My Boyfriend who is a Christian wants to live a drag queen lifestyle

[ChocolateNinja]

He says that he has God in his heart, but he questions everything in the Bible. He says that a man can't dress like woman in the Old Testament is cancelled just like abstaining from eating pork and ocean bottom feeders is also cancelled. He says I am in no place to judge what he is doing. His argument consists of "well if a girl can wear pants, why can't a guy wear a skirt with some heels and make up?" I believe that God didn't create men to be feminine to that much of an extent, taking things from our identity that indicate our femininity. I don't feel comfortable, I'm not lesbian so if he lived a drag queen lifestyle, wouldn't he be counted as a girl, so wouldn't I be lesbian, which to the Bible is a sin? CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE GIVE ME SCRIPTURAL ADVICE OR ADVICE FROM THEIR OWN PAST EXPERIENCES

 

[evenifigoalone]

So far as pants are concerned, I wouldn't say they are considered a male garment. Not in today's society. Especially since pants for girls exist.
On one hand, the idea of male and female clothing can and does change with society and culture. Back in Biblical days, men wore something more akin to a dress.
On the other, to my knowledge, scripture seem to state that men and women shouldn't crossdress. This is to my understanding. For a new testament example, 1 Corinthians 6:9 comes to mind.

But no, dressing like the opposite sex does not make you a member of that sex.


I'm hoping someone with a little more insight will answer, but since no one has yet I figured I'd try.

 

[Edward]

A riddle.

How many legs does a cow have?
Four.
Ok, now suppose that we call the cows tail a leg. Now how many legs does the cow have?
Five.
Wrong, four. Calling a cows tail a leg does not make it so.

Point: No, he would not be counted as a girl. He would be counted as a man in sin. I sense your concern of the situation and applaud your perception of the wrongness of it. My thought is that, be careful not to let him and his difficulty affect your walk with the Lord!

This is a sticky situation. The first scripture which popped into my head when reading your post was, do not be unequally yoked...but we have to remember that the Lord loves him and died for him too. The crux of it is that he is one of the Lords sheep which has lost his way and needs help. Maybe an evil spirit is putting these temptations in his head?

Ephesians 6:12
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places./(KJV)

This is a spiritual matter. He needs prayer. It's really easy to rationalize scriptures into allowing one to do what they want. That he questions the bible would suggest that you both read/study together? Perhaps go to church? Man's carnal mind is such that, sorta like a computer...garbage in/garbage out. Soo...you need to get him to spend more time in the Word, preferably in a group setting. Not about the question or topic, about everything. All we can do is plant seeds, God gives the increase. So getting him to study more and hear other brothers and sisters perspectives will allow him to make this decision himself without pressure, along with yours and others prayers for him for the Lord to open his eyes about this deception, and last but not least...the Holy Spirit will help too by convicting him internally and touching his heart. :wink

I will pray for him too. Both of you. God bless you sister

 

[Knotical]

This guy sounds seriously conflicted and deceived, which tells me he is lying about something. Either he is truly confused about what he believes, or he is looking for attention.

 

[JCitoL]

there are some devilish spirits which could through the system of spiritual iniquity make certain men have (even strong) feelings of woman on sexual basis, and if the man is young, then the effect could be more powerful, and the important then (of course) is the devilish spirits, hiding (so to speak) behind the rays of God's light, to be expelled, because they use some part of the Heavenly grace/bliss (including the sexuality) in order to entice the relevant people, and if the affected can perceive the foulness which is the devilish spirits themselves i.e. without the misused grace/bliss, then this will facilitate the resolution, however, the sanctification is the resolution, because the Lord, Jesus, just has ever cast the devilish spirits out of the possessed, even when they did not understand the nature of the problem (at all)

Blessings

 

[ezra]

He says that he has God in his heart, but he questions everything in the Bible. He says that a man can't dress like woman in the Old Testament is cancelled just like abstaining from eating pork and ocean bottom feeders is also cancelled. He says I am in no place to judge what he is doing. His argument consists of "well if a girl can wear pants, why can't a guy wear a skirt with some heels and make up?" I believe that God didn't create men to be feminine to that much of an extent, taking things from our identity that indicate our femininity. I don't feel comfortable, I'm not lesbian so if he lived a drag queen lifestyle, wouldn't he be counted as a girl, so wouldn't I be lesbian, which to the Bible is a sin? CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE GIVE ME SCRIPTURAL ADVICE OR ADVICE FROM THEIR OWN PAST EXPERIENCES

dump him its not bible to want to be a drag queen be not un equally yoked together . unless he changes his way of thinking--repents sorry you dont need him
2 Corinthians 6:14King James Version (KJV)
14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? read this http://www.gotquestions.org/unequally-yoked.html

 

[Transformouse]

When you say that he wants to live a drag-queen lifestyle, does he want live a drag-queen lifestyle or is he transgendered?

 

[ezra]

When you say that he wants to live a drag-queen lifestyle, does he want live a drag-queen lifestyle or is he transgendered?

At the end of the day, you should be secure enough in your faith to be comfortable with someone who holds different views to you. If you aren't comfortable with him dressing up in drag, that's not a problem with him.

ummm there is a HUGE problem men dont dress up like woman .its not natural .somebody needs to read the word of God.

 

[Transformouse]

ummm there is a HUGE problem men dont dress up like woman .its not natural .somebody needs to read the word of God.

The internet isn't natural, cars aren't natural, clothes aren't natural. I assume you use all of these, I can tell you use at least two.

What is natural is understanding, compassion, and empathy.

 

[evenifigoalone]

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Not necessarily directed at the last poster.

 

[ezra]

i base every thing on the bible dressing as a drag queen is wrong. if you're saying as a Christian its ok, i suggest you read the Bible. both old testament and the new explicitly says its wrong----a sin. this is not my words nor my judgement but Bible

 

[quinntar]

He says that he has God in his heart, but he questions everything in the Bible. He says that a man can't dress like woman in the Old Testament is cancelled just like abstaining from eating pork and ocean bottom feeders is also cancelled. He says I am in no place to judge what he is doing. His argument consists of "well if a girl can wear pants, why can't a guy wear a skirt with some heels and make up?" I believe that God didn't create men to be feminine to that much of an extent, taking things from our identity that indicate our femininity. I don't feel comfortable, I'm not lesbian so if he lived a drag queen lifestyle, wouldn't he be counted as a girl, so wouldn't I be lesbian, which to the Bible is a sin? CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE GIVE ME SCRIPTURAL ADVICE OR ADVICE FROM THEIR OWN PAST EXPERIENCES

Well I would only ask "are you attracted to drag queens?" if not then you know what to do.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

He says that he has God in his heart, but he questions everything in the Bible. He says that a man can't dress like woman in the Old Testament is cancelled just like abstaining from eating pork and ocean bottom feeders is also cancelled.

He's just another victim of the profound ignorance of the old covenant/testament that the leadership of the church propagates from one generation to the next.

Unless he can come up with a spiritual truth that God was pointing us to that now makes the literal fulfillment of the law about how to dress obsolete we are all still required to act out in accordance with the sexual apparatus we've been assigned.

I'm not lesbian so if he lived a drag queen lifestyle, wouldn't he be counted as a girl, so wouldn't I be lesbian, which to the Bible is a sin?

Hopefully you don't mean that you are sleeping with your boyfriend. But even if you were married, you would not be engaging in a lesbian relationship by sleeping with a man who dressed like a woman. Despite what Hollywood wants us to believe, biology is what determines sex. So until he gets the parts changed, you're not in danger of having a forbidden relationship with a woman should you two decide to get married.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Frankly, the moral thing to do would be to end the relationship.

 

[Mrs. Submission]

I'm not even a Christian and I know this is ungodly behavior. Why would you want to date a crossdresser?

 

[Ghost]

No matter where you stand on LGBTQA issues, I know that both sides would agree that only wearing dresses does not mean someone is or wants to be a women. So you're not a lesbian.

Since I don't have anything on it memorized I can't say much about whether cross-dressing is considered a sin based on the teachings of the bible, so I won't be much help with that.'

However, we all do sin and I'm not sure why, if cross-dressing is a sin, that would be so much worse compared to other sins. If you want to date a sinless person you're going to be single for life.
If he believes in God and that Jesus died on the cross for our sins, that's the definition of Christian if that's what you're worried about.
So personally I'd consider his personality and if he is kind and loving- that's what seems most important in the bible. Love and kindness.

And wondering about something doesn't mean he doesn't believe in the bible.

It was mentioned earlier that girls used to not be able to wear anything but skirts and dresses- and hey, now they wear pants and other previously male-exclusive articles of clothing. If the bible only says "don't cross-dress!" then, well, what's considered girly or guyish clothing is determined by society and society is ever-changing.

However, you do mention being uncomfortable. If you feel uncomfortable, the relationship probably won't work out and anyways any relationship you're uncomfortable most likely isn't a good one.