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[__ Prayer __] Togetherness

YosefHayim

YosefHayim

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I know Yah would never leave me, for I have been washed by the blood of Christ.

And I will exalt him all the days of my life.

There is simething that saddens me though. I joined a leadership program with my church. And were in second semester. I still haven't formed good relationships other than talking to people here and there. I'm just not feelin a "togetherness"

Someone told me they saw a change in me, but I don't know if I feel it.

And I know it's me. I have trouble opening up. I feel terrible every time because everyone else knows how to have conversations, even more so in groups.

After one of my chapels that we had to do, someone asked me asked me why I never talk. I didn't really have an answer.

And then their is another girl that has on numerous times showed much kindness. Even tapping my hand. I've never really had much physical contact like that. It meant a lot to me , bit yet I still end up seeming aloof.

I thought of leaving, but I entered something. And I want to keep puttin my faith in Jesus to let him use me to prove his glory.

I know I need to put action.

One day I tried talking to the nice girl.

It didn't even work. I didn't know what to say. I didn't say much. Later all I could do is doubt my self. I felt stupid, embarrassed, shameful, as though she may have not cared or had interest. I felt withdrawn, like I wanted to hide. Almost like I had a shock to the system by talking to her.

I keep asking Jesus to fill me with burning compassion and Christ-like altruism.

Some days I have trouble with motivation. And I don't want to be jealous of others bein in groups socializing joyfully.
 
You are a work of art in the process, YosefHayim . Our Lord is crafting you into the adult He wishes you to be.

It's wonderful you have joined a leadership program at your church. And it is equally marvelous that another has noticed your growth. Our Lord's hand is obvious here, guiding you along the proper path. You are changing ... you just don't recognize it as yet. Don't be concerned... you will see how far you have come, when our Lord shows you.

In the meanwhile, don't fret about the lack of 'togetherness' with the rest of the group. You are shy & reticent. In time, these will not be as consuming as they seem now, because our Lord's work continue with you.

Something you might consider: If you know in advance what the next session's topic will be, read through and pray about the material, and write a list of questions or observations you have about the material. During class, at the appropriate times, share what you have written. After the gathering, stand with one of the groups and ask what they felt was the most essential aspect of the material covered during that particular session. Or suggest that before the next session, everyone get together - whether for a bite to eat or a more casual, appetizer sort of get-together - and talk about the program is covering and how you (as a group) can apply the information.

Don't rush anything... just take your time. You are a work of art in the process - not the final masterpiece as yet!
 
AirDancer said:
You are a work of art in the process, YosefHayim .

Something you might consider: If you know in advance what the next session's topic will be, read through and pray about the material, and write a list of questions or observations you have about the material. During class, at the appropriate times, share what you have written. After the gathering, stand with one of the groups and ask what they felt was the most essential aspect of the material covered during that particular session. Or suggest that before the next session, everyone get together - whether for a bite to eat or a more casual, appetizer sort of get-together - and talk about the program is covering and how you (as a group) can apply the information.
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That's the thing. I've been going to this church 2 years and haven't hung out with anyone outside of church/biblestudy/etc... other than once or twice. I'm always silent. I can barely talk to another person, let alone suggest a whole get together and lunch.
 
I imagine you're already praying that you'll be given the right words to say at the right time. If you are, continue doing so, for our Lord does hear our prayers. Also, pray that He strengthens you in order to overcome your hesitancy when around others. While not all of us are meant to be great orators, we are to be comfortable being with others so we can share the news, love, mercy & grace of our Lord. Believe firmly and know within your heart that our Lord will answer & bless you.
 
I went to a Church for a long time.A large Church.I did several different things to get to know people and get aquainted.They were just a tight group.Alot of cliques.They would not open up their group.Sad but true.
 
Kathi said:
I went to a Church for a long time.A large Church.I did several different things to get to know people and get aquainted.They were just a tight group.Alot of cliques.They would not open up their group.Sad but true.
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Do you keep in touch at least privately with some of them?

Blessings.
 
YosefHayim said:
I know Yah would never leave me, for I have been washed by the blood of Christ.

And I will exalt him all the days of my life.

There is simething that saddens me though. I joined a leadership program with my church. And were in second semester. I still haven't formed good relationships other than talking to people here and there. I'm just not feelin a "togetherness"

Someone told me they saw a change in me, but I don't know if I feel it.

And I know it's me. I have trouble opening up. I feel terrible every time because everyone else knows how to have conversations, even more so in groups.

After one of my chapels that we had to do, someone asked me asked me why I never talk. I didn't really have an answer.

And then their is another girl that has on numerous times showed much kindness. Even tapping my hand. I've never really had much physical contact like that. It meant a lot to me , bit yet I still end up seeming aloof.

I thought of leaving, but I entered something. And I want to keep puttin my faith in Jesus to let him use me to prove his glory.

I know I need to put action.

One day I tried talking to the nice girl.

It didn't even work. I didn't know what to say. I didn't say much. Later all I could do is doubt my self. I felt stupid, embarrassed, shameful, as though she may have not cared or had interest. I felt withdrawn, like I wanted to hide. Almost like I had a shock to the system by talking to her.

I keep asking Jesus to fill me with burning compassion and Christ-like altruism.

Some days I have trouble with motivation. And I don't want to be jealous of others bein in groups socializing joyfully.
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Dear Brother Yosef, it may take time to discover your gifts, and we read in Pro 18:16 A man's gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men.

We are not all preachers, teachers, or even speakers of tongues, but God has given each of us a gift and you will see it profit to edifying where God's plan for you is. Now that does not mean to me that we can't be involved as you are now, or that because you may not be an evangelist that you can't be a witness to others. We walk in the light and God powerfully takes that which is His and blesses others through the gifts He gives us. Do not be discouraged as you learn of Him and grow in grace and knowledge of Christ. You will be prospered in the way in the things of God to His glory. Your concern for your walk will be a blessing to any church you become active in.

Blessings in Christ Jesus. :)
 
Kathi said:
I went to a Church for a long time.A large Church.I did several different things to get to know people and get aquainted.They were just a tight group.Alot of cliques.They would not open up their group.Sad but true.
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PS: True fellowship is about walking in the light as the Lord Jesus is in the light; as John's First Epistle says, 'Truly our fellowship is with the Father and with His Son Jesus Christ' (1 John 1.3).

So the fact that we have this great, common interest means that we want to walk together.

Blessings.
 
I will pray that God will give you peace in your heart so that you may be able to open up and befriend others :)
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I will pray that they befriend you!
 
YosefHayim said:
After one of my chapels that we had to do, someone asked me asked me why I never talk. I didn't really have an answer.
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Jas 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:

Jas 3:8 But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.

Gday Yosef it sounds like you have a headstart on many people ! Maybe put your silence to good use and listen intently; then when you know who you are talking to give a well thought reply. Also it's good to ask questions it gets the conversation rolling and shows you are truly interested in a person.
 
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