oi veh!
Apologetics is an orderly and logical presentation of WHY you believe WHAT you believe.
Most of the arguing I have seen here is more like what you have described: the man-made, conjured-up arguments of untrained, under-educated, logically challenged, people throwing "proof-text bombs" at each other while believing they have somehow proven a point. (Which goes to the argument in support of the continuation of miracles.)
Apologetics is generally done
properly by people who have been well educated in the faith, in scripture, in logic, and rhetoric as well as being fully conversant in the arguments against the faith. Thus they are prepared "
to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in" them.
(1Pe 3:15)
iakov the fool