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To make a woman happy

kiwidan said:
I have never known a woman to ask a guy how much he earns before or early in a relationship. They like to know what they do for a job, thats a fair general question, some probably make the decision there. Lol.
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it could just be for general conversation, I would think.
 
Yes, its a fair general question to ask what someone does for work, but many shallow people would judge there, or religion.
 
kiwidan said:
I have never known a woman to ask a guy how much he earns before or early in a relationship. They like to know what they do for a job, thats a fair general question, some probably make the decision there. Lol.
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Like I said, local trends differ and that is what is common here. And a lot of guys that spend a lot of time in the "pick up places" tell me they will blatantly ask you even before they know much of anything else about you. Of course exceptions are if they have already seen you have a $100,000 car or are wearing a top of the line suit. Asking about what kind of work you do is fine if it's to get to know you better, since what we do for a living many times shapes who we are. But when they do it just to see if you have a job that earns a lot of money, that's just as wrong. In this area, I think a lot of them are more interested in knowing so they can figure out if your income level is high enough.
 
Obadiah said:
Like I said, local trends differ and that is what is common here. And a lot of guys that spend a lot of time in the "pick up places" tell me they will blatantly ask you even before they know much of anything else about you. Of course exceptions are if they have already seen you have a $100,000 car or are wearing a top of the line suit. Asking about what kind of work you do is fine if it's to get to know you better, since what we do for a living many times shapes who we are. But when they do it just to see if you have a job that earns a lot of money, that's just as wrong. In this area, I think a lot of them are more interested in knowing so they can figure out if your income level is high enough.
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Please say that Christian women don't do this...
 
Free said:
Please say that Christian women don't do this...
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I was just thinking back on a sermon I heard a few years ago. The pastor was also a psychology major when he was in school, he's a very good teacher (would have probably made a great college professor) and was very rational and truthful in all of his sermons. (Yes, I actually heard every sermon he ever preached.) The subject of this sermon was dating among young adult Christians. He researched all kinds of polls and studies that were done and how the Bible instructed us. What I am remembering, and one thing that stood out and kind of surprised me at the time, was that while the number one requirement of Christian women (he was talking about active, believing Christian women, not just those who attended church sometimes) was that the man must be a Christian. The surprise was that after that, and VERY close behind was that he must have a job that was good enough to give her support and security. In other words, he had to be making enough money to give her money. So I think generally speaking there isn't really a whole lot of difference between Christian women and secular women on this subject. He emphasized several times that if you are a Christian man and want to date a Christian woman, GET A JOB!
 
Obadiah said:
I was just thinking back on a sermon I heard a few years ago. The pastor was also a psychology major when he was in school, he's a very good teacher (would have probably made a great college professor) and was very rational and truthful in all of his sermons. (Yes, I actually heard every sermon he ever preached.) The subject of this sermon was dating among young adult Christians. He researched all kinds of polls and studies that were done and how the Bible instructed us. What I am remembering, and one thing that stood out and kind of surprised me at the time, was that while the number one requirement of Christian women (he was talking about active, believing Christian women, not just those who attended church sometimes) was that the man must be a Christian. The surprise was that after that, and VERY close behind was that he must have a job that was good enough to give her support and security. In other words, he had to be making enough money to give her money. So I think generally speaking there isn't really a whole lot of difference between Christian women and secular women on this subject. He emphasized several times that if you are a Christian man and want to date a Christian woman, GET A JOB!
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I suppose that is true. Women do want security in that sort of thing. But I still can't get over the fact that they ask how much a man makes. If a Christian woman asked me that, I would wonder if she was Christian at all.
 
Free said:
I suppose that is true. Women do want security in that sort of thing. But I still can't get over the fact that they ask how much a man makes. If a Christian woman asked me that, I would wonder if she was Christian at all.
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Many of us do wonder.

There are exceptions. I've had the pleasure of knowing one. I actually felt strange to not be expected prove my worth financially. But they are few and far between.
 
Times have changed. Its not like the early days when mostly men worked and every man had a job and could provide for a family.
 
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I would believe that to be true. When a couple don't have much they can build a strong relationship because they support each other and grow together.

How many celebrity relationships last.
 
True. Money has never been an issue with us. What we have we consider to be each others. We like to do the same things, especially go to our favorite restaurant. We've been going there for five years. They got TVs a couple of years ago, and we jokingly say that we payed for them, lol!
 
You probably did pay for them. I wonder if people realise that when they see those big 1000 inch screens at church, or they think there tithe goes to pay bills and the rest goes to help the needy not buy 1000 inch TV screens.
 
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kiwidan said:
I have never known a woman to ask a guy how much he earns before or early in a relationship. They like to know what they do for a job, thats a fair general question, some probably make the decision there. Lol.
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To ask questions about what the guy does ain't altogether wrong. But to ask how much he worths or has sends the wrong signal: a gold digger
 
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Classik said:
...to ask how much he worth or has sends the wrong signal: a gold digger
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Yeah, but in some areas like where I live that's pretty much all you have to choose from. There are always exceptions. I know one. But around here guys usually only have 3 types to choose from. The gold diggers who are very common, married women looking for an affair, and undesirables that act and look like they are the cousin of a Sasquatch. Of course, this IS the Pacific Northwest, so some may actually be full blooded Sasquatches too. We just never know.
 
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