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Whacking Your Child

Lewis

Lewis

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I believe in corporal punishment when it is called for in raising a child. I saw a show where Dr Phill was going off on people who gave their children a spanking for being bad. The Bible tells us to do so when it is needed, and still many Christians have taken a secular world view, on this issue. These Christians are appalled at any Christian that whacks their children. Used in the right way whacking your children when it is called for will give you great results. Because when you have to do so you are well within your God given rights. When I was growing up my dad and mom tore my tale up when they had to. I see kids in the supermarket acting up and the mother keeps saying stop that Kevin and little Kevin falls out on the floor and won't get up, and then when little Kevin does get up, he throws a can of soup at his mother. Well I am here to tell you if he was mine he would get it right then and there. My oldest son use to do that to his mother's grand mother, but if I had caught him doing it, he would not have did it again. If you don't chastise these kids in the proper Biblical way they grow up to be crooks. I know that some kids are just pure evil, but do your part as the Bible tells you. And that is if you have to, tear their tales up. I see kids cussing the parents in the supermarket, I have seen mothers tie a rope around the kids belt so that the child does not wander off. Not me because my kid will not behave like that, because he or she would know, that I would whip their behinds. When I was coming up unless I did something to outlandish my dad would always warn us first, sometimes a couple of times, but that third time we caught hell. But if I did something real outlandish their was no warnings, you got your tale kicked. Today's kids can call the cops on you and you might go to jail, because of secular law. Secular law has not a clue, that is why the jails are overrun.
 
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Yup, don't see the big deal about hitting kids. Worked for me. Did something wrong I got a spanking... After the age of 8 or so I never got another spanking, but I also never did anything that required one. I mean talked back now and then and did some dumb things, but nothing really that bad, I was afraid of upsetting my dad, so I would say it worked.
 
i got not spankings, but whoppings


my mom got abusive at times....

still to this day she has issues with anger


but i still agree with corporal punishments....

my mom left scars emotional, mental, physical, and ignored some sexual
 
Pard said:
Yup, don't see the big deal about hitting kids. Worked for me. Did something wrong I got a spanking... After the age of 8 or so I never got another spanking, but I also never did anything that required one. I mean talked back now and then and did some dumb things, but nothing really that bad, I was afraid of upsetting my dad, so I would say it worked.
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From the people that I know, and the experiences I have had and seen, corporeal punishment doesn't really solve much. It creates a system in which the child usually just pretends to be good to avoid getting caught, but the underlying behaviour stays the same.
 
Oats you was talking about getting beatings and then you said something about sexual, that is what I was talking about because it was not clear what you were saying.
 
Lewis W said:
Oats you was talking about getting beatings and then you said something about sexual, that is what I was talking about because it was not clear what you were saying.
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read the post more clearly


that is some of the abuse i suffered

not to complain

read the post
 
it's not bad to punish your kids physically but there is a limit
 
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I have no problem with spanking, and I used the option when my kids were younger. This option needs to be harnessed, though. The first rule is, don't spank out of anger. Take a moment to settle yourself, and walk away for a moment if you have to. Approach the child and explain what he (or she) did wrong and why you are spanking him. After spanking him, I always tried to remember to give him or her a hug and tell them I still love them but their behavior was unacceptable.

I also only used this option when they were purposefully defiant with me. If they were disobeying out of a lack of self-control, I used other options. For instance, if I told my son or daughter not to do something and he or she looked straight at me and proceeded to do it, that's when I spanked.

I believe the most important thing here is to avoid acting out of anger, because this is what can lead to crossing the line in abuse. The parent needs to be in a good state of mind. The only exception would be if the child puts his life or safety in danger (runs out in the road or grabs a knife). I think a quick negative response is in order here.
 
Lewis W said:
Well besides me being a fan of hers nothing, did you get offended or something ?
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No, I was not offended. It just felt like there was a subtext with the chin-scratching emoticons, that I wasn't quite getting.
 
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The problem with hitting your kid as punishment is that they may well see that as a way of resolving there disputes with there parents. My mum used to hit me when I was young until one time when I was 8 she hit me and I didn't cry I ignored the hit and I said "Hit me again and I will hit you back."

She still found ways of punishing me beyond that very effectively I might add but she didn't hit me, What's important is the respect for the parent and hitting can undermine that I feel.
 
Pebbles said:
The problem with hitting your kid as punishment is that they may well see that as a way of resolving there disputes with there parents. My mum used to hit me when I was young until one time when I was 8 she hit me and I didn't cry I ignored the hit and I said "Hit me again and I will hit you back."

She still found ways of punishing me beyond that very effectively I might add but she didn't hit me, What's important is the respect for the parent and hitting can undermine that I feel.
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This is exactly why it's important how this is carried out. If it's done, not in anger or out of emotion, but with a calm deliberate explanation of why it's being done and you give them a hug after, telling them you love them, it can have a very meaningful impact.

Personally, I don't like to see words like "whack", "hit", "beat", etc. being used to describe a spanking.
 
I have a friend down the street who is having trouble out of her daughters the one that is grown she had to put her out last week behind her disrespect, and the 15 year old is talking back to her in a disrespectful way, their father is dead. One time the mother had to break the oldest ones arm she is 23, she is the one that got put out last week, after telling the mother that she was not going anywhere. So the mother went and got a court order, and the cops made her leave. Now that 15 year old, I would plain and simple knock her down if she was my daughter, no questions asked. This is what happens when you don't show them who's the boss while they are little. My dad had to kick my tale 2 times while I was grown, one time in front of my first wife, because I was out of control, from alcohol and drugs. Yup I disrespected him, and the next thing I knew, I was lying down looking up at a nice view of the stars, and I was grown about 26 years old. You see people of old or times past dealt with their kids the way the Bible told them to. The jails is filled up because people like Dr Phill tell you not to hit your kids. I say take their heads off only when you have to.
 
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