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Go back to husband?

Jethro thank you so much... you encouraged me because God showed me that He was out in a terrible snow storm looking for me. He told me He would bring me back to the Fathers house. It is confirmation of what He spoke to me. Thank you....
 
God bless all those who care and welcome your people with loving arms. I was empty and searching... lost and without hope. I came to those whom You chose Lord for Your glory... and was without help, felt pushed away and rejected. I prayed to You Lord and you sent a caring accepting servant into my life. Thank you Lord... and may You generously bless those who truly seek and do your will. Those who walk in the love of Christ Jesus each day.
 
Chopper has the heart of a true pastor, the heart of our Great Shepherd. He cares about and chases after the wounded and scattered sheep and binds them up.

Reminds me of this passage where we see what a true pastor looks like by what a true pastor is not:

'Thus says the Lord GOD, "Woe, shepherds of Israel who have been feeding themselves! Should not the shepherds feed the flock? 3 "You eat the fat and clothe yourselves with the wool, you slaughter the fat sheep without feeding the flock. 4 "Those who are sickly you have not strengthened, the diseased you have not healed, the broken you have not bound up, the scattered you have not brought back, nor have you sought for the lost; but with force and with severity you have dominated them. 5 "They were scattered for lack of a shepherd, and they became food for every beast of the field and were scattered. 6 "My flock wandered through all the mountains and on every high hill; My flock was scattered over all the surface of the earth, and there was no one to search or seek for them.""' 7 Therefore, you shepherds, hear the word of the LORD: 8"As I live," declares the Lord GOD, "surely because My flock has become a prey, My flock has even become food for all the beasts of the field for lack of a shepherd, and My shepherds did not search for My flock, but rather the shepherds fed themselves and did not feed My flock; 9 therefore, you shepherds, hear the word of the LORD: 10 'Thus says the Lord GOD, "Behold, I am against the shepherds, and I will demand My sheep from them and make them cease from feeding sheep. So the shepherds will not feed themselves anymore, but I will deliver My flock from their mouth, so that they will not be food for them.""'

11 For thus says the Lord GOD, "Behold, I Myself will search for My sheep and seek them out. 12"As a shepherd cares for his herd in the day when he is among his scattered sheep, so I will care for My sheep and will deliver them from all the places to which they were scattered on a cloudy and gloomy day. 13 "I will bring them out from the peoples and gather them from the countries and bring them to their own land; and I will feed them on the mountains of Israel, by the streams, and in all the inhabited places of the land. 14 "I will feed them in a good pasture, and their grazing ground will be on the mountain heights of Israel. There they will lie down on good grazing ground and feed in rich pasture on the mountains of Israel. 15 "I will feed My flock and I will lead them to rest," declares the Lord GOD. 16 "I will seek the lost, bring back the scattered, bind up the broken and strengthen the sick; but the fat and the strong I will destroy. I will feed them with judgment. 17 "As for you, My flock,thus says the Lord GOD, 'Behold, I will judge between one sheep and another, between the rams and the male goats. 18 'Is it too slight a thing for you that you should feed in the good pasture, that you must tread down with your feet the rest of your pastures? Or that you should drink of the clear waters, that you must foul the rest with your feet? 19 'As for My flock, they must eat what you tread down with your feet and drink what you foul with your feet!' " 20 Therefore, thus says the Lord GOD to them, "Behold, I, even I, will judge between the fat sheep and the lean sheep. 21 "Because you push with side and with shoulder, and thrust at all the weak with your horns until you have scattered them abroad, 22 therefore, I will deliver My flock, and they will no longer be a prey; and I will judge between one sheep and another. 23 "Then I will set over them one shepherd, My servant David, and he will feed them; he will feed them himself and be their shepherd. 24 "And I, the LORD, will be their God, and My servant David will be prince among them; I the LORD have spoken. 25 "I will make a covenant of peace with them and eliminate harmful beasts from the land so that they may live securely in the wilderness and sleep in the woods. 26 "I will make them and the places around My hill a blessing. And I will cause showers to come down in their season; they will be showers of blessing. 27 "Also the tree of the field will yield its fruit and the earth will yield its increase, and they will be secure on their land.

I'm not sure I've ever been able to read these passages without welling up in tears.

Good reading for both the shepherds of the flock and the sheep of the flock.

Oh my goodness Jethro, thank you so much for those very kind words. The Lord gets all the glory for what He has put in my heart to do. I'm only the servant carrying out His will. I know that you are aware of that, and I need to give Him the glory and not steal what belongs to only Him.

You are certainly a blessed servant as well. I have learned from you, of which I am so very much grateful. to Jesus for putting you in my path as a genuine Saint of our God. Bless you my dear friend.
 
God bless all ....
I am glad you are still here with us.

Guard your heart, guard your kids, and be a submissive wife ONLY to a man who has proved himself worthy of that submission.
I continue to be very concerned for you and your kids.
 
I am glad you are still here with us.

Guard your heart, guard your kids, and be a submissive wife ONLY to a man who has proved himself worthy of that submission.
I continue to be very concerned for you and your kids.

Pizza you are very sweet... thank you so very much for your concern for us. Whatever happens it will be Gods will... please don't worry. God bless you always for your heart Pizza.
 
No, you have made one mistake and there will be no erasing and correcting it. It must, now, be lived through. This time you know your error and you are learning from it and now you must profit from the mistake God knew, thousands of, years ago you would make.

Now you are in a position to learn from the error and if you drag him to Christian Counseling, if required, both of you will learn from God because of it.

Please remember two things. First, the verbal abuse will grow until it becomes physical and th physical will grow until it becomes attempted murder or murder! Second, he knows that without you he is not complete. Please use these two facts wisely to heal your union with him.

This is a textbook answer, but there's two sides to this coin. Under the right circumstances, this could be the ideal advice, however, I must disagree that verbal abuse has to escalate into violence or murder. She will be ok if she goes back to him. She's been given instructions about the situation by God. I think perhaps, that may supercede this otherwise excellent advice? God told her to stay (she left), God told her to return, and confirmed it for her! My thought is, mswright6488, how much do you need? If the Lord takes you to a door, He's going to let you walk through it safely. He did tell you to trust in Him, right? So do it! Obey the Lord and trust Him.

I left on my own because of verbal abuse to me and my children. God told me then (TO STAY) but it became too much for me to handle. if I was supposed to stay then.... what would be the difference in my going back to my husband? God said He would change my husband if I put my trust in Him. But I did not listen to the Lord and I left. I was supposed to lean on God for my strength to get through it until God brought a break through in our marriage. It was my doing and I feel my place is with my husband and I must be the one to make it right for our marriage.

God promised us that He will not put more on us than we can bear, so, you talked yourself into that one somehow. If you know that God wants you to be there, then it would be a big difference for you to return. It's called repentance. You know that you made a mistake, and you have the opportunity to correct it! Trust Him and obey Him. Walk out your faith in your Lord. I'll pray for you all.
 
She will be ok if she goes back to him.
How, based on posts on a message board, can you be sure of that?

So she goes back now - will the message that the husband get be that SHE was in the wrong and HE was right all along?
Will the message be more basic - that who was right or wrong does not matter, she caved and came back - giving him (in HIS mind) license to behave as he did before?

You cannot possibly know the outcome based on what we know.
 
How, based on posts on a message board, can you be sure of that?

So she goes back now - will the message that the husband get be that SHE was in the wrong and HE was right all along?
Will the message be more basic - that who was right or wrong does not matter, she caved and came back - giving him (in HIS mind) license to behave as he did before?

You cannot possibly know the outcome based on what we know.

I guess I don't know for sure based on posts. I am assuming that mswright did tell the truth that God told her to stay? That being so, She should have faith and do as the Lord told her to.

Why would she go back and tell him that he was right? Why wouldn't she take the Lord back with her and tell him that the Lord said to her that they should stay together? That they both were wrong and should be better and serve the Lord together...??

Yes, it may be scary. Yes, there are unknowns. That's why they call it faith brother. Faith is spelled r-i-s-k. Should we tell her to put more faith in her husbands ability to hurt her, or in God? I'm sorry mswright but this situation is too dangerous to depend on God in? Uhh, no. How about yea thou I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil for thou art with me?

The lack of faith in God that is displayed in this thread is disconcerting.
 
I guess I don't know for sure based on posts. I am assuming that mswright did tell the truth that God told her to stay? That being so, She should have faith and do as the Lord told her to.
I have to agree with this. And it's clear to me that mswright6488 wants to be obedient and is scoping out the counsel of her brothers and sisters so she can be sure she's doing God's will. Can't find fault in that.

I'm no counselor, and I defer to the wisdom and knowledge and training of those who are, but I do know from my own experience that confronting abuse is as much a part of God's will at times as is silently enduring abuse. It's the ugly side of truth that I have had a very difficult time dealing with in my own marriage. If it's time to confront (in the love of God, of course) then it's time to have just as much faith to do that as it was time to have faith to silently endure.

The beginning of this thread reminded me of the time God told Hagar to go back and submit to her horrible mistress Sarah. Sometimes God says to do that. In my natural self I would tell her to not go back unless she's prepared to make a godly stand against the verbal/ emotional abuse. Whether that's the Spirit talking, or not, I don't know. She ultimately is the one who has to sort out all the voices around and in her and discern what God is asking her to do.

If she goes back, she has my support because, right or wrong, I don't feel she should would be doing that without having carefully considered the situation and seeking God about it. With God, even if you're wrong it may not be pleasant, but God will still be there with you if you went in with a genuine seeking heart.
 
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I am deeply deeply touched by my brothers and sisters responses to my thread. It is exactly as Jethro and Edward have said. That is my hearts desire. Its about obeying our Lord and trusting not in flesh but that with God ALL things are possible and we CAN do ALL things through Jesus who gives us the strength to do it. Our Christian walk is very hard at times... we have to go through the fire and stay above the storms of life. Jesus had to endure and we must do the same. I love you all very deeply with the love of Jesus.
 
God bless you today Chopper. I will pm you again on Friday. That's the next time I will be able to. Stay blessed Chopper... and thank you for being there for me.
 
well as odd as it may sound to some.. I have been told not to go back to my husband after all. By a faithful man of our Lord I have been told to stay right where I am and God will make things right for me and my children from here. Thank you all for your prayers and sorry I got upset with some of my brothers and sisters. But those that said you would not pray for me to be united with my husband... well that was God. And Im sure for good reason. I love you all very much.
 
Your willingness to do the hard thing reminds me of when Abraham lifted the knife to slay Isaac in obedience to God but was then stopped from doing so, after which God spoke through the angel, "now I know that you fear God" (Genesis 22:12 NASB).
 
Your willingness to do the hard thing reminds me of when Abraham lifted the knife to slay Isaac in obedience to God but was then stopped from doing so, after which God spoke through the angel, "now I know that you fear God" (Genesis 22:12 NASB).
This whole thing reminds me of that.

Good observation - for a HIllBilly with a bad haircut.
 
well as odd as it may sound to some.. I have been told not to go back to my husband after all. By a faithful man of our Lord I have been told to stay right where I am and God will make things right for me and my children from here. Thank you all for your prayers and sorry I got upset with some of my brothers and sisters. But those that said you would not pray for me to be united with my husband... well that was God. And Im sure for good reason. I love you all very much.
I don't see where anyone said that?
As Christians the goal is that both people will respond to God's will.
I prayed that God would restore your marriage.
 
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