parts and old hippy pot head.

so please dont assume all gen x-ers hate your generation. i understand it quite well.my younger step-child is a flower child and well i dont hate her she is has issues and she is gen y.she has emotional issues and has converted to athiesm.
 
tim-from-pa said:
As for generation x, Joe, (the 30-40 somethings) trust me, they are out of touch with your generation which is why I never dated women younger than me (I am at the tail end of the boomers as you are). They are in their own world.
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You know I was thinking the same thing, but I wasn't sure if it was my imagination. But truthfully, the women between 30 and 50 all seem to have a nasty attitude. I think women's lib perverted their brains and turned them into witches or something.

Under 30 definitely. You got to figure they have less miles on them. :yes
 
tim-from-pa said:
I agree Abide! My wife and I were happily married in our late 20's. And to this day we are still happy because I left her be the boss! She even does all the driving, even to church! Now everyone, take some hints from me and you'll be happy!
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That's very funny.
 
Women hate late marriages. That is why when a female turns 25 and no male is around...she kind of gets frustrated.Early marriage is good. My mom's mom married at 12 - 15, I think she's still alive.
 
My mom was 32 and my dad was 45 when I was born. They married late and for life. I was married when I was 18 and my husband was 21. Our first son was born when I was 22 and the 2nd when I was 25.
Reba, you and I have a whole lot in common. I was way too immature, as was my husband, and I was just too stubborn to give up on our marriage. He was saved after 11 years. Both of his parents had remarried and they were not Christians either. I was too stupid to know the difference until I had lived with him for a few weeks. It was very hard at first. But 49 years later things are great.
 
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