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Is It Alright For A Woman to Propose to A Man?

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Garion said:
I don't see it happening very often but I think that it would be great,this kind of progressiveness I can dig.
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Good post! I actually wasn't expecting that kind of a response especially from a guy. Please don't take offense to that by the way, but a lot of the guys on here aren't for equal rights.
 
Do you really want to have this discussion here where members need to meet the criteria of this forum to respond? Seems like some members might have opinions who don't.
 
Mike said:
Do you really want to have this discussion here where members need to meet the criteria of this forum to respond? Seems like some members might have opinions who don't.
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I'm sorry, but I don't understand what you are trying to say. Huh?
 
HeIsRisen2018 said:
I'm sorry, but I don't understand what you are trying to say. Huh?
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I was just saying the Marriage & Parenting Forum is restricted to members who have been or are married or who have children. Some members might not qualify but would still like to weigh in. I don't know that a person has to meet this forum's criteria to offer an opinion.

The purpose of this forum is to discuss matters with people who can speak with experience, being/been married or having children. I was just throwing the idea out there that it might not be important to have this first hand experience to have an opinion on this.
 
Mike said:
I was just saying the Marriage & Parenting Forum is restricted to members who have been or are married or who have children. Some members might not qualify but would still like to weigh in. I don't know that a person has to meet this forum's criteria to offer an opinion.

The purpose of this forum is to discuss matters with people who can speak with experience, being/been married or having children. I was just throwing the idea out there that it might not be important to have this first hand experience to have an opinion on this.
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You forgot engaged, but you can move it to a different forum if you found that to be more appropriate. I don't mind.
 
Now that I think of it, it would probably be better to move it if you can so that way everybody can take part in it.
 
I am married with six children, four who are married, and five grandchildren so far.
In my case and my children's the men asked the women. After getting the father's assent to ask. We only have one daughter. I appreciated that her then boyfriend came to me to ask my permission to ask my daughter to marry him. It gave me the formal opportunity to set some boundaries.They were in their senior year of college. I said they could become engaged but they could not set a date until he could prove to me he would be able to support her. She planned on teaching but I wanted to set the bar high on his having worked hard to prepare for marriage and eventual fatherhood.
Maybe I am old fashioned but things have worked out.
He was a bit smug about having gotten my permission and her acceptance. In a conversation with her shortly after he asked my daughter, "What would you have done if your father hadn't approved?"
He expected "elope" or something like that.
My daughter replied "Well then you wouldn't be here right now",
That took some of the wind out of his sails!
 
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Kind of a complicated situation, but really if any woman would even consider proposing to a man I would wonder what is going on with the man if he 1) loves the woman and 2) hasn't already done it himself. If the former isn't true than the answer is obvious, but if it is true then there must be some other issue as to why he hasn't.

Traditionally, and historically, it is the duty of the man to ask, and to go through the process that Bull of the Woods mentioned.
 
Bull of the Woods said:
I am married with six children, four who are married, and five grandchildren so far.
In my case and my children's the men asked the women. After getting the father's assent to ask. We only have one daughter. I appreciated that her then boyfriend came to me to ask my permission to ask my daughter to marry him. It gave me the formal opportunity to set some boundaries.They were in their senior year of college. I said they could become engaged but they could not set a date until he could prove to me he would be able to support her. She planned on teaching but I wanted to set the bar high on his having worked hard to prepare for marriage and eventual fatherhood.
Maybe I am old fashioned but things have worked out.
He was a bit smug about having gotten my permission and her acceptance. In a conversation with her shorty after he asked my daughter, "What would you have done if your father hadn't approved?"
He expected "elope" or something like that.
My daughter replied "Well then you wouldn't be here right now",
That took some of the wind out of his sails!
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Not many do that now over here. But yes a very good way.
 
And in the US we, at least I, think of the British as being more traditional than us. Funny.
My three sons that have married thus far also talked to my wife and I about their intentions to ask their girlfriends to marry them. It wasn't exactly asking permission but seeking our approval.
But we were very pleased with their choices and it was not a dramatic thing anyway.
 
Well in most cases a couple tentatively starts mentioning and discussing the idea some time before an actual proposal. If either is literally surprising the other with a proposal out of the blue that's kind of odd.
I personally am not a fan of very quick impulsive romances. Despite the fact my parents married two weeks after meeting and stayed happily married until my father died fifty three years later.
 
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