this is skandinavia right now, i had one friend from a christian family. he is really ponderous and inquisitive and he became agnostic, saying "who can know what god is for sure". my other christian friend kind of stays away from difficult subjects, atleast outwardly and doesn't like to express clear or heavy opinions, so he's still in, though he and his mom are not in a church(mad props).
Yeah people are similar here. There are "radical" (not in a dangerous way, but very dedicated and lacking any kind of doubt) christians here, too, but the average christian here knows doubts and agnostic phases in their lives. Or they just ignore and neglect large parts of the Bible they feel uncomfortable with. Or blame the difficult Bible verses on the culture of the place and time they were written. Or understand the Bible as a metaphor altogether.
So maybe even the christians in Europe aren't really christian any more. ;) Though I don't think christianity is dying, it's just people changing their approach to it.
Some people, like that one friend you are speaking about, may notice that the Bible taken literally makes no sense and thus they leave christianity for good. Others just leave the literal view to the Bible behind and move on to a more individual, metaphorical, mystical and spirtual understanding of it so the Bible and their faith will become alive and enjoyable again. Conservative christians usually frown upon those "progressive" christians and consider them to be seduced by the world/ flesh/ devil, but maybe the opposite is true and they will be christianities only hope to make its 3rd millenium. (If I'm wrong and Christ's second comming really happens before my death then I can only hope He loves me enough to understand why I have no choice but to think such rebellious thoughts....)
so being a sheep on a leash is in decline. i know the sheep symbolizes two different things: trust in christ, but also weakness and surrender of your own fate and thoughts.
We're living with a feeling of security and safety here that is unprecedented in humanity's history. Our countries have a strong and stabil economy even in these days, a low crime rate, no real threats of natural disasters (we call it a "tragical disaster" here when after three days of rain the local river floods a few streets and some basements. People living in monsoon areas would laugh their butts off about that), good health care and social security. We have access to all kinds of information and can basically do with our lives what we want and what we are talented to do, if only we agree to invest some effort.
So we have a strong sense of control over our lives. So why would we surrender our fate and follow someone else's doctrines?
Anyway, it's a false sense of security. We will still get hit by things we didn't want and didn't provoke, like accidents, illness, failures, heartbreaks; and even if everything in one's life goes according to plan at the very end they will have to surrender to death. So I'm thinking accepting life's unpredictability and our own limitations and "surrendering" to the higher powers that we refer to as "God", and getting ourselves to trusting in "Him", is not weakness, but is wise and will help us cope and adapt. It'll make us actually stronger, deeper and more peacefull people.
But people don't want to be sheep on the leash of the church or of pastors that want to impose their view on God and their understanding of the Bible on us. That's what the Enlightenment has done: we don't trust those religious authorities any more and prefere having our individual faith or doing our own research. Anything is better than being gullible.
edit: and yes, thats my two christian friends. the rest are agnostic or atheist. lol, gotta love this heathen northern land. i think even the atheists, like me, think there might a god but no one has seen or heard that god, maybe not even felt it.
Oh you probably have. You just didn't know it was Him, because it wasn't quite a bearded guy in heaven or a deep voice out of the skies. ;)
Edit: sorry for writing so much.