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YogiD2

YogiD2

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Why in your opinion are there so many folks that are fake and act like we don't know ?? It goes from everyone we know at church or reletives. To internet "friends" to even our spouse.
Some fake to "like" someone. And that someone then later feels confused and well kinda hated.
Heck y'all I even feel that some pretend and fake to "love" even me.
I don't know what behooves people to act that way....????
Signed confused
 
It aint all bad Yogi ... some may be faking trying to overcome some bad stuff in themselves .. the old 'put your best foot forward'
 
It comes from insecurity and wanting to "fit in", which is ultimately born of pride. Many people develop a false persona so no one has to get to know the real them. They are just afraid of being rejected.
 
Knot I try to be me and am rejected more times than I can count and seen fakers more times than I wish. Even seen a husband fool his wife and her family, can't say nufin.. but more and more everyone seems to "know" how to "upset" me. Fake acting and fake personas or fake in general isn't right. More needs to be honest and themselves.
 
YogiD2 said:
Knot I try to be me and am rejected more times than I can count and seen fakers more times than I wish. Even seen a husband fool his wife and her family, can't say nufin.. but more and more everyone seems to "know" how to "upset" me. Fake acting and fake personas or fake in general isn't right. More needs to be honest and themselves.
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People that know how to upset you know what buttons to push, but also you give them this power. It may not be easy at first, but you do have the power to take that away from them by ignoring their antics. You are a child of God and do not need to live that way.

There have been many people that have come and gone in my life who were either a bad influence on me, or knew how to get under my skin. Of course I could have found a way to witness to them, but circumstances ended up causing our paths to part.

People like this are why we are required to put on the full armor of God. Read through Ephesians 6, and you will find ways to combat those who are only out to attack you.
 
kiwidan said:
True that. Ask a thousand people 'How is there day' and i bet 99% reply 'Good'. Even the ones with tears in there eyes.
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Many people who ask 'How are you?" don't really want to know how you are. They're just speaking 'niceties".
People know this so they don't burden others with their problems.

If someone has tears in their eyes, you're not going to let them get away with saying 'fine' and just walk away. :)
 
I don't know, I imagine it has something to do with self-validation and worthiness. There are far more "former Navy Seals" out there than have ever been real Seals (no, I am NOT one).
 
How ironic that we are talking about how people shouldn't be fake, in a media where most of us use fake screen names, have pictures above our names that aren't really us, (except me. I really am a squawking parrot who's owner taught me to type with my beak!), and we hide behind our keyboards not letting anyone know where we are!!! :biggrin2

Just kidding about the above, I hope y'all know. It's one thing to use social niceties like saying "How are you?" just to be friendly and not expect the person to tell you all their tragedies in answer to that, or to answer with "Fine." even though you may not really be all that fine. But it's another thing altogether when, for example, someone maybe pretends to be your friend just to get something they want from you. That aint right.
 
Interesting point! Not everyone, though; that is my real name, and that is a real picture of me. Just for the record.:)
 
I think that's how society is going. A friend of mine, he's from Holland, he said its worse in the US than in Europe. Something about how in Europe they still have the idea of "acquaintance," and they have a few close people they call "friends," whereas over here we call everybody our friend and the term has become almost meaningless. Something like that.

As for why people are so fake...how could we be otherwise? Its not cool to have problem or intense feelings (only losers have those) and its not cool to open up to people. Its not cool to be troubled or needy or lonely...or...anything other than well adjusted and smile, have a nice day sort of game show host happy. That's my take on it.
 
One of my teachers, back in the day, knew I was moping about a girl friend who had contracted MS.
After saying, "Are you STILL down about THAT?", she walked to the white board, and wrote:
To be happy, just forget about YOU.
(Think about it for a while, and you'll see the relevance.)
 
There was a little pocket book written way back in the '60's that you might enjoy reading.

It is entitled, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I am? by: John Powell.
 
oh...yeah...there's this book, its from the 50s...The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life, by Erving Goffman. He was sociologist. It goes into front stage self, back stage self, etc. If you have downtime and the interest, you might wanna read it. He wrote quite well, so its not like reading dense, technical stuff.
 
Obadiah said:
How ironic that we are talking about how people shouldn't be fake, in a media where most of us use fake screen names, have pictures above our names that aren't really us, (except me. I really am a squawking parrot who's owner taught me to type with my beak!), and we hide behind our keyboards not letting anyone know where we are!!! :biggrin2

Just kidding about the above, I hope y'all know. It's one thing to use social niceties like saying "How are you?" just to be friendly and not expect the person to tell you all their tragedies in answer to that, or to answer with "Fine." even though you may not really be all that fine. But it's another thing altogether when, for example, someone maybe pretends to be your friend just to get something they want from you. That aint right.
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I don't hide my name, my alias is my first name and the first letter of my last name, which most here know it.
 
jasonc said:
I think its in the west, not just the us.
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Yep, I agree. I spent a lot of time in Mexico living with the locals for months at a time each year back when cell phones were starting to get popular there. I can't begin to tell you how many people were buying fake cell phones to hang out on their belts so everyone would think they were "up there" in society and were so important that they needed to have that phone. In reality, they had a fake one because they couldn't afford to pay for service on a real one if they even lived in an area that actually had service!
 
reba said:
i think people are about the same all over the world...
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Yeah.... I have a favorite little story about that...

What are people like here?
An old man sat quietly rocking on his front porch when a young couple approached him.
“Sir”, the husband said, “We’re thinking of moving to this town, and wondered if you could give us an idea of what the people are like here.”
“Well”, the old man replied, “What were they like where you came from?”
Both the husband and wife enthusiastically answered that they were friendly, outgoing, and always ready to lend a helping hand.
“Yeah, they’re pretty much the same way here.”, said the old gent.

A few hours later another young couple drove up and they too asked the same question of the elderly man.
“Sir”, the husband said, “We’re thinking of moving to this town, and wondered if you could give us an idea of what the people are like here.”
“Well”, the old man replied, “What were they like where you came from?”
Both the husband and wife snapped back that “those people” were very unfriendly, secretive and reclusive, and never seemed to care a thing about anyone but themselves.
“Yeah, they’re pretty much the same way here.”, replied the old gent.
 
YogiD2 said:
Why in your opinion are there so many folks that are fake and act like we don't know ?? It goes from everyone we know at church or reletives. To internet "friends" to even our spouse.
Some fake to "like" someone. And that someone then later feels confused and well kinda hated.
Heck y'all I even feel that some pretend and fake to "love" even me.
I don't know what behooves people to act that way....????
Signed confused
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Perhaps it's fear, or the need to belong, or to be accepted perhaps. Some people specifically deceive others for their own gain. watch any commercial, for any product or service. "All men are Liars" Psalms 116. 11; fake to some degree.

But if we are going to say that of others then we can not escape the same accusation.

I think if we could see to the fullest extent, the deception man kind presents either knowingly, or otherwise, we'd see ourselves more in the way God sees us.
 
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