Older woman younger man-taboo in Christian community?

[SingleDude1997]

Greetings Christians. It seems that within Christians, if there's an age gap between a couple, the man is the one that's older. I'm a 27 year old Christian man still single. I'm interested in women that are older than me. It seems that with the younger women it's the same old thing-they want to have children and start a family. And they want the big $30,000 wedding. And the young ones tend to be more spoiled. I'd like to find a lady about 35-45. If she has children, that's OK as long as they're older, say about 12 years old and up. It's not that I don't like kids, there's just so many challenges to raising kids now compared to 60 or 70 years ago. The cost of having a family is many times higher than it was back then(and wages haven't increased that much in recent decades). And trying to teach your kids Christian values is harder than ever. What they will be taught at school, what they will see on TV and internet is the opposite of what a Christian parent would want them to consume. And all of the miserable days I'd have at work because the newborn kept my wife and I up the night before(sleep is very important to me). People think I'm crazy for wanting an older woman and be willing to raise someone else's kids. But I would rather do it that way. What do you guys think? And I find women in their 40s very attractive, so physical apperance is not a problem.

 

[SingleDude1997]

And something I forgot to mention. Women generally live a few years longer, so wouldn't it make sense that she's older One of my great grandmothers had to live the last 34 years of her life alone because grandpa died so soon. And my other great grandmother has been living alone for the past 15 years due to her husband's death.

 

[hawkman]

If she has children, that's OK as long as they're older, say about 12 years old and up.

Teenagers that may not respect you any at all , think about that long and hard my brother .

 

[Brian47]

It looks like you know what you want in a partner. Women aged 35-45 may have strong values and be more calm inside. It's great that you are okay with taking care of older kids. Looks aren't all that’s important - being grown-up in feelings can help a lot in a tie.

 

[Carry_Your_Name]

Greetings Christians. It seems that within Christians, if there's an age gap between a couple, the man is the one that's older. I'm a 27 year old Christian man still single. I'm interested in women that are older than me. It seems that with the younger women it's the same old thing-they want to have children and start a family. And they want the big $30,000 wedding. And the young ones tend to be more spoiled. I'd like to find a lady about 35-45. If she has children, that's OK as long as they're older, say about 12 years old and up. It's not that I don't like kids, there's just so many challenges to raising kids now compared to 60 or 70 years ago. The cost of having a family is many times higher than it was back then(and wages haven't increased that much in recent decades). And trying to teach your kids Christian values is harder than ever. What they will be taught at school, what they will see on TV and internet is the opposite of what a Christian parent would want them to consume. And all of the miserable days I'd have at work because the newborn kept my wife and I up the night before(sleep is very important to me). People think I'm crazy for wanting an older woman and be willing to raise someone else's kids. But I would rather do it that way. What do you guys think? And I find women in their 40s very attractive, so physical apperance is not a problem.

It's not taboo, but misogyny and prejudice against women, as women's worth is inherently tied to their child bearing potential, 35 and beyond is widely considered as reproductively dead. If God brings such a mature lady to brighten and enrich your life, go for it, don't let any social taboo stand in your way. However, if she has had her own kids with one or more ex-husbands, I'd advise you against getting involved with her, make sure she's childfree with no baggage that might complicate, even compromise her relationship with you, and also love her for herself, not anything she has or any future expectation of starting a family with her.

 

[for_his_glory]

Age is just a number as I am 12 years older than my husband who is 59 and I am 70. We've been married for 23 years and our marriage is based on God bringing us together as being equally yoked together and Christ being the center of our marriage.

Before ever getting married take time to really know each other and establish a friendship that consist of trust and belief in each other. Allow Christ to be the center of your friendship and this will allow you to begin a marriage that is totally Christ centered. Always resolve your problems with the Holy Ghost guidance through the word and you will always have a good marriage. Always be opened and honest with each other for this builds trust in the relationship, but if that trust is broken there is no relationship. Love each other unconditionally as Christ loves us and forgives us our faults. As long as we live in this flesh we will sin at times, but when you acknowledge those sins and ask for forgiveness God will always forgive us. Always be ready to forgive each other seventy times seven, Matthew 22:21,22, and not only forgive, but forget the sin as God remembers our sins no more when we repent of them. The outside appearance will always change and beauty may fade, but it is the heart of the person we are to love and the heart will never change as long as the love of Christ dwells within it.

 

[Elijah7777]

I'd like to find a lady about 35-45

That is the prime of life for women. By the time they reach that age, they have a keen understanding of men, and there’s nothing anyone can do to deceive them. My wife was 35 when I married her, which is considered a high-risk age for pregnancy, but everything worked out well for the most part. Our son is amazing—magna cum laude* with a degree in computer engineering." *"with great honor".

 

[SailorWriter]

I mean, I like to have a relationship with a Christian woman who's older than me (preferably like 5-7 years older) :P
It's not wrong as long you guys are legally adults.

 

[Elijah7777]

What do you guys think? And I find women in their 40s very attractive, so physical apperance is not a problem.

If you marry a divorced women Paul tells us we will have problems in the flesh. Of course all marriages have problems. For some people it is worth it, but it is difficult for the children. This is reflected in the divorce rate for second marriage is higher than the divorce rate for a first marriage.