WHAT MAKES A GOOD MARRIAGE?

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Vaccine said:
In my opinion, a good marriage is he result of being good at relationships in general. Poor relationship skills as a child makes for poor marriages. Marriage is the consequence of a good relationship.
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This is true.

Formula for a ruinous marriage:

Never forgive, and always remember everything that your spouse has ever done against you, before and after you were married. Even if they aren't that same person who did those things anymore.

Don't do anything for your spouse unless they deserve it, unless you just have to do it.

Do or say whatever you have to so as to never be less than perfect or at fault, or inferior to your spouse in some way. Always maintain superiority in all areas over your spouse.

Blame them for your unhappiness. And make sure to always let them know, whether verbally, or non-verbally, that they could have done better and that you're constantly looking for better.

Show no empathy for your spouse's weaknesses or shortcomings.

Demand that your spouse give you their full attention and love, because they owe it to you.

Be envious and bitter if your spouse's life is perceived by you as being better and more comfortable than yours.

Always make it a point to be dressed up for strangers, and never do that for your spouse.

Have I left anything out?
 
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Jethro Bodine said:
This is true.

Formula for a ruinous marriage:

Never forgive, and always remember everything that your spouse has ever done against you, before and after you were married. Even if they aren't that same person who did those things anymore.

Don't do anything for your spouse unless they deserve it, unless you just have to do it.

Do or say whatever you have to so as to never be less than perfect or at fault, or inferior to your spouse in some way. Always maintain superiority in all areas over your spouse.

Blame them for your unhappiness. And make sure to always let them know, whether verbally, or non-verbally, that they could have done better and that you're constantly looking for better.

Show no empathy for your spouse's weaknesses or shortcomings.

Demand that your spouse give you their full attention and love, because they owe it to you.

Be envious and bitter if your spouse's life is perceived by you as being better and more comfortable than yours.

Always make it a point to be dressed up for strangers, and never do that for your spouse.

Have I left anything out?
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Nope. All that makes for a ruinous marriage. It also makes for a ruinous friendship.

Good relationship skills apply to marriage, bosses, friends, and family.
 
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The formula for a good marriage starts with 'always be dating'.

Marriage seems to be the time when many couples think they can stop being thoughtful and respectful to one another - the thoughtfulness and respect and polite distance from one another that made the relationship mysterious, exciting, and romantic. 🥰
 
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Mutual respect, compassion, trust. Sharing the same morals and values. If views differ, married couples need to be able to agree to disagree.

I also think it’s important to work as team especially when there are children involved.

Married couples should also support and encourage each other to achieve their aspirations and goals.
 
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Fastfredy0 said:
My wife won't let me date ... she won't even let me apply for a dancing gig at Chippendales ... I'll have to fine something else to do in my retirement.
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Sounds like a tough cookie.
But I have my ways...

Chippendales huh?
Better get to work.
 
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Jethro Bodine said:
This is true.

Formula for a ruinous marriage:

Never forgive, and always remember everything that your spouse has ever done against you, before and after you were married. Even if they aren't that same person who did those things anymore.

Don't do anything for your spouse unless they deserve it, unless you just have to do it.

Do or say whatever you have to so as to never be less than perfect or at fault, or inferior to your spouse in some way. Always maintain superiority in all areas over your spouse.

Blame them for your unhappiness. And make sure to always let them know, whether verbally, or non-verbally, that they could have done better and that you're constantly looking for better.

Show no empathy for your spouse's weaknesses or shortcomings.

Demand that your spouse give you their full attention and love, because they owe it to you.

Be envious and bitter if your spouse's life is perceived by you as being better and more comfortable than yours.

Always make it a point to be dressed up for strangers, and never do that for your spouse.

Have I left anything out?
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Oh. I know.
If it's something pretty darn serious,
Always make sure the arguing goes on for at least 2 or 3 days.
This way, you'll have a good memory of it for next time it comes up.


Great post.
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wondering said:
Agreed 100%


(Are you avx?)
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I losing the context here so I went back to post #5 in which Wondering first brings up AVX.

I think she asking if I am in Adult Videos .... implying that is good for a marriage. I'm so confused.
I may need a marriage counselor to attend to me after this thread. TY Wondering
 
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Fastfredy0 said:
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I losing the context here so I went back to post #5 in which Wondering first brings up AVX.

I think she asking if I am in Adult Videos .... implying that is good for a marriage. I'm so confused.
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Maybe it’s Audio Visual Expert, which would be good for a marriage, being able to pick up on all those clues.
 
Fastfredy0 said:
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I losing the context here so I went back to post #5 in which Wondering first brings up AVX.

I think she asking if I am in Adult Videos .... implying that is good for a marriage. I'm so confused.
I may need a marriage counselor to attend to me after this thread. TY Wondering
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You got your answer in post 45. Why are you keeping this question active when you already have an answer?
 
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