Young persons today are worried and afraid to get married because they see all the divorce around them and feel their marriage will also not last.
This was not true in the past. Women and men were happier to be married.
Some couples live together to make sure that they're compatible.
It's been found that there is a higher percentage rate of divorce among these couples once they get married.
Why do you believe that is?
Why are couples not getting married as eagerly today?
What makes a good marriage that will last till the end?
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The answers are easy, but the doing is difficult.
Obviously, for a marriage to be truly successful, you need 2 who are successful regarding their Christianity.
And this way, you have a "Christ centered" marriage, and when that is in place, then let the gates of hell roar.
But how many actually do this?
Its about the same number as the number of Christians who actually have Christ centered lives.
Answer: some.
See, this is easy to understand, but its not easy to do > Consistently.
And the key to any type of success is consistency in the right measures.
Some people, for example, are consistent at living like the devil, and they are very accomplished.
So, if you want a happy marriage, then you need one that offers a few things, once you get the relationship grounded in Jesus.
You need for example to understand the 1st and most profound rule regarding what makes any relationship you have, in life, with another person, successful.
This rule applies, especially of course, to the wedding relationship.
This rule is.....1.) Find out what the other person loves, and do that......while you also find out what they can't stand and don't do that".
The idea is, to make each other happy,... this is the goal, and to not make each other unhappy is the goal.
Both.
See, born again people can live happily in poverty or riches as long as they have one person in their life who they enjoy, and who they love to be with, who understands how to satisfy them.,... as not being satisfied in life is the issue that plagues most people.
This grinds you down.
Then there is the fact that, when you are talking about "young love" and young people getting married..
Well, most young people, including most young people who go to church, are having sex.
And the issue with this, is that when you are young, sex is a very powerful consumption, and because wisdom and youth are not a good match, a young person will confuse sex with love.
They confuse sex...with love, and that is always going to lead to a bad marriage, as so many young get married because they have confused sex with love, and then.... once they are married and the sex becomes "marriage sex" and "common", they will wake up one day, no longer owned and blinded by the power of the physical interplay and think to themselves.."who is this that i married, .. i dont know them".. "im sleeping with a stranger who has my wedding ring".
Then, the real problems start that typically lead to a bad ending.
Also, there is the issue of managing money.
Oh what a difficult thing to have to learn how to do when you are a newly wed and are not yet 22 yrs old.
"Money issues" are the #1 issue in most marriages, along with communication issues.
And finally, if you are a young reader who is reading this thread and are wondering about how to find the best mate, or you think you have found them, and are wondering about that next step...
I've advice for you...
Determine accurately if you enjoy the conversation that your "Love" is giving you when you are together a lot.
Do you enjoy listening to them talk?
Is this pleasant? Do you look forward to hearing them talk? Do find them always to be interesting and engaging?
This is very important, as if you dont...if you find their conversation to be dumb, grinding, boring, and worse, then consider how you will be feeling the next 30 yrs you are married to them, if you already hate their conversation?
"wisdom"...
"key".
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