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Reasons why women/men stay in abusive relationships

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1) Fear of the unknown
2) Fear of embarrassment
3) Replaying family history
4) For some reason some women love the "bad guy".Do men love the bad girl?
5) He or she lies
6) The person threatens

Got any other reasons?
 
They think they deserve it/ blame themselves for the abuse they receive.
 
Claudya said:
They think they deserve it/ blame themselves for the abuse they receive.
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Yes,low self esteem,lack of self respect.That is a good one Claudya :)
 
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Kathi said:
1) Fear of the unknown
2) Fear of embarrassment
3) Replaying family history
4) For some reason some women love the "bad guy".Do men love the bad girl?
5) He or she lies
6) The person threatens

Got any other reasons?
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Dependence on the abuser. I know a woman who is in an abusive relationship. She is disabled and wouldn't be able to live on her own, so she can't divorce him. He knows this and uses it to his advantage.

The TOG​
 
TOG said:
Dependence on the abuser. I know a woman who is in an abusive relationship. She is disabled and wouldn't be able to live on her own, so she can't divorce him. He knows this and uses it to his advantage.

The TOG​
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Yes,and also co-dependence.Their is actually a disorder of men and women who are so dependent of their partner it would scare them to death to leave them.
 
Sometimes they have seen their father abuse their mother and they think that is natural.
 
The bible says, "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in heavenly places." Ephesians 6:12 NKJV

Hebrews 12:25 says, "See to it that you do not refuse him who speaks." In other words God is talking to you. The worst the situation is the louder God is screaming at you. If God has allowed this chaos to get to you, what is He saying to you.

Jesus says, "ALL authority and power has been given to me in heaven and earth. If Jesus has allowed this chaos to get to you, SEE TO IT THAT YOU DO NOT REFUSE HIM WHO SPEAKS!!!!!

The scripture says, "And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. In other words it's a good thing but in a bad situation. It will give birth to new life.

SEE TO IT THAT YOU DO NOT REFUSE HIM WHO SPEAKS!!!!!
 
Christian woman stay because the Bible says they can't leave. Only temporary separations are allowed that in most cases don't do any good, so why do it. It's very dangerous to leave and going back is even more dangerous.
 
Deborah13 said:
Christian woman stay because the Bible says they can't leave. Only temporary separations are allowed that in most cases don't do any good, so why do it. It's very dangerous to leave and going back is even more dangerous.
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That is what I did because my SIL was telling me that Christian women do not leave their husbands no matter what.I was going to separate but the X said he wanted to continue seeing the other woman.So off to divorce court.
 
Some cultures support abusive behavior by men towards their wives; for the abused wife to leave could end up with her death as an 'honor killing'
 
agua. said:
Money/mammon
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Yes,I could have continued to have all that I wanted.My husband was weathy.He threw that in my face.He said he hoped that I ended up on the street.Well,here I am in a rental home with hardly anything to my name. :sohappy
 
Kathi said:
Yes,I could have continued to have all that I wanted.My husband was weathy.He threw that in my face.He said he hoped that I ended up on the street.Well,here I am in a rental home with hardly anything to my name. :sohappy
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Didn't you receive anything in the divorce ?
 
agua. said:
Didn't you receive anything in the divorce ?
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He had the big money for a very powerful attorney.Mine was just ok.Yes I received a little but not nearly as much as I could have.Yes,I got the house but he had been letting it go downhill for 3 years.Alot of things were broken including the A/C.The people who bought it got a heck of a deal.Then there are attorneys fees.Do you know how much an attorney costs?He hid close to a million somewhere.My attorney thought outside the US somewhere but that it would cost alot to find it.The kids stayed with me I had to support them.That costs alot.
 
A lot of marriages seem to have one abusive partner, one who doesn't know how to get out for whatever reason. Some marriages are abusive, but its more like shared misery kind of abuse, if that makes sense. I've seen it. People get enmeshed in this cycle of misery and sadness and lose contact with family and friends and...that's all they think/feel they have. Misery, shared with a significant other.
 
Christ_empowered said:
A lot of marriages seem to have one abusive partner, one who doesn't know how to get out for whatever reason. Some marriages are abusive, but its more like shared misery kind of abuse, if that makes sense. I've seen it. People get enmeshed in this cycle of misery and sadness and lose contact with family and friends and...that's all they think/feel they have. Misery, shared with a significant other.
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I have seen two people be so mean and cruel to each other but they would not get out of the relationship.They seem to enjoy making each others lives miserable....sick.
 
Kathi said:
I have seen two people be so mean and cruel to each other but they would not get out of the relationship.They seem to enjoy making each others lives miserable....sick.
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They sound like the couple in the movie "War of the Roses" ... nasty towards each other.
 
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