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Pierced ears for boys/men?

farouk

farouk

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Okay so on the other thread where the emphasis was on sth else, someone was wondering about the idea of pierced ears for boys/men? (the person thought it would make a suitable separate thread.)

Like in one's own family, what do you think of pierced ears for boys/men?
 
while it is beyond me why man or boy would want to do that, there is no biblical proscription whatsoever
 
I wrote in the other thread that I wouldn't allow my boys to do it. I wrote that one reason is because I would not allow them to do something that is permanent and have a social stigma.

Farouk asked in the other thread, but I had not answered, if it carries a social stigma, because where he lives they all wear them. I would say that here, yes, earrings on males very much have a social stigma attached. In all the places I have lived they are not acceptable for males.

Another reason why I would not allow my boys to have their ear pierced, and I would discourage it even if they were young adults, is because I have known far too many males who had it done when they were young only to regret it later in life and not wear them anymore. I would recommend to my sons that if they think they want an earring, to wait until at least their late 20's, consider what occupation they are in (and the acceptability of having one), and then make the decision.
 
If its generally frowned upon in mainstream society of the area, probably not a good idea. All that pain, hassle, and $$$ only to be stigmatized...probably a bad call. If its culturally acceptable then I guess its not a big deal, although with the world being so connected these days you'd have to wonder if the culture the person is in now is the culture he's always going to be in.
 
PouringRain said:
I wrote in the other thread that I wouldn't allow my boys to do it. I wrote that one reason is because I would not allow them to do something that is permanent and have a social stigma.

Farouk asked in the other thread, but I had not answered, if it carries a social stigma, because where he lives they all wear them. I would say that here, yes, earrings on males very much have a social stigma attached. In all the places I have lived they are not acceptable for males.

Another reason why I would not allow my boys to have their ear pierced, and I would discourage it even if they were young adults, is because I have known far too many males who had it done when they were young only to regret it later in life and not wear them anymore. I would recommend to my sons that if they think they want an earring, to wait until at least their late 20's, consider what occupation they are in (and the acceptability of having one), and then make the decision.
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Pouring Rain,

Ty for thoughtful comments; they are helpful.

The other aspect is maybe hygiene, if you see what I mean. (Like if the parent knows that some boys are likely to 'experiment' on their ears anyway with a dirty or unsterile needle, what is best to do in those circumstances...)
 
in my youth i had my left ear pierced. and i wont do that agian.

and in those days a man who had both ears pierced is considered effimate.
 
jasoncran said:
in my youth i had my left ear pierced. and i wont do that agian.

and in those days a man who had both ears pierced is considered effimate.
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jasoncran: I guess that these days for young men its almost the tough guy image, instead. It's now the usual thing for boys and young men to have both done, I think; whether it's their moms taking them as boys, or young men deciding, they now mainly seem to do both, I think, as the custom/fashion.
 
farouk said:
jasoncran: I guess that these days for young men its almost the tough guy image, instead. It's now the usual thing for boys and young men to have both done, I think; whether it's their moms taking them as boys, or young men deciding, they now mainly seem to do both, I think, as the custom/fashion.
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that was in the early 90's.lol

and men werent like the john waynes you assumed to be.
 
jasoncran said:
that was in the early 90's.lol

and men werent like the john waynes you assumed to be.
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j:

What I meant was, if they have it done at all, they more often than not get both ears done rather than just one. :)

Maybe it varies from one area to another but all the boys who played ball in the street where I lived happen to have earrings in both ears.

(But what do I know?) :shrug
 
farouk said:
Pouring Rain,

Ty for thoughtful comments; they are helpful.

The other aspect is maybe hygiene, if you see what I mean. (Like if the parent knows that some boys are likely to 'experiment' on their ears anyway with a dirty or unsterile needle, what is best to do in those circumstances...)
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To be honest, that is not a concern of mine. If they decided to do it on their own, and were stupid enough to use an unsterilized needle, then any infection resulting from it is a lesson learned.

I'm not going to give in out of fear or threat.

There is a reason the Bible says to obey your parents that your days may be long. ;)
 
PouringRain said:
To be honest, that is not a concern of mine. If they decided to do it on their own, and were stupid enough to use an unsterilized needle, then any infection resulting from it is a lesson learned.

I'm not going to give in out of fear or threat.

There is a reason the Bible says to obey your parents that your days may be long. ;)
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PouringRain:

Oh yes I strongly agree about honoring parents, yes.

(At the same time I think this is only rather notionally and tenuously linked with earrings - for boys or girls - if at all.)
 
farouk said:
PouringRain:

Oh yes I strongly agree about honoring parents, yes.

(At the same time I think this is only rather notionally and tenuously linked with earrings - for boys or girls - if at all.)
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Perhaps that could be your next topic. :) On what constitutes a child obeying his/her parents. Obeying ones parents is not quite the same as honoring ones parents. Both honoring and obeying ones parents are mentioned in the Bible. I was speaking of obeying ones parents. To obey is to carry out the commands and instructs. It is being dutiful and compliant. God is out ultimate authority, and then the Bible provides other hierarchy of authority also. The parents are placed over the children, and provided the rules of the parents are not in direct conflict with those of God (as the parent should be submitted to God's authority), then if the child does not follow those rules she/he is in disobedience. I don't see how earrings are notionally or tenuously linked if it is something that the parent is not in favor of. If I make a rule that they will not have their ears pierced, then to get the ears pierced is disobedience.
 
PouringRain said:
Perhaps that could be your next topic. :) On what constitutes a child obeying his/her parents. Obeying ones parents is not quite the same as honoring ones parents. Both honoring and obeying ones parents are mentioned in the Bible. I was speaking of obeying ones parents. To obey is to carry out the commands and instructs. It is being dutiful and compliant. God is out ultimate authority, and then the Bible provides other hierarchy of authority also. The parents are placed over the children, and provided the rules of the parents are not in direct conflict with those of God (as the parent should be submitted to God's authority), then if the child does not follow those rules she/he is in disobedience. I don't see how earrings are notionally or tenuously linked if it is something that the parent is not in favor of. If I make a rule that they will not have their ears pierced, then to get the ears pierced is disobedience.
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Pouring Rain:

Oh I agree about honoring one's parents.

What I was talking about, I guess, was, if it's worthwhile giving them permission to do it, in some circumstances.
 
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