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Last night, the neighbors were yelling again. I think I heard something about a "probation violation," which...for someone who has been in jail and is currently on probation (for a misdemeanor, praise God!), is perfectly frightening. Keep in mind: I was chilling in my own room when I heard all this, and my room is a ways away from their backyard. This is clearly a deliberate attempt to get to me, I get that.

My parents never seem to hear them, probably because my parents spend most of their time in an upstairs room on the opposite side of the house, with their little house dogs and the TV going. I've tried saying "Hey, they talk about me all the time and make fun of me," and my mom told me to adjust my meds :-( . Of course, my dad listens more and just tells me to brush them off.

These people yell about a felony and a public defender. See, here's the thing: that could have happened. I was charged with a serious felony and everybody thought I"d have a public defender. I'm not too good for a public defender, but my parents had the time, money, and inclination to hire a skilled lawyer. As is true of a lot of people, my charges were excessive. Did I break the law? Yup, unfortunately. Was it a felony? No. I was basically punished for being an "uppity mental patient" (long story). People don't like "uppity mental patients." When I was sentenced, the judge commented "you have an excellent attorney," in a tone that told me..."you're lucky, you uppity mental patient." LOL.

So, I actually committed a misdemeanor, which is what I pled guilty to (imagine that). I was given the max, suspended to the max period of probation, per the victim's request. And now...

...people yell about my "Schizophrenia" (actual diagnosis: Bipolar I) and "felony" (actual conviction: class A misdemeanor, might be expunge-able) and all that, and...wow. Now, they've been yelling at me about a "probation violation" and how "the judge took pity on you!" for a couple, 3 months now. Downside: this is not fun, at all. Upside: I'm learning, once again, to lean on The Lord and ask for what I need to push thru and do my own thing, despite what's going on around me. But...

...the level of open, loud hostility is a little disturbing. I don't yell at them. This is apparently how poor people are treated around here. They now and then will yell "why don't you move out into a trailer park?" Thing is...there's lots of social class and stigma issues here, on the surface at least. I was considered "poor white trash, from a rink dink middle class family," now my family is more "comfortable" and I'm considered an "uppity mental patient," blah blah blah. It gets boring to talk about, but then they start it up again, and...ugh.


I write about this often, its just...wow. These people spend way too much time talking at and about me. Now that I think about it...its kinda creepy, actually. I've never spent that much time thinking about or dealing with 1 person, nor do I think I ever will.

As always...here it comes...please pray for my safety, and my family's safety, too. Thanks. :-)
 
I will pray for you. Sounds like you've run into the wrong and nosy crowd.
 
My parents never seem to hear them, probably because my parents spend most of their time in an upstairs room on the opposite side of the house, with their little house dogs and the TV going. I've tried saying "Hey, they talk about me all the time and make fun of me," and my mom told me to adjust my meds :-( . Of course, my dad listens more and just tells me to brush them off.

As always...here it comes...please pray for my safety, and my family's safety, too. Thanks. :)
I have a suggestion, seeing this is a recurring problem for you. You and your parents need to know the truth, whatever that may be.
You have the financial means to buy an inexpensive voice activated recorder. If you can hear them from your room so can a recorder, or set it outside where it can't get wet from the rain, etc.

:pray :hug
 
Thanks, everyone.

Thing is...what I've been, what I'm going through...PALES in comparison to what other people have gone through, go through, will go through...for similar sins, mistakes, misdeeds, etc. I'm blessed beyond measure...its just...well, its not always pleasant being severely mentally ill (and a "trouble maker," apparently) in these United States.

Jesus really --has-- done a work in my life...even in my heart of hearts. I get to be someone completely different, which is something I've always wanted. No, really...that's why I was forever dyeing my hair, wearing ridiculous thrift store outfits, updating my music catalog (which, btw, kinda paid off...I now have "sophisticated" musical tastes, according to one of my more urban friends), and generally being ridiculous in playing at different identities while failing to develop an actual personality, much less any character or substance. Not all my fault per se, but...the world doesn't care, amiright?

So, now, I'm: physically healthy, smart enough for my goals, "delightful company" (no, really), remarkably normal (at least...high functioning...) in terms of personality and such, and...I'm considered "severely mentally ill." No, for real this time.

Downside: stigma, disability, meds 2x daily (could be worse, I know), an odd sense of unease in mainstream, conventional society.

Upside: Well, here's the thing...I always felt kind of...2-dimensional, before Christ and before I went thru all this. Now, its like The Great Divorce or something...I'm remarkably 3-dimensional. Not perfect, not wowing people w/ a carefully crafted persona or anything, just...3-D. I have some depth, some insight, some thoughts and things to say that come from my own thought processes, not just stuff I learned in class or absorbed from a book. I also have flaws, faults, sins and sin patterns. Work-in-Progress, like any other Christian.

As I wrote already, I'm blessed. I'm beginning to see/think that Christ's work in our lives looks different on the surface, but it follows certain themes. Our God is a God of restoration, for instance.

I've rambled. I'm hyped up on my massive Dunkin Donuts iced concoction.

:-)
 
There are laws against harassment. Like Deb said, get a recorder and tape their insults. Let the police handle it from there. It might even be classified as a hate crime.
 
Keeping you in my prayers. How are things going? Are the harrassers still bothering you?
 
Thanks again, everyone.

Part of the problem is...well, I get paranoid anyway, lol. And mentally ill people get picked on, especially with my pre-Jesus backstory.

I'm hoping this will all end, eventually. Problem is...its a small southern town. Details of my psychiatric "treatment" (most of it was torture, if you ask me...) have been spread around because I filed a Medical Board Complaint against one ex-shrink (she got me hooked on Klonopin as a teenager).

So, yeah...for a while there, the neighbors would yell stuff at me from my psych history, and it was unnerving, not mention a bit...infuriating. Those same neighbors would also say things like "yeah, he got passed around. now he's too old," which bothered me for obvious reasons.

Now, its usually better. I listen to the MP3 music on my phone most of the time when I'm outside. The other night I wasn't sleeping well, so I was out on the porch around 1:45 AM, and I heard some lady w/ a country accent saying "yeah, the faggot's got a public defender," or something like that. It was dark, plus my parents have lots of shrubs and trees and flowers everywhere, so its hard for me to see these people in the daytime, and impossible at night. Kinda creepy.

Yesterday, some dude visiting the other neighbors--their house is close to ours--yelled out something when he got out of his jeep and headed to the front porch. I don't know what...I was rockin out to The Velvet Underground...but he was talking/yelling loud enough for me to hear muffled sound thru high volume music. :-(

Its a lot of stuff together. When I was young, my parents were working class. Then they were middle-middle class. Now, they're not rich, but they're on the more "genteel" end of the middle class. That's kinda important around here, because apparently you only get humane treatment if you come from a "good family," or if your people are "important enough," etc. Ahhhh, The Bible Belt--1,000 miles wide, 1 inch deep.

Other thing is...I was considered "poor white trash" until recently. "Trailer trash," even. So, now I'm living with my "genteel" parents, receiving disability, going to school, they hired an attorney for that whole legal mess (Praise God!), on and on it goes. Social class and status issues are all over this, plus mental health stigma, plus sexuality issues, plus whatever happens when someone gets genuinely Born Again and...in my case...The Lord moves in my life in a big, big way. Doesn't sit well with a lot of people around here.

Oh, and I was estranged from my parents. A bit over 7 years ago, my dad and I had a confrontation while I was paranoid and such, and I attacked him. I know...one of "those" mental patients. I just...I'd been electroshocked, I was having problems, lots of pressure, blah blah blah. No excuse, but...yeah.

Anyway, my parents have forgiven me. And...I don't have an arrest record for that incident (Praise God!), because I went to a Teen Challenge program and did some community service and med management+counseling. I know, I sound like a crazed criminal, but...this last time around, I got in trouble because of the harassment. It was worse before I moved back in here with my people. At the little apartment I was living in, people were vicious and would throw stuff at my place and yell about "he has a federal warrant...if I had one, I'd take a bunch of pills with some vodka...," stuff like that. Oh, that and some redneck dude would yell stuff like "do you feel the walls closing in on you? THIS IS WHAT POOR PEOPLE GO THROUGH!," etc. etc. etc.

I've rambled. Point is...I was expected to march off to prison or something. The version of events I've heard is "public defender, and the judge took pity on him...faggot!," or something like that. Yeah...ummmm....its South Carolina. "Uppity mental patients" don't fare well in the legal system. The only reason I care that people assume I'm a convicted felon is because they love tormenting me anyway, and if they think I have the big 'F' they will feel free to do more to me. Then again...maybe there's a reason God has allowed all these people to believe a lie about the situation (not that its their business, anyway) ? As in...if people knew that my parents hired a good lawyer who got the felony reduced to a (serious, class A) misdemeanor...what would they do? Cuz they're rough enough on me when they think its a felony and I was pitied into probation.

I've rambled, lol. That's the situation. Thaks for keeping up with me. :-)
 
Thanks.

Its strange...I would say that the problem is my past life, pre-Christ, but...no. I think everything was OK as long as I "knew my place in society" (its The Bible Belt, lol), but once I "got uppity," all Hell broke loose. Ugh.

I keep praying that God will give me what I need to forgive 70x7 and show love to my enemies. I honestly, truly, most definitely cannot do it myself. He's given me a sense of calm and a greater understanding of where they're coming from. Still, its not fun or pleasant or...honestly, its not something someone should have to deal with. This is a decent, quiet part of town, and those neighbors of mine spend a little too much time giving me a hassle, and they're awfully loud about it, too.

Thanks again.
 
thanks, Abbey.

I'm more secure now. I mean...I don't think I'm going to stay in this area past probation. I don't think my parents are going to stay around here much longer after that time, either. So...I'm not a member of this community. I don't think I'm going to be here long enough to put down roots, anyway. This place has never been good for me, its been cruel to my parents, too, and...yeah. I think I'm outta here in about 3 years.
 
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