I have been married for over a year and been with my spouse 8 years prior. I love her to death and am very ashamed of what I did at my friends bachelor party 5 months ago. We went to the city, drank a lot of alcohol and ended up at a strip club. I didn't want to go but since our whole group went in, I just followed. I could of been responsable and just took a cab home but I didn't and from there, things got worse. I didn't have intercourse but did do other things. The entire night felt out of my control and completely out of character. I would have never done this on my own will in a normal state. It was the alcohol and the peer pressure - both not to blame but only myself for getting to that point.
My wife and I have both committed our lives to Christ a month ago. To tell you the truth, God probably would of never spoken to me if I never committed this act. This was my big fall before Jesus could save me. I have forgiven myself and I think God has too. When I was saved, all the guilt went away but the shame didn't. I have not told my wife in fear of her reaction. I have definitely learned from my mistake. I feel terrible that I tainted our near perfect relationship. She is not a forgiving person by nature and holds grudges quite easily.
I was spiritually lost during this period when I committed this horrendous act. Just thinking about it disgusts me. I know God is trying to tell me that I need to tell her. I try reading posts about other people in this situation and it seems it's 50/50 on to tell or not to tell.
I'm a new Christian and really trying to show God I love him by obeying him. I want to do what's right as much as I possibly can. Before I was saved I was content with not telling her, now it's all I think about and happens to come up in every bible study, reading or at church.
I know we should confess our sins to one another to be fully healed but I can't bear hurting her just to have this get off my chest. I am afraid of her reaction. I know I should tell her. Any advise how I can or if I should?
My wife and I have both committed our lives to Christ a month ago. To tell you the truth, God probably would of never spoken to me if I never committed this act. This was my big fall before Jesus could save me. I have forgiven myself and I think God has too. When I was saved, all the guilt went away but the shame didn't. I have not told my wife in fear of her reaction. I have definitely learned from my mistake. I feel terrible that I tainted our near perfect relationship. She is not a forgiving person by nature and holds grudges quite easily.
I was spiritually lost during this period when I committed this horrendous act. Just thinking about it disgusts me. I know God is trying to tell me that I need to tell her. I try reading posts about other people in this situation and it seems it's 50/50 on to tell or not to tell.
I'm a new Christian and really trying to show God I love him by obeying him. I want to do what's right as much as I possibly can. Before I was saved I was content with not telling her, now it's all I think about and happens to come up in every bible study, reading or at church.
I know we should confess our sins to one another to be fully healed but I can't bear hurting her just to have this get off my chest. I am afraid of her reaction. I know I should tell her. Any advise how I can or if I should?
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