jillian.h said:
I've been doing alot of thinking lately. I've been having problems with my marriage, and i'm definately not ready to get a divorce, but i was just thinking about whether or not its always a sin to get divorced. I know that God says never to get divorced,
Actually, no that isnt what scripture as a whole presents sister.
God hates the premature ending of any covenant. And primarily its caused by sin on the part of at least one person in that covenant.
God wills that we ALL simply do what we promised we would do and be merciful to one another.
But because He also knows that men sin against their wives, the reverse also being true, He has given permission for the innocent to walk out of the covenant as far back as Exodus 21 when that covenant is being broken with serious offense.
but its been not even one year, and my husband hates me. Also i just recently found out that he's more into men, and he's only with me as a cover up so other people wont find out about his issues. Now, i could probably put up with that, but must I? Does God require that i stay with a man who does not love me and cheats on me with other men?
If your husband is cheating and he will not repent, then yes, you have scriptural cause for divorcing him.
That should always be a last resort....and it may even be something that could show him how serious this all is to maybe even bring him to repentance, but fully and finally you do have just cause for divorce where cheating is concerned.
Also, In Matthew 5:32, Jesus said,
[quote:33tq7fo7]But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Does that mean that if i ever were to get a divorce, would that mean It would be wrong of me to get married again? Anybody who gets divorced and then remarried is committing a sin? I'm not sure if i'm understanding this passage correctly or not.
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Just looking directly at Christs words alone there, He is making concession for remarriage in HIs own words in that passage.
Thats not His point, of course, He's not trying to make a list of reasons 'why' we can divorce there as some suppose, but His words are more as they typically were with the Jews who were questioning Him there...to expose their guilt.
But the manner in which He responds very clearly shows that at the very least that sexual sin is cause for divorce and remarriage if thats what ends up happening.