Again, what seems to "work" in terms of making our lives better is not the appropriate criteria!!!
Jesus said the way of the gospel was one of bearing our own crosses. So why do you seem to think that if using force enabled you to escape a problem, that this is what Jesus would approve of?
Did Jesus "fight back"?
I'm not going to tell my children to not fight back and just stand there and get beat to a bloody pulp.
That is what happened to me and it never worked, never!
It wasn't until I fought back that I was left alone.
You can be a pacifist all you want, but I will not allow my children to be a punching bag while I am alive!