God is not moulding us to have `one size fits all personality'. Our personality sometimes reflects what God is preparing us for. Jesus had his own personality, which some Christians nowadays may not agree with some of the things he said to Pharisees. We are all unique (as you said) and God deals with us as individuals. Soldiers are trained for frontline warfare. Citizens do not necessarily go through the same tough training. Some Christians have more responsibility than others. Remember the distribution of talents in Matthew 25:14-17. This is one of the main reasons why I should never judge a Christian on what they say and do, just because I will say or act as they did. To God, it may be what the Spirit of God wants them to do and say at that time.