WHAT MAKES A GOOD MARRIAGE?

[Jethro Bodine]

In my opinion, a good marriage is he result of being good at relationships in general. Poor relationship skills as a child makes for poor marriages. Marriage is the consequence of a good relationship.

This is true.

Formula for a ruinous marriage:

Never forgive, and always remember everything that your spouse has ever done against you, before and after you were married. Even if they aren't that same person who did those things anymore.

Don't do anything for your spouse unless they deserve it, unless you just have to do it.

Do or say whatever you have to so as to never be less than perfect or at fault, or inferior to your spouse in some way. Always maintain superiority in all areas over your spouse.

Blame them for your unhappiness. And make sure to always let them know, whether verbally, or non-verbally, that they could have done better and that you're constantly looking for better.

Show no empathy for your spouse's weaknesses or shortcomings.

Demand that your spouse give you their full attention and love, because they owe it to you.

Be envious and bitter if your spouse's life is perceived by you as being better and more comfortable than yours.

Always make it a point to be dressed up for strangers, and never do that for your spouse.

Have I left anything out?

 

[Vaccine]

This is true.

Formula for a ruinous marriage:

Never forgive, and always remember everything that your spouse has ever done against you, before and after you were married. Even if they aren't that same person who did those things anymore.

Don't do anything for your spouse unless they deserve it, unless you just have to do it.

Do or say whatever you have to so as to never be less than perfect or at fault, or inferior to your spouse in some way. Always maintain superiority in all areas over your spouse.

Blame them for your unhappiness. And make sure to always let them know, whether verbally, or non-verbally, that they could have done better and that you're constantly looking for better.

Show no empathy for your spouse's weaknesses or shortcomings.

Demand that your spouse give you their full attention and love, because they owe it to you.

Be envious and bitter if your spouse's life is perceived by you as being better and more comfortable than yours.

Always make it a point to be dressed up for strangers, and never do that for your spouse.

Have I left anything out?

Nope. All that makes for a ruinous marriage. It also makes for a ruinous friendship.

Good relationship skills apply to marriage, bosses, friends, and family.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

The formula for a good marriage starts with 'always be dating'.

Marriage seems to be the time when many couples think they can stop being thoughtful and respectful to one another - the thoughtfulness and respect and polite distance from one another that made the relationship mysterious, exciting, and romantic. ?

 

[Welshlady38]

Mutual respect, compassion, trust. Sharing the same morals and values. If views differ, married couples need to be able to agree to disagree.

I also think it’s important to work as team especially when there are children involved.

Married couples should also support and encourage each other to achieve their aspirations and goals.

 

[Fastfredy0]

Fastfredy0 said:
??? what's that (AVX)

Anti-vax.

really? gee, I thought wondering said it means "available"

Aside: I very happy I didn't get the clot shot .... just read Lebron James 18 year old son had a heart attack.

 

[Fastfredy0]

The formula for a good marriage starts with 'always be dating'.

My wife won't let me date ... she won't even let me apply for a dancing gig at Chippendales ... I'll have to fine something else to do in my retirement.

 

[Jethro Bodine]

My wife won't let me date ... she won't even let me apply for a dancing gig at Chippendales ... I'll have to fine something else to do in my retirement.

Have you broke the news to wondering yet?

 

[GodsGrace]

Fastfredy0 said:
??? what's that (AVX)

really? gee, I thought wondering said it means "available"

Aside: I very happy I didn't get the clot shot .... just read Lebron James 18 year old son had a heart attack.

Oh what does Free know?
He's a youngster.
Knee high to a grasshopper.

Ask any secy what avx means.
She'll tell you.

(Free was just kidding)

 

[GodsGrace]

My wife won't let me date ... she won't even let me apply for a dancing gig at Chippendales ... I'll have to fine something else to do in my retirement.

Sounds like a tough cookie.
But I have my ways...

Chippendales huh?
Better get to work.

 

[GodsGrace]

This is true.

Formula for a ruinous marriage:

Never forgive, and always remember everything that your spouse has ever done against you, before and after you were married. Even if they aren't that same person who did those things anymore.

Don't do anything for your spouse unless they deserve it, unless you just have to do it.

Do or say whatever you have to so as to never be less than perfect or at fault, or inferior to your spouse in some way. Always maintain superiority in all areas over your spouse.

Blame them for your unhappiness. And make sure to always let them know, whether verbally, or non-verbally, that they could have done better and that you're constantly looking for better.

Show no empathy for your spouse's weaknesses or shortcomings.

Demand that your spouse give you their full attention and love, because they owe it to you.

Be envious and bitter if your spouse's life is perceived by you as being better and more comfortable than yours.

Always make it a point to be dressed up for strangers, and never do that for your spouse.

Have I left anything out?

Oh. I know.
If it's something pretty darn serious,
Always make sure the arguing goes on for at least 2 or 3 days.
This way, you'll have a good memory of it for next time it comes up.


Great post.

 

[Free]

Oh what does Free know?
He's a youngster.
Knee high to a grasshopper.

Ask any secy what avx means.
She'll tell you.

(Free was just kidding)

Since when is 6 foot 4 inches knee high to a grasshopper? Lol

 

[GodsGrace]

Since when is 6 foot 4 inches knee high to a grasshopper? Lol

When you're making a point on a Christian forum!

 

[Fastfredy0]

Oh what does @Free know?
He's a youngster.
Knee high to a grasshopper.

Ask any secy what avx means.
She'll tell you.

O.K. ... I google it and got ?:


.... I'm so confused.

 

[Free]

O.K. ... I google it and got ?:

View attachment 15487
.... I'm so confused.

That does not make a good marriage.

 

[Fastfredy0]

That does not make a good marriage.

I'm being to wonder about wondering .... you guys may need to add to the Terms of Service .... I don't think this (see post 53) is covered.

 

[Fastfredy0]

Agreed 100%


(Are you avx?)

Free
I losing the context here so I went back to post #5 in which Wondering first brings up AVX.

I think she asking if I am in Adult Videos .... implying that is good for a marriage. I'm so confused.
I may need a marriage counselor to attend to me after this thread. TY Wondering

 

[Free]

Free
I losing the context here so I went back to post #5 in which Wondering first brings up AVX.

I think she asking if I am in Adult Videos .... implying that is good for a marriage. I'm so confused.

Maybe it’s Audio Visual Expert, which would be good for a marriage, being able to pick up on all those clues.

 

[Fastfredy0]

Maybe it’s Audio Visual Expert, which would be good for a marriage, being able to pick up on all those clues.

Hey, you can be wondering s lawyer when this goes to the Terms of Service inquiry. That a great cover story; I almost believe it.

 

[Paul Timothy]

Free
I losing the context here so I went back to post #5 in which Wondering first brings up AVX.

I think she asking if I am in Adult Videos .... implying that is good for a marriage. I'm so confused.
I may need a marriage counselor to attend to me after this thread. TY Wondering

You got your answer in post 45. Why are you keeping this question active when you already have an answer?

 

[Fastfredy0]

Why are you keeping this question active when you already have an answer?

Because we like to give wondering a hard time. *giggle*