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My best friend - an opposite sex

Blev said:
I don't think a person should hang out with the opposite sex alone even if it is innocent. Things happen that are not planned and as much as we would not intentionally get involved you can't trust the flesh or the devil. If they want to be out with their friend the need to bring their wife or girlfriend along.
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I think this only applies if you are in a relationship/marriage with someone else.
 
Grazer said:
I've just had a lovely afternoon watching a movie then having dinner with a female friend who's an atheist :D We talked about a lot of things and yes, I confide in her
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If you're in a relationship or marriage, I'm not gonna lie, this looks shady.

No matter how good your intentions are, and you know yourself better than i do, what it looks like to others matters.
 
Nick said:
If you're in a relationship or marriage, I'm not gonna lie, this looks shady.

No matter how good your intentions are, and you know yourself better than i do, what it looks like to others matters.
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Actually, what it looks like to others is the one thing that doesn't matter to me. What matters to me is what my fiance thinks and she knows about my friend and trusts us.

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Grazer said:
Actually, what it looks like to others is the one thing that doesn't matter to me. What matters to me is what my fiance thinks and she knows about my friend and trusts us.

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Well what others think should matter. Are we not told to be witnesses, and to flee from the appearance of evil?

Classik said:
One thing I like is trust and understanding. :thumbsup
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This isn't about trust and understanding.
 
handy said:
Thanks for the welcome back, Classik... yep, with homeschooling two kids, keeping up with my parttime job and other duties, just haven't had the time to do much online lately.



I have no problems with having friends of the opposite sex... but best friend... that one special friend which is very much a soul mate, one whom one can share all thoughts and problems with... that should be one's mate. A husband's best buddy.. a wife's BFF... those relationships can actually help a marriage by allowing for healthy activity with others... but having a soul mate of the opposite sex that is not your spouse... that's opening up one's marriage to a whole lot of problems.
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Looking at the whole issue in this light, I have to agree with you.
 
Grazer said:
Yes but we've yet to establish this is evil

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Movie and dinner with a woman? Sounds like a date to me. I don't know anyone's fiance who would be ok with this. Even if it's innocent, it opens up a can of worms and doesn't look good.
 
Nick said:
Movie and dinner with a woman? Sounds like a date to me. I don't know anyone's fiance who would be ok with this. Even if it's innocent, it opens up a can of worms and doesn't look good.
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Can of worms? How so? I mean, if something is innocent, it is innocent... how should evil have its place with that?
How is it a date if none of the people involved would consider it a date?

I wonder if for anyone living in our world today, where people of both genders share almost everything, it would be even possible to avoid befriending someone of the opposite sex, and consequently to have dinner or watch a movie with them occassionally in a non-date-ish manner?
(Sorry for that sentence structure, I hope it makes some sense.)

If I get romantically involved with a guy that has no female close friends I would be wondering what's wrong with him. :D

So, yeah, if my fiancé, should I ever happen to have one, has an innocent dinner with a female friend of his I would be totally okay with that. I assume his friends are an important part of who he is, and I want him to feel as good as possible, thus I want for him to enjoy the time with the friends he cares for.

I would absolutley NOT be okay with him abandonning some of his best friends because of me, just because they happen to be female. Because abandonning a friend is vile and gruesome. I would never want my beloved to do such a horrible thing.
 
Claudya said:
Can of worms? How so? I mean, if something is innocent, it is innocent... how should evil have its place with that?
How is it a date if none of the people involved would consider it a date?
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But who are the people involved? Is it not also the people both Grazer, his fiance and his best female friend regularly hang out with?

I do agree that the most important thing is making sure whatever is going on is innocent, but there is another important aspect as well. Christians are not in a relationship with God and that's it. We fellowship together, support each other, rebuke one another and witness to each other and those who are not brothers and sisters yet. We're not on some private chat network with God.

We have to consider how this will impact and look to others.

I wonder if for anyone living in our world today, where people of both genders share almost everything, it would be even possible to avoid befriending someone of the opposite sex, and consequently to have dinner or watch a movie with them occassionally in a non-date-ish manner?
(Sorry for that sentence structure, I hope it makes some sense.)

If I get romantically involved with a guy that has no female close friends I would be wondering what's wrong with him. :D
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I'm not talking about being friends or not with the opposite sex. I'm talking about best friends, ie confide in, have dinner/movie with - the stuff that couples do. If you're single, then go for it! But if the person you're having 'dinner' with and confiding in is of the opposite sex and is not your other half, I don't think it's appropriate, if you're alone with them.

So, yeah, if my fiancé, should I ever happen to have one, has an innocent dinner with a female friend of his I would be totally okay with that. I assume his friends are an important part of who he is, and I want him to feel as good as possible, thus I want for him to enjoy the time with the friends he cares for.
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Just thought I'd mention that we are also to flee from temptation. Just a thought.

I would absolutley NOT be okay with him abandonning some of his best friends because of me, just because they happen to be female. Because abandonning a friend is vile and gruesome. I would never want my beloved to do such a horrible thing.
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Just so you know, I'm not suggesting anyone abandon any friend.
 
Nick said:
Movie and dinner with a woman? Sounds like a date to me. I don't know anyone's fiance who would be ok with this. Even if it's innocent, it opens up a can of worms and doesn't look good.
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Well now you do :)

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